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    So I've always been hairy bush trimmed a tiny bit, with shaved legs and armpits. It's my main source of income on cam and have always lost customers whenever I've trimmed too much before.
    It's not that I don't like shaved pussy it's that it's not my preference. I never really into to have a shaved pussy not to mention it could severely fuck up cam work.
    Anyway I guess I might be getting over emotional about this but in a job where it's kind of important for you to love yourself as yourself and stick to a niche, I've realized pretty much all my current lovers have a preference for shaved. To the extent where one guy has wandered off with a girl who I know is shaved (she's a stripper) and he's said to me how much better a shaved one is before going to fuck her.
    Thanks to anxiety this had me thinking a lot of 'its ok i wouldn't pick me either' kind of thoughts and I self harmed for the first time in about 3 months...
    Said guy is kind of stuck living with me for the next two months so absolutely no way to avoid. I feel stupid now...despite being a porn-watcher and knowing about the hairy pussy hatred this is the first time it's affected me in real life and I feel like...a slightly broken toy. Could be better. They've knocked off the price cuz it's not as smooth as the others.
    I also feel dumb about moving in with a bunch of people I don't know. They are already an established group of friends and I'm kind of an outsider.

    I know this is silly but I feel unwanted. Camming with guys doesnt seem to help, no matter how much they say they love hairy pussy now I just feel like it's a fetish that no guys my age share, it's just an old people thing cuz it was normal back then.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CharlieTen View Post
    So I've always been hairy bush trimmed a tiny bit, with shaved legs and armpits. It's my main source of income on cam and have always lost customers whenever I've trimmed too much before.
    It's not that I don't like shaved pussy it's that it's not my preference. I never really into to have a shaved pussy not to mention it could severely fuck up cam work.
    Anyway I guess I might be getting over emotional about this but in a job where it's kind of important for you to love yourself as yourself and stick to a niche, I've realized pretty much all my current lovers have a preference for shaved. To the extent where one guy has wandered off with a girl who I know is shaved (she's a stripper) and he's said to me how much better a shaved one is before going to fuck her.
    Thanks to anxiety this had me thinking a lot of 'its ok i wouldn't pick me either' kind of thoughts and I self harmed for the first time in about 3 months...
    Said guy is kind of stuck living with me for the next two months so absolutely no way to avoid. I feel stupid now...despite being a porn-watcher and knowing about the hairy pussy hatred this is the first time it's affected me in real life and I feel like...a slightly broken toy. Could be better. They've knocked off the price cuz it's not as smooth as the others.
    I also feel dumb about moving in with a bunch of people I don't know. They are already an established group of friends and I'm kind of an outsider.

    I know this is silly but I feel unwanted. Camming with guys doesnt seem to help, no matter how much they say they love hairy pussy now I just feel like it's a fetish that no guys my age share, it's just an old people thing cuz it was normal back then.
    Don't feel silly - ever. Your emotions are logical and when you are treated as badly as you were by this scum-fuck of a 'man', no wonder you feel low.

    It's a shame that you use the word 'hatred' to describe attitudes toward body hair in porn. Maybe that's apparent in some porn, but there is plenty of porn out there which embraces women who do what they want with their body hair - I know because I film it myself! I'm 27 and true, I tend to go after old men (35+), I also go for men who enjoy a woman who is comfortable in her own body. When I ask my lovers why they like my hair, they usually always say that it's not the hair that turns them on, it's the fact I don't care what people think and that I look after my body for myself. Sorry to pull out old cliches, but love of yourself is so utterly sexy that regardless of height, weight, or your relationship with waxing, it will shine through. I've even had guys say to me "I didn't think I liked hairy girls until you" and I have to remind them it isn't the hair they like, it's moi.

    Perhaps thats not the advice you were looking for, but I've battled with the doubt myself after dating a few assholes who felt the need to comment on my pussy as if
    a) I care what they think and
    b) it's any of their business anyway (it's not)

    But as time went on and I became more comfortable telling guys to stfu and relaxing into my own skin, my body hair stopped being an issue. Now if a guy doesn't want to be with me, it's more because I'm annoying than the fact I have body hair, ha!

    feel free to PM me if you EVER want to talk about it, or if you feel lonely.

    xxx

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    >>>>>To the extent where one guy has wandered off with a girl who I know is shaved (she's a stripper) and he's said to me how much better a shaved one is before going to fuck her<<<<

    let me fix this sentence for you

    To the extent where one narcissistic douche has wandered off with a girl who I know is shaved (she's a stripper) and he manipulated me by saying how much bigger his tiny dick looks with a shaved one before going to disappoint her in bed

    seriously people are assholes


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    Well. Who is this guy? Is he your boyfriend or something? He's just acting like an idiot because most sensible men know vaginas come in various degrees of hairiness/baldness and it's cruel and insensitive to insult a woman's body like that. He probably just wanted any lame excuse to troll for some outside pussy.

    In my experience mostly older guys like 25+ don't mind a woman's body hair. Although there are lots of men who publicly say they hate women's body hair, in private they quietly accept it.

    Plus your body naturally grows hair there for a reason so why go against nature and remove the hair for a man who's probably going to cheat regardless of how you groom your pussy.

    It's such a double standard. I bet this dude has a hairy penis - if so then he is a hypocrite.
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    Default Re: I feel inferior for a perfectly justifiable personal hygiene choice

    When I was younger I made the huge mistake of treating one lover's rejection like gospel. It takes life experience to literally see that kind of judgement is not valid.

    Also most older men love bush b/c shaved wasn't a super common thing until the late 1990s. Also amount of bush can vary (I've seen women with straggly amounts of hair, or people like me, who can grow an epic soft carpet of hair.)

    BTW my fwb is super hairy and I love it. It's the best part of making love to him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by beauvoir View Post
    Don't feel silly - ever. Your emotions are logical and when you are treated as badly as you were by this scum-fuck of a 'man', no wonder you feel low.

    It's a shame that you use the word 'hatred' to describe attitudes toward body hair in porn. Maybe that's apparent in some porn, but there is plenty of porn out there which embraces women who do what they want with their body hair - I know because I film it myself! I'm 27 and true, I tend to go after old men (35+), I also go for men who enjoy a woman who is comfortable in her own body. When I ask my lovers why they like my hair, they usually always say that it's not the hair that turns them on, it's the fact I don't care what people think and that I look after my body for myself. Sorry to pull out old cliches, but love of yourself is so utterly sexy that regardless of height, weight, or your relationship with waxing, it will shine through. I've even had guys say to me "I didn't think I liked hairy girls until you" and I have to remind them it isn't the hair they like, it's moi.

    Perhaps thats not the advice you were looking for, but I've battled with the doubt myself after dating a few assholes who felt the need to comment on my pussy as if
    a) I care what they think and
    b) it's any of their business anyway (it's not)

    But as time went on and I became more comfortable telling guys to stfu and relaxing into my own skin, my body hair stopped being an issue. Now if a guy doesn't want to be with me, it's more because I'm annoying than the fact I have body hair, ha!

    feel free to PM me if you EVER want to talk about it, or if you feel lonely.

    xxx
    Thank you so much to everyone for your advice. I feel like I was treated badly, but despite him having a preference I know am a super sensitive person. I am on new birth control so am insanely emotional, and moving in this week has been very weird adjusting to. We are both fucking other people and we're friends but there's no commitment so I have no reason to be affected by whatever the fuck he likes or doesn't like. I know for a fact he liked it when I made him cum 7 times in 5 hours so I know I have sexual strength, whatever I might do to my body. He was definitely being insensitive but I seem to be attracted to idiots, it's a recurring theme. Just the fact I can make stupid amounts of money seducing men without being in the same room shows I'm a catch right? The more confident I am, the happier I will be.
    I am comfortable in my own body, it's just the last few days have made me forget this and how hard I have worked to love myself. Hairy is good. Shaved is good. Other people's opinions are NONE OF MY BUSINESS.
    Beauvoir, I'm so happy about your reply it really put things into perspective. You are AWESOME!
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    Quote Originally Posted by CharlieTen View Post
    Thank you so much to everyone for your advice. I feel like I was treated badly, but despite him having a preference I know am a super sensitive person. I am on new birth control so am insanely emotional, and moving in this week has been very weird adjusting to. We are both fucking other people and we're friends but there's no commitment so I have no reason to be affected by whatever the fuck he likes or doesn't like. I know for a fact he liked it when I made him cum 7 times in 5 hours so I know I have sexual strength, whatever I might do to my body. He was definitely being insensitive but I seem to be attracted to idiots, it's a recurring theme. Just the fact I can make stupid amounts of money seducing men without being in the same room shows I'm a catch right? The more confident I am, the happier I will be.
    I am comfortable in my own body, it's just the last few days have made me forget this and how hard I have worked to love myself. Hairy is good. Shaved is good. Other people's opinions are NONE OF MY BUSINESS.
    Beauvoir, I'm so happy about your reply it really put things into perspective. You are AWESOME!
    First of all, he wasn't being insensitive, he was being an asshole. Regardless of your situation, your sex partner deserves respect, and he did not give you that. It is not about commitment, but respect.

    Awesome, you made him cum 7 times in 5 hours, how many times did he make you come in 5 hours? That is the real measure.....

    To be a bit graphic, yes, I'm old, so even the porn I started watching was hairy, but the only downside is removing the occasional hair from ones tongue, same on both sides now isn't it?

    You say you are friends, I beg to differ.

    choose

    better

    men

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    You probably hang around a lot of asshats who watch a lot of porn and then think they're hot shit. Most men don't even have the luxury to be picky and have preference n shit when it comes to pussy. Also most guys I've talked to say they like trimmed and a bit of hair, and some say they "wouldn't mind" shaved... as if shaved is a bad thing. Only one guy I know was really crazy about bare. Either way guys are just happy to get some and they'll go for the full bush too if that's available.

    "I feel like I was treated badly, but despite him having a preference I know am a super sensitive person."

    You're giving him too much power. Who gives a shit about his preference?

    "...and we're friends"

    that ain't no friend, friends don't talk to eachother that way

    "I know for a fact he liked it when I made him cum 7 times in 5 hours so I know I have sexual strength, whatever I might do to my body."

    He can whine all he wants but once the pussy is on display he gobbles it up like a fat kid with candy. Also, who cares if he liked it or not, who cares what he thinks? This guy is full of shit and you're giving him too much power.

    You should start fucking better men.


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    I do fuck better men, it's just variety is the spice of life. He's a headfuck and I should avoid him you're right. But I'm uncontrollably horny at the moment and he's good in the sack, despite a severe case of assholeism. I'm 20 and enjoying myself making lots of new sexual discoveries with other people too.
    I too have met guys who love bush or dont mind it. I've decided not to give any fucks. I was relapsing when I wrote this so sorry about that, I get quite manic.
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    Any man that makes you feel inferior is not worth keeping around, even as a friend. Besides, would you tolerate your friends treating you like that? If a guy treats you worse than a friend would, he needs to go.

    Also, you say he's a headfuck...these guys know how to insinuate themselves into your life way past their welcome. I met my last mindfuck when I was 20. Ended up getting rid of him at 24 when he'd done so many horrid things I had no choice. Most of that time we were just fucking. Be careful.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CharlieTen View Post
    So I've always been hairy bush trimmed a tiny bit, with shaved legs and armpits. It's my main source of income on cam and have always lost customers whenever I've trimmed too much before.
    It's not that I don't like shaved pussy it's that it's not my preference. I never really into to have a shaved pussy not to mention it could severely fuck up cam work.
    Anyway I guess I might be getting over emotional about this but in a job where it's kind of important for you to love yourself as yourself and stick to a niche, I've realized pretty much all my current lovers have a preference for shaved. To the extent where one guy has wandered off with a girl who I know is shaved (she's a stripper) and he's said to me how much better a shaved one is before going to fuck her.
    Thanks to anxiety this had me thinking a lot of 'its ok i wouldn't pick me either' kind of thoughts and I self harmed for the first time in about 3 months...
    Said guy is kind of stuck living with me for the next two months so absolutely no way to avoid. I feel stupid now...despite being a porn-watcher and knowing about the hairy pussy hatred this is the first time it's affected me in real life and I feel like...a slightly broken toy. Could be better. They've knocked off the price cuz it's not as smooth as the others.
    I also feel dumb about moving in with a bunch of people I don't know. They are already an established group of friends and I'm kind of an outsider.

    I know this is silly but I feel unwanted. Camming with guys doesnt seem to help, no matter how much they say they love hairy pussy now I just feel like it's a fetish that no guys my age share, it's just an old people thing cuz it was normal back then.
    I say stick with what you like. I've <ahem> seen both and had no problem with either IF the hygiene is good. I feel like it makes no sense to complain about the bush unless it's freakin bushy. I had an ex and his pubes were like a friggin hedge. That's different. I had to part the red sea to get at it! This is different tho, so do you and ignore them. I kept my landing strip! I hate being bald. Kitty sticks to everything and it's annoying.

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