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    I don't have a lot of free time, which is fine with me. My house if full of rescue animals, my mom needs a lot of help... I'm busy.

    The photographer that I introduced to management seems to think that my time and money are just free for the asking. We had discussed doing a really elaborate set up for the cover of the calendar. I'd make a blinged out fur bikini, get a traditional Russian fur hat and fur trim some boots. We discussed other ideas for the interior shot.

    He had a meeting with management yesterday, where he told her that I'd do the fur bikini for the interior shot and that I'd do it in two weeks. WTF!!! No! I didn't agree to that! For a cover shot, sure. But I'm not spending that kind of time and money for a flipped through interior shot with a lot less visibility and therefore less value. And definitely not in two fucking weeks!

    As it turns out, he's essentially obligated me to do it. Management now expects it. I can possibly find recycled fur at a thrift store, but the rhinestones and other materials aren't cheap. The ushanka will easily run me $70-100. After all is said and done, I'm looking at $300-400 and several days to get everything done.

    And, he's promised that I'll do it on the 14th. The day that I have to take my puppy into the vet so he can be altered on the 15th. We need to do this so I don't have to pay an extra $200 to license him and so he can start going to puppy daycare for socialization and bite inhibition. And so I can have a day where I can just drop him off, get shit done and he can have a blast playing. And so he'll stop trying to hump the cats. And marking all over. It needs to happen.

    So... Now I have to come up with tons of money for this fucking shoot, $300 to neuter my dog. Oh, it's tax time too which means that I have a huge bill to pay next month and my customer isn't coming in as often because he has a huge tax liability too.

    I don't understand why everybody seems to think that I have unlimited time and money that everybody's entitled to. My mom is bad enough with her emotional vomiting and freaking out over the teeniest things. I get why she's doing it. This fucked... He doesn't listen and apparently doesn't give a fuck.

    At this point, there's really not much I can do and not piss off management. I can probably put it off until I have more time and money to deal with it, but I really resent that I'm essentially being forced into this.

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    Default Re: My time and money is apparently up for grabs

    My first photographer was really sneaky-manipulative like this & I dumped him. Which I recommend here. Fuckin guys....

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    Dumping him isn't the problem. Dumping him without pissing off my boss... That's the tricky part.

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    Why would management get mad at YOU for a miscommunication on HIS end? It sounds like management is more familiar with you than him. I would try to explain to them that he must have misunderstood you and you need more time.

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    Sounds like you need to 'splain this to management, and not have anything else to do with the photographer. He is either a liar or a complete doofus, either way trouble.

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    Flat out? Just call management and explain the situation. Leave out your personal life with pets and what not--just say that this photographer is not someone you're comfortable working with because you just found out he committed you to a shoot you didn't agree to, can't make, and that isn't feasible to even pull off, fabulous idea or no. Apologize to them, but be firm. Then tell the photographer he fucked up (politely and in detail) and never talk to him again.


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    Management knows that I have a hectic personal life and that my dog is a little perv. Not dealing with this dipshit means not doing the calendar, which will not go over well. I need to find a way to soften this, so it doesn't cause issues. I'm thinking of basically telling him off and making him do it, but that could seriously backfire. Especially since I'm the one who introduced her to this idiot.

    This is what I get for helping people. It never ends well when I do and I'm starting to wonder why I keep doing it.

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    Yeah, it's hard when you brought a certain person to the staff. Unfortunately, either you talk to management yourself or you get stuck doing this shoot and that sucks. I wouldn't let the photographer unfuck it because the dude clearly doesn't have any reservations about opening his mouth and letting shit that isn't 100% confirmed come out of it. Lord knows what he'll say next.

    I'd still stick to the part where you explain that the photographer committed you to a shoot without your knowledge and that you can't/won't be able to make it. Just own up to the fact that there was a miscommunication. And then, yeah, politely but firmly tell the photographer that was not cool. No need to be a doormat--they'll get over it.


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    I have multiple legitimate reasons for not being available. As for the rest of it, I think I may just play dumb and be like "uh... No. Never agreed to that bullshit."

    I will never help anyone again. No good deed goes unpunished...

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    Are there not other photographers who can take photos for a calendar? The calendar still can be done right???
    "I like to make money, spend it at the bank"

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    He's giving them a really good deal. As in... He's shooting it for free to get a commercial credit for his resume.

    Can't beat that price, unfortunately.

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