
Originally Posted by
PSOcodemonkey
I really hate the terms bisexual and lesbian. I came out to my family and friends in high school as lesbian in the 1990's. In college though I dated women and men, mostly women though. I graduated, and dated women exclusively. Married a woman (not legally, not on option at the time). Marriage fell apart when she suddenly decided that she was straight and she became a Christian fundy. I fell in love with a guy next. Married legally. 14 years later, marriage fell apart, but still good friends with him, and sex was good with him.
After all that, I've decided for myself, that the terms bisexual and lesbian are restrictive. I mostly fall for women, but there are a few guys (not many) that really do get me going and I can be 100% happy with sexually/relationship wise. I'm also 100% monogamous, no matter who I am with. Not for religious reasons, but because I don't think I could mentally handle sexual relationships with more than one person. I'm sure others can, but I know myself too well. Would not work for me.
I live in a major city that has a lot more places than gay/lesbian bars to meet people. Don't worry if you have never been in a relationship with a woman before, does not make you any more or less whatever you are. Go slow though. I know if I was with a woman who just "discovered" that she was lesbian, I would want it to go slow. I would be afraid if she fell in love right away. I think many women are the same, completely open to dating women who might not have considered themselves lesbian in the past, but are cautious about it. For good reason.
Good luck in your discovery, wherever it leads you.
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