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    Default Not sure if stalker or LE

    I decided to post an ad on Backpage last week to see what kind of traffic I could get...holy crap, are the guys in my area rude dickheads. So, after sorting through crappy responses for most of the night, and only getting one appointment out of it, I decided to take down the ad. What I didn't know was that asexyservice.com is a piggyback site and took my ad from backpage and listed it there. So, for a week I'm still getting texts and emails, but couldn't figure out why until one guy who kept persisting when all others had given up, kept texting. He told me where he'd found my ad. He also called me by my real name.

    So, this is where I go from being just slightly annoyed that my ad is still out there, to pissed. I keep up conversation with him to get as much info as I can. He has my name, personal cell #, facebook page, and personal twitter account. He's texting with a VoIP out of NY, and that's all the info I can get trying to screen. He won't give me his name, or where he works, and keeps insisting that he come to my house and pick me up for a date. He was very persistent about meeting today, VERY persistent, but I finally told him that today was not possible. So, he told me he'd contact me tomorrow, and stopped texting. I haven't gotten another reply out of him, and probably won't until he's back at work tomorrow morning.

    What I'm trying to figure out is if this guy is just some crazy stalker that somehow managed to track me down, or if it's LE. There have been a lot of sting operations here lately, so I'm certainly paranoid and my guard is up way more than usual.

    My bf wants to call him and tell him to leave me the hell alone and stop texting me, but if it is some crazy person, I don't want him getting set off. I live with my bf and another male roommate, so I'm never home alone, so if anyone does show up here, I'm not that terribly worried, but I am a little freaked out by the not knowing which it is.


    Oh, I also made an off hand comment about him being a cop and setting me off, he just laughed, and asked again about meeting during his lunch break.

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    Default Re: Not sure if stalker or LE

    Could it be someone you know or have known in passing who happened to see you on Backpage? That is what is sounds like to me but you can't ever be so careful. These things are hard to shake though.

    One time I had a jackass report me on ripoffreport. Only one guy my whole five year career went totally freaking nuts on me and tried to get me to do as he said because he was in the review/messageboard community. I didn't give into his threats. If you google my old name his complaining comes up first and I do not care. He looks like the kooky loser.

    So, don't push him. Just ignore him. If he knows that much information about you he may be able to track you here by little things that you have left in other places. (it happened to me once with a linked file name) Be careful.

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    Default Re: Not sure if stalker or LE

    Stop talking to this guy ASAP! Everything about him sounds so wrong! A lot of shady fuckers use VoIP to hide their identity and evade screening with escorts. Never, ever see someone who wont screen! Dont even talk to them, just hang up. Screening is everything in the escorting world, it is your safety blanket. Just cut off all ties with him. Block him, change your number, whatever.

    As for whether or not he is LE...it sounds like he is. Cops are notorious for going on Backpage to bust girls. That is why most escorts wont post on there. And if you used your own personal credit card to post the ad, that is most likely how he got all of your information. I heard from a girl I know who used to escort that backpage keeps all your info from your card and that is how police can find out your identity. That's the reason most escorts use prepaid cards to post their ads. All of his behaviors that you mentioned sound consistent with that of a cop (especially the persistence and wanting to do everything quick). All you can do now is cut off all contact with him, and lay low for a while...and in the future, I would not post on BP anymore.

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    I have a "junk" card that I use for things like that, it's not registered to any name. So, it couldn't have been from that. My phone is a burner, so can't be traced there... I could have maybe thought he found me through back page, but I found out this morning that asexyservice.comis now hosting the ad since I got rid of it from bp.

    It just all feels wrong, and will not be communicating with him anymore.

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    Default Re: Not sure if stalker or LE

    This is some of the things I've gathered from reading the boards guys like to gather around and marvel on.

    Guys can find your fb if you use any of the same images on your ad as they google & reverse image search the images or it's linked to your working phone
    If you have your working number connected to any other thing listed on the internet all they have to do is search the number on google which 99% of the time they do
    Sprint,Tmobile & a few other companies have a data app where if you call/text someone they can see your name & place you registered the phone with( but you already said you use a burner)

    Quite a few of hobbyists find/have found girls real fb accounts because they have somethings linked together unknowingly(don't really know what they're doing or just don't care) & they sit on the boards and marvel about it.

    **So I'll bet it's a hardcore hobbyist vs a cop***

    He more than likely got your name from your fb account, facebook also connects your personal phone number to your account(and is visible to the public) if you don't default the setting.
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    Me totally thinking this through- Why would LE tell you they found your FB and stuff? They wouldn't want to freak you out they would be very good at charming you into thinking your safe, after all, they do these busts over and over again. This sounds like a serious creep who either saw your add and already knows you or you left a bread crumb of information and need to be much more careful. Do you have different escorting pics then fb pics? Do you have a separate email for escorting then fb?
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    Default Re: Not sure if stalker or LE

    "He also called me by my real name." Terrifying.

    My sympathies. My guess would be stalker vs LE since LE would want to let on as little as possible. It's true that LE can be pretty dense, but they get to practice at what they do and likely letting on they know real names, facebook, etc., would scare any of their targets.

    Either way, stop all communication. Stalker personalities are dangerous and there is no easy way to deal with them.

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    Default Re: Not sure if stalker or LE

    Update on creepy stalker guy:

    Last weekend I went out of town to a convention. The day after I got back, the guy sent me a text, again on my personal phone, not my business phone, telling me he saw me there, but was with his wife so he didn't say anything. Told me how great I looked in the blue tanktop and leggings I was wearing.

    I replied with, "You need to not contact me ever again" He said okay and goodbye. It's been a week and a half and I haven't heard back from him, so maybe that was the end of it, but I'm still terribly creeped out about it.

    To answer previous questions, my facebook does have my personal phone number attached to it, but only as a recovery method. There are no similar pictures on fb and my ads (Not quite ready to explain those photo shoots to my family and childhood friends). I make sure to screen myself using whitepages and instant checkmate at least once a week to make sure my work phone, website, ads, and work name don't link back to the real me. So far they all lead to nothing, or the dead end, off shore accounts they are supposed to lead to.

    So, I'm gonna go with it's someone that knows me and is screwing with me. Which, I think, makes it worse. But, there doesn't seem to be anything I can do about it.

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