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    Default Camming, 40, and a whole heap of fear about the future.

    I don't know how to really start this and didn't know where to put this but Life support seemed like a good place.. First of all let me start with a bit of background. I'm near 40, have had a few long term relationships (None more than 9 1/2 years) in which I was supported financially but never had to really earn my own living. I suffer from Bi Polar depression, terrible anxiety and it has made a serious impact not only on my personal life, but my financial earnings throughout life and I know when the time comes and I can no longer work I will have no social security income, or other retirement to live off of. I have no family, I have no friends to offer support morally or financially so it's all up to me to make things better. I'm not an educated woman with many options available for work especially in the area I live in and I always come back to camming. Now with new medication I can finally see the light of the end of the tunnel and I am getting the drive to work for the first time in my life and I guess what I'm looking for is a little reassurance that it's not too late for me to turn things around. I must also admit I'm afraid.

    I do wish I would of got to this point earlier in life, but comfort myself that I'm getting it now and things could be a lot worse. I do believe camming will be around for many years and evolve and I'd like to evolve with it. Any suggestions how I can get over my fears and just go for a better life? Up to now I felt like a loser. I just keep repeating all the negativity I've heard in my life in my mind. I can't focus on my good qualities. I'm paralyzed by fear and indecision. Can someone be afraid of success and good things happening to/for them? Any help/point of view would be appreciated.
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    Default Re: Camming, 40, and a whole heap of fear about the future.

    I'm just gonna assume you're seeing a therapist. CBT is the bomb for your situation.

    My first thought here is...you're 40. That's not old AT ALL. Many people switch careers in their 40s, and many have not started to save for retirement at all. You'll still make 40 quarters for SS in 10 years. You have loads of time.

    Don't worry. Worrying will just hold you back. There's a big market for camgirls in their 40s, 50s, 60s, hell even 70s. Probably will continue to grow too as millenials get older and live longer.

    Don't be afraid of success and don't be afraid of hard work. Failure is *part* of success. Good luck!
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    It's never too late to turn things around! My cousin is in her mid 40's and just finished school to be a nurse after being a stay at home mom all her life. (Luckily she has a supportive spouse but you get what I mean.) She's happy and making good $$. You should look into vocational schools and community colleges around you, talk to an advisor and see if there's anything you're interested in. Apply for financial aid and acquire a skill. If you feel like your bipolar disorder would prevent you from working a "normal" job, and want to phase out of camming, you can always sell on ebay, etsy, and/or Amazon which is what I've done between dancing. I'm not 40, I just turned 30 but like you I've depended on S.O's for most of my adult life and for a long time stripping was the only way I knew to make money without a man. There are plenty of other options; just keep your head up and PM me if you have any questions.

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    You sound like you're in a similar situation to me... anxiety makes certain jobs difficult and you don't live near a lot of work opportunities. I'm personally trying to find a job online, and there are lots of great vanilla jobs/part-time gigs. I'll attach a link to a sticky thread on the "Other Work" section... scroll down and you'll see a big list of jobs/ways to make an income.

    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...From-Home-Opps

    In some ways, it is better to work for an employer due to tax and health insurance reasons. You wind up paying the government more if you work for yourself. Definitely check out what jobs are available near you... some of the best job sites are indeed.com, monster.com, jobing.com, and of course craigslist.com.

    If the opportunity is available where you live, then I also totally agree about acquiring a skill at a vocational school. Consider what type of job you want... are you okay with being on your feet all day? Socializing a lot? Having your income based on sales? Would you rather do your job mostly on the internet? That will help you narrow down the types of jobs you'd actually enjoy. If you're wondering what a job would be like, try googling or searching youtube for peoples' experiences -- there is SO much information out there about various careers.

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    I have thought of furthering my education, but the truth is I was never one for school. I never had the focus needed for it and I don't want to take out student loans I can never pay back. I have looked for and applied for what few jobs are available. In this small town you have to be related to someone or know the right people to be hired for anything, all cliques I don't fit into. Funny thing was when my camming was starting to look up for me awhile back, my neighbors underage son stumbled into my chatroom and decided it would be fun to harass me. I called him out and banned him but the damage was done. Rumors spread about me around town like wildfire and the slut shaming began and I retreated within myself, they had gotten the best of me for the time being. I felt damned if I do, damned if I didn't do anything. This year especially I realized I can't depend on anyone but myself and these assholes aren't paying my bills so I'm quite literally out of fucks to give. I love camming, it's always been there for me. Any other job would have fired me for my episodes of depression, mood swings, anxiety.

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    Have you thought about massage therapy? I hear you that school isn't your thing. Massage school is very hands-on, short-term (like, eight months), and the studying parts are very doable for non-traditional students. There are some other career paths out there with similar schooling times and costs - like dental hygiene.

    A Pell Grant could really help you get going - it's for students who don't have undergraduate degrees (in other words, grad students can't apply), and the money can be used for massage-therapy school. It's a significant amount - it would cover more than half of your schooling costs. http://www2.ed.gov/programs/fpg/index.html

    Remember, going into a little bit of debt isn't a bad thing if your career path is solid. Massage therapy is in the healthcare sector, and there is plenty of demand out there (it's easy to find a job - most students have jobs secured before they graduate). It pays very decently, and you can work part or full time.

    Just a thought.


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    I'm 48 and do pretty well as a cam and phone sex worker. Degrees are nice, some clients like to hear about your education but in my experience as a stripper, escort, phone sex and cam model, the most important aspects are your willingness to advertise on social media, your imagination and creativity. That is the baseline, looking as healthy as possible and good equipment are right after. PM me if you want to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    Have you thought about massage therapy? I hear you that school isn't your thing. Massage school is very hands-on, short-term (like, eight months), and the studying parts are very doable for non-traditional students. There are some other career paths out there with similar schooling times and costs - like dental hygiene.

    A Pell Grant could really help you get going - it's for students who don't have undergraduate degrees (in other words, grad students can't apply), and the money can be used for massage-therapy school. It's a significant amount - it would cover more than half of your schooling costs. http://www2.ed.gov/programs/fpg/index.html

    Remember, going into a little bit of debt isn't a bad thing if your career path is solid. Massage therapy is in the healthcare sector, and there is plenty of demand out there (it's easy to find a job - most students have jobs secured before they graduate). It pays very decently, and you can work part or full time.

    Just a thought.

    FYI, since I was one, Dental Hygiene Is a 4 year commitment with a 4.0 GPA considered competitive to even get into hygiene school. I have a four year degree myself. Definitely not for those not into college or studying. Presently schools are taking no more than 20-30 students a year. You may have meant dental assisting, a common mix up.

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    Scarlet Letter,
    I am in my mid 30's and I previously had a career that I was great at. I just got sick of the long hours, no flexibility in my schedule, and the job was physically taxing on my body. I knew that the older I got working at that career, it would Get harder and harder for me. That is why I entered the adult industry. I was concerned about what people would think of me at first, but then I thought fuck it, nobody pays my bills and I also needed to save more money for retirement, so I went for it. People know that I do this and the world did not come to an end like a previous thought it might! Lol. I am in better physical shape, happier and make more money.

    There are so many things you can do if you enjoy it. Phone sex, camming, making videos, second life, selling content and voice clips, Facebook girlfriend on Fiver, texting, etc...
    Also, I sell on Etsy and Amazon. That works well for some side income.
    I hope I have inspired some hope for you.

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    Scarlet,

    I changed from a professional full time gig to full time cam model when I was 38, and had heaps of anxiety if it was a good or bad decision, now I'm 41 and make twice as much as I did in any professional degree related field, so don't be anxious about the age part. It's possible your earning potential could be high enough that you could really start setting aside big chunks of cash for your future retirement (and more than you could in a vanilla job).

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    Dive in and don't look back, at least that's what I plan to do.. (Hoping things get better for you!)

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