As a sexworker, have you ever noticed how other sexworkers passively aggressively put you down for things that they shouldn't even comment on if they really "don't care" about it?
Example #1: I have a 2 degrees (one is a STEM degree) and every time I ever mention education in any way around a sexworker who doesn't have a degree, she usually FLIPS out and acts like she hates me. She then goes on to make statements like "at the end of the day, no one cares about a fucking piece of paper, they only care if you're hot!"
First, a degree is not a piece of paper. It is investment in your future and a ticket to getting 80% of decent jobs out there that REQUIRE a bachelors degree or higher.
Second, my degree enabled me to learn skills, which is why I'm fluent in 3 almost 4 languages.
Third, okay but why can't you be really hot AND have a degree? How would that harm you in ANY way? If anything, even if you never use it in any way (doubt it), it would be a safety net.
Fourth: why. do. they. care. if. they. actually. don't. care? Lol! Its so annoying! Clearly its a threat to these people.
I mean, I could care less when they talk about all the money they blew on this season's expensive clothing. I never make passive aggressive comments on them doing that because I DON'T ACTUALLY CARE lol. I also find it funny that someone would put me down for spending money on education, when their apartment costs twice the price of mine and that same price difference could have PAID for their tuition for the year.
Example #2: Sexworkers who get catty about thinness.
If you aren't thin and don't want to be, who cares? Why does that need to be thrown in my face that not all men like thin women? Great, I like being thin and get complimented on it, so why do you have to passive aggressively make comments about it? I'm sure my DNA has something to do with it, but in all actuality, I'm thin because I cook my own healthy meals at home and I work out.
Then they go on to argue about how much these 2 factors mean nothing with making money in the adult world, but its simply not true. Take a girl, and she will make more money if she loses weight. Take another girl, and she will also earn even more money if she's educated. That's just how our society is, and lashing out at other people just makes them see your insecurities and reinforces the idea that you care. So annoying lol, but I just laugh to myself with embarrassment for these people.
Lol! I had to vent. Girls in the vanilla world never ever care about either of these things because they typically already have an education, and they could care less about thinness or are already thin. It just drives me nuts because its so transparent that sexworkers are often highly insecure about these things but pretend like they aren't.
Anyone else go through this who works in both the vanilla world and sexwork?






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