what's the best way to get the attention of a dancer, like to ask for a dance or something?

what's the best way to get the attention of a dancer, like to ask for a dance or something?
Go up to her stage, give her a nice tip, and ask if she's available to do a dance when she finishes on stage. If you really want to get her attention, and the club is busy (=competition between customers), ask her if she's available to do "a few" dances when she gets off stage. Or, if you're a high spender, ask her to come by and tell you about the club's VIP options.
As long as you are reasonably cleaned up and don't have any blatant personal hygiene issues, she'd have to be a moron to not follow up.

"or something"
Do tell. What do you mean...






I think what she said applies to a dancer anywhere in the club unless she's busy with another customer. Obviously if she is with a customer then wait until she's available. But don't feel intimidated because I know I personally love getting approached by customers lol. It makes the dancer look good and it's less work.





You can always tip a host/security and tell him to bring her over, if she's sitting with someone or walking around. If she's on stage, tip her and tell her to sit with you when she's done.



If she's talking or sitting with another customer, just bide your time until she gets up again. If she's walking around, ask her if she's busy or has somewhere else she needs to be right now. If she is/does, ask her to come find you later. Your odds increase significantly if you hand her some money with the suggestion to let her know you're serious and not a time waster. It doesn't have to be a lot -- a dollar or two will do. Just something to let her know you're actually worth remembering for when she gets done with whatever she needs to do. I've unintentionally forgotten people I actually know and like after I finish a to-do list worth of things, but when I get done, I always run over things that happened right before I started said to-do list, checking and double checking to see if there was anyone I needed to see/any money I missed and need to go get. I might remember you if you just stop me in the hall, but I will *definitely* remember you if you gave me (even a small amount of) money and asked me to come find you later for more. If she's not busy/on her way somewhere, ask if she would be interested in getting a dance/few dances with you. Odds are good she'll say yes. If she's on stage, your tip ensures your addition to her queue. Your place in her queue is determined by the order your tipped her in compared to other guys in the club and/or the size of your tip.
For example, if everyone comes up and tips me a dollar, (in addition to wondering what's wrong with me that everyone's only paying me a single dollar on stage,) I'll try my best to go in the order that they came up to me. If Jose tipped me and then Mark came up, when I get off stage, I find Jose first, and then when Jose is done getting dances, I look for Mark. If someone tipped me a couple dollars, it's not enough difference in amount to jump them ahead in the queue.
However, if everyone is tipping me in singles, maybe one, two, maybe even five dollars at a time, and then a guy comes up and gives me a $10 or a $20, that guy has just jumped to first place. Doesn't matter how many guys came up to tip me before him, Mr. Moolah has my full, undivided attention. As soon as I get done with stage, I'm going to whoever tipped me the most first, and then working my way down from there. Your tip is like your bid for the dancer's attention. If not many people are tipping, you can definitely go with a lower number, but then you risk being "outbid" later by someone else, maybe someone who holds out money for her as she's stepping down from her last stage. If she has to go over to his chair to collect it anyways, and it's sufficiently more than anyone else's, odds are good she'll probably just plop herself down at his table and dance with him first.
TLDR: If you just ask, your odds will be decent, if not outright good. But if you back up your offer with cash, you're pretty much guaranteed to have her come find you at your table as soon as she can.
i would suggest asking/tipping the waitress to bring her over. i like this because usually the waitress will come up to me even if i'm with another customer, and it makes me look good in front of him (like i'm in demand), so either the guy i'm with at the time has to take me back to VIP right then and there or I leave and go sit with the person who asked for me. if he does get dances i have an excuse not to sit around and chat afterwards, i go straight to the other guy. it's way more acceptable and less rude for a waitress to interrupt me than for a customer to do it while i'm with another customer. i guess at some clubs the waitress might wait until the girl is free, but IME that's how it's always gone.
or like everyone said you can just go up to her on the floor/stage if she's not busy


Wave her over, or just go up to her and ask for a dance straight away. This shows you're not a time waster



The only exception I have seen where money doesn't appear to work is a club or a shift that is "driven by regulars" and the dancer is sitting with her regular that night. In that case you might be in for a long wait (hours perhaps). It's not that she doesn't want your money or that she's a moron, she may have just made the decision to stay with her regular, which may be business driven on her part.
See, she has to weigh the decision to decide to come over and make some unguaranteed money off of you, versus potentially annoying her regular, who may very well represent a lot of recurring income to her. Some of these regulars get pissy, demanding, and downright possessive of their favorite dancers. (Dude, Mr. Club Regular she's your favorite dancer; she's not your wife, get a grip!) So he may actually ask the dancer NOT to come see you. She may not want to risk future regular income over say your measly $80 or whatever.
Personally, I hate that. I hate both sides. Anytime my fave asks me if she can leave me to go hustle a guy from the stage or floor who asked for dances, of course, I tell her she can! I would hope the customer in the other side to do that for me, but alas, they never do! I hate being cock blocked for dances! But I roll with it. Plenty of other fish!
Now, back to the example, every time my fave leaves to hustle dances from Mr. Stage Tipper, she ends up talking for 2-3 songs un-tipped, then Mr. Stage Tipper only buys ONE DANCE. Especially on a busy Friday night. Then I have to listen to her complain about it for 20 seconds when she comes back to me, since she would have made more money sitting with me instead of leaving.
Like Charlie61 says: buy dances(s) plural. Don't be that guy.
I agree with SweetJulia. The dancers are often money driven, however, it might be more money in play than what's there that night. So in the end the answer is still money. It's always about money.

Wait until her stage dance. Tip her while she's on stage and tell her you want to do a dance when she gets done. If she says "sure", then you should be good. Just sit close to the stage. If she's in high demand, which means she has tons of fans or a regular that is there spending, and you get something to the effect of "later" then it won't happen. They're trying to make money.





Maybe the clubs should put up a little flagpole on each table so customers could raise the flag, like in Panchos restaurants
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I just wiggle my tongue at her as I tip her onstage.


I would recommend against this. At my club at least, we don't know when we'll be on stage and neither do you. I could've just gotten off stage or could not be on for a while. I might even be getting ready to leave and therefore not go back on stage at all (but be willing to stay if I knew I'd be getting some money). I would not count on being able to grab her from stage, and I wouldn't want to wait that long anyway.
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Fo' realzies. I'm a non-violent person (like, I literally do not have the capacity for physical violence). But when customers poke their tongues out at me (usually to demonstrate their horrifyingly inept oral skills), I have to resist the urge to slap them. So gross. It feels oddly violating to me.

Uhm...no mam, I said to tell her you'd like to buy a dance when she is done with her stage time. This way when her stage time is complete she can come down to you so you can buy a lap dance. I am not saying to hijack her from the stage.
If they are not busy and not on stage then just go up to the dancer and say you'd like to do a dance. Absolutely. A lot of times though dancers that are in high demand are either with customers or always doing dances so it really does get difficult to get their attention.
Something else I thought of....if your club has waitresses, you could ask the waitress to bring over a specific dancer.


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