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    Default Dealing with "racist" comments.

    I put it in quotes because I'm talking about ignorant but not malicious comments.
    i.e. "Where in Africa are you from"
    "I've never been with a darkie before"
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    What do you girls about this? Ignore it, quickly correct them and move on?

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    Well I personally don't have the patience for ignorance or racists. I quickly push them to spend money and do less talking. If they buy I collect the money upfront - just to make sure if they try to get handsy or disrespectful then I can leave at anytime.

    But if they are ignorant / racist AND not spending any money then I might say they're acting like an idiot while walking off but most likely I'll just walk off right in the middle of their convo.
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    Default Re: Dealing with "racist" comments.

    Move on, no sense in wasting your time, energy, or emotions with them. Time wasted trying to educate the ignorant can be used with someone who knows better and will treat you like the Goddess that you are.

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    Don't waste your breath. But if you really want to say something, get up, smile and say, "have a good night". Walk away.

    He's a time waster.

    P.S. You DON'T have to deal with anything either.

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    Default Re: Dealing with "racist" comments.

    The thing is a lot of the time these guys like me/spend money on me. While I want their money, it makes my skin crawl and I don't know whether I should say something or not.
    One time I went on stage and this guy started screaming "YEAHHHH SOUTH AFRICA!!!!!" and then made it rain. I didn't talk to him after the stage set because I didn't want to deal with his racist comments but maybe I should have just sucked it up?

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    It's more powerful when you let it show that you can still shine with his dumb ass racist remarks. I am not black but have been called Chink, Gook, yellow, chunky eyes, the list goes on. It kills them when you still roll in money and embrace your race then feel shameful.

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    Default Re: Dealing with "racist" comments.

    ^ They don't know it's racist though. That's the problem

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    Default Re: Dealing with "racist" comments.

    I had one that said "are you really Asian? You are too fair to be Asian. You have no yellow in your skin?

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    Default Re: Dealing with "racist" comments.

    Quote Originally Posted by newb2 View Post
    I put it in quotes because I'm talking about ignorant but not malicious comments.
    i.e. "Where in Africa are you from"
    "I've never been with a darkie before"
    etc

    What do you girls about this? Ignore it, quickly correct them and move on?
    I'm actually not offended if they ask me where in Africa I'm from but thats probably because I know. Down to my tribes and all. As far as when they say they've never been with a darkie before...I've never heard that one yet, but I would probably just spin it into something positive like "And you had no idea what a great time you were missing". Most men say things like, " Please don't get offended, but I've noticed, as i get older I'm more and more attracted to darker skinned women" I just laugh when they're so concerned about me being offended. Im not offended easily.

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    Default Re: Dealing with "racist" comments.

    They are idiots.

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    Default Re: Dealing with "racist" comments.

    Quote Originally Posted by Tara Christine View Post
    I'm actually not offended if they ask me where in Africa I'm from but thats probably because I know. Down to my tribes and all. As far as when they say they've never been with a darkie before...I've never heard that one yet, but I would probably just spin it into something positive like "And you had no idea what a great time you were missing". Most men say things like, " Please don't get offended, but I've noticed, as i get older I'm more and more attracted to darker skinned women" I just laugh when they're so concerned about me being offended. Im not offended easily.
    its more the assumption that I'm from Africa. I don't ask where in england/Europe they're from (actually when this guy said the Africa comment I asked him where in the uk he was from because "you're Australian so you're obviously a British convict, right?") and then he bought me a dance

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    Default Re: Dealing with "racist" comments.

    Quote Originally Posted by newb2 View Post
    its more the assumption that I'm from Africa. I don't ask where in england/Europe they're from (actually when this guy said the Africa comment I asked him where in the uk he was from because "you're Australian so you're obviously a British convict, right?") and then he bought me a dance
    I think you dealt with that quite well.
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    Default Re: Dealing with "racist" comments.

    You really can't take stupid sounding statements at face value. Example- I recall a drunk customer yelling loudly/drunkenly "CHOCOLATE! CHOCOLATE!!" as he pulled out $20 to buy a friend a dance at a shitty redneck bar. (The dancer was African-American.) In cases like that you have to roll your eyes while your head is turned away from people like that.

    & Honestly some guys come into clubs specifically to talk shit to attractive women. Statements that would get them punched out in regular bars are sometimes tolerated in strip clubs. Smile & get him drunk enough to spend a chunk of his mortgage payment.
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    Default Re: Dealing with "racist" comments.

    Calling her chocolate I don't think is ignorant or racist though.^^^


    Anyway,I'm in the South & sadly some racists comments don't really bother me anymore. I usually just excuse myself or let them know don't call me that shit. I hate to hear someone call me "colored,darkie,gal." Those tiresome lines of "never been with a dark skinned girl or pretty for a dark skin woman" are also annoying as fuck.

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    Omfg that is fawked up but I laughed so hard.Drunk asshole.That's nothing compared to this there was this black dancer at a stripclub I used to waitress at (we were actually the only 2 bb that worked there) And she had this white custy who would always say come here n**ger & gave her $500 for a few dances she hated going when he beckoned but still made her way to dance for him.Better than me I would've spat in his face forget that $500. I give dancers so much kudos because damn it I couldn't do it.
    Quote Originally Posted by newb2 View Post
    The thing is a lot of the time these guys like me/spend money on me. While I want their money, it makes my skin crawl and I don't know whether I should say something or not.
    One time I went on stage and this guy started screaming "YEAHHHH SOUTH AFRICA!!!!!" and then made it rain. I didn't talk to him after the stage set because I didn't want to deal with his racist comments but maybe I should have just sucked it up?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Obsession91 View Post
    Omfg that is fawked up but I laughed so hard.Drunk asshole.That's nothing compared to this there was this black dancer at a stripclub I used to waitress at (we were actually the only 2 bb that worked there) And she had this white custy who would always say come here n**ger & gave her $500 for a few dances she hated going when he beckoned but still made her way to dance for him.Better than me I would've spat in his face forget that $500. I give dancers so much kudos because damn it I couldn't do it.
    Thats rough! Dude must have thought this is the 1800's.
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    And the fawked up part is the manager knew about and didn't do squat.Now let the belligerent ass had said to the manager go fetch me some chopsticks they would've thrown his ass out.
    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    Thats rough! Dude must have thought this is the 1800's.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SnuffleUffleGrass View Post
    You really can't take stupid sounding statements at face value. Example- I recall a drunk customer yelling loudly/drunkenly "CHOCOLATE! CHOCOLATE!!" as he pulled out $20 to buy a friend a dance at a shitty redneck bar. (The dancer was African-American.) In cases like that you have to roll your eyes while your head is turned away from people like that.

    & Honestly some guys come into clubs specifically to talk shit to attractive women. Statements that would get them punched out in regular bars are sometimes tolerated in strip clubs. Smile & get him drunk enough to spend a chunk of his mortgage payment.
    Love this^!


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    Default Re: Dealing with "racist" comments.

    had one saying: in brasil is all abt carnival right?
    other: in brasil u have lepards and monkeys? is it a jungle?

    lmfao
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    Quote Originally Posted by SylvySinclair View Post
    had one saying: in brasil is all abt carnival right?
    other: in brasil u have lepards and monkeys? is it a jungle?

    lmfao
    OMG, hilarious! That's up there w: Someone I know in Key West, being asked about how they 'float the cars over there'!


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    As long they are not rude I would take their money, Its because of where you are too, Its sounds like they are excited by you, as long as they are not rude just roll with it.
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    I would just play it up and make it seem like they are lucky to meet you, which they are!. I worked with a Jamaican girl who was like this and she banked.
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