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    Default How do you deal...

    with seeing someone you know at your club? What if you're on the stage or walking the floor and there's someone who you went/go to school with, or an old/current neighbor? What has been the weirdest situation you've been in like that?

    I am kinda freaking, after scoping out a club's Facebook page and seeing that a guy I've known for a long time liked the page... knowing him, he probably goes there somewhat often. I really want to work there, but just need to have a plan in place for when this happens.

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    This happened to me when I was brand new at dancing...get this, I saw my old high school teacher sitting in the audience as I was naked on stage!!! LOL! He didnt recognize me though (thank god) because I looked much different in high school. I was busy that night too, so I didn't go up to him or pay him any attention.

    Even if he did recognize me, I would have just stayed in character and acted cool about it. I would not have treated him any differently than a regular customer. And I would not have acted embarrassed either, I would have stayed in control and acted extremely confident, like it was no big deal. Maybe even laugh about it a little. And if he asked me to dance I would have danced for him, but I would make sure he tipped me extra good, otherwise I give him a basic air dance. Any time a customer makes you feel uncomfortable, make him tip you extra! Be all about business in situations like these.

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    Default Re: How do you deal...

    Liking the club's Facebook page =/= being a regular or even occasional customer. You may be worrying for nothing. However, if dancing is something you want to keep top secret and your life would be devastated if this guy found out, well, maybe working at the club is a risk you're not willing to take. If there are other clubs in the city, it might be wiser to focus on them instead.

    If dancing is something you'd simply prefer random folks in your life to not find out about, but in the end it wouldn't be a huge deal if they did, the risk is probably minimal enough that you may as well work at the club you have your eye on. Not only does your shift have to line up with when that guy decides to visit the club (still an if), but you also can't be busy in the back or on the floor or otherwise unseeable in the club for him to "catch" you, so the odds are low that you'll cross paths.

    Beyond that, make yourself look unrecognizable in the club -- and the mere fact of him not expecting you to be a stripper will really help here -- and never doubt the power of denial. Other avoidance tactics include tipping the DJ to take you off stage rotation, hiding in the dressing room, leaving your shift early (some managers are understanding about keeping dancing secret), or, ideally, hiding in VIP/the dance area with a paying customer.

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    Put it to you this way--I used to work about 15min from home. I only saw anyone I knew ONCE--the people I grew up with probably couldn't afford to go to strip clubs often anyway, and I worked very part time. At one point, early on in my dancing days, I didn't mind if people knew what I was up to. That one time I saw people I knew (from my high school, in fact), I sat right down in front of them, and it STILL took them a minute to realize who I was with all the makeup/lack of clothing. ^_^

    Nowadays though, I always recommend discretion, unless you truly don't care. I have a career I've worked for now, and have to be a little more careful. Some of us don't want the "stigma" to follow us around. As unfortunate as that stigma may be, it's the same reason the field of adult work can be so lucrative.

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    I alter my look drastically at the club (Hair extensions, heavy makeup), and can usually spot a familiar face before they can place me. If it is someone you only know casually (like a vanilla job co-worker), there is a pretty good chance they aren't going to recognize you. Just avoid that person and try to buy off of stage (if you club offers that option) while he/she is in the club.

    If you run into someone who knows you well, this is going to be harder to pull off. If the person is a family member, most managers will work with you to get him out of the club. Usually, just telling a customer that you can't serve them and they have to leave is enough for a reasonable person to just say "fuck it." If the person is indeed a regular at the club, you may have to just go home and come back another time.

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    Whenever I've seen people I know they mostly haven't recognized me. I don't really bother with makeup and I'm often dressed conservatively outside the club. If it ever happens, let your manager know. They're mostly understanding and if they don't want to kick the customer out the club they will probably let you go to the dressing room or go on break until they leave

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    There was a guy i knew back from 6th-9th grade, he came into my club one day, tipped me on stage and asked if my real name was -blank- I just gave him a confused look and acted like i was one else. Worked out for me that one time.
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    I don't care who really sees me bc it comes with the territory. I never really ran into someone I know to where I'm freaked out or felt weird. Even went worked 3-4 hours from my city and still saw someone I knew.

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    Default Re: How do you deal...

    I ran into a guy I knew from my previous vanilla job. He was actually a customer that I used to serve at that vanilla job. I walked up to him and was like "hey, I know you! Don't you remember me?" LOL. He had a shocked look on his face. I tried to hustle him, but he wasn't comfortable getting a dance from me. He tipped me $20 so that I could leave him alone in peace. haha

    Just be confident no matter what, and the game will always be in your favor. Now if it's a family member or someone like that (thank god I never saw a fam member walk in while I was working!), I would either pretend it's not me, or I would steer clear from them. This is why it's a good idea to both look and act like someone completely different than your real self while you're working.

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    Oh! I almost forgot! I used to work with a girl in another vanilla job. Well, she was my customer in the strip club....TWICE! And she had no fucking clue it was me! She tipped me on stage and everything....completely oblivious that I used to work with her. I looked completely different, so yeah. There was no way she would have recognized me.

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