I recently visited my hometown which is a good 5 hour drive from where I live. While down there a good friend of mine was saying she was wanting to take a trip to my city soon, no dates or anything like that discussed. I told her to let me know and of course she could crash with me if she were to visit.
Fast forward to a few days later, I'm home now. I get a text from her saying she's not sure if she will be able to come up anytime soon due to financial issues, I say no worries just let me know because it'd be a fun visit etc.
The next morning, without asking my plans for the day or anything she straight up announces that she and her boyfriend are on the way up. Now I realize this is partially my own doing as I should have made it clear that a few days of warning would have been expected. Meanwhile due to a surgery that I just got over, my place is a disaster due to not being able to clean it (as in physically could not which is why I left town) and I'm also low on money. In other words I am in no place to house guests. I will be in about 4 days since my place will be clean by then (it's a bit of a project) and I'll have been allowed to return to work by then.
Once again, I totally realize this is my own doing since I wrongfully assumed they'd give me a heads up a few days in advance. I told them my situation and said I'm not going to leave them in the dust with no place to crash but preferably they would stay elsewhere. They stayed at a hotel last night and their other good friend who lives nearby of course is out of town so they can't stay there.
I don't know what to do, I just barely have money for my own necessities and my place is still a mess. I'm super stressed since even with having been actively cleaning there is a lot left and I was planning to do this as a day by day thing.
Another annoying thing is I texted them early this morning to double check their plans for the day, since I did say I'd help them I figured at least then I'd have all day to clean. It's now late afternoon and I just now hear back from them. This happened yesterday as well - I told her as soon as she stated she was otw now wasn't a good time and she didn't reply until she was already halfway here. Because of her late response, i assumed she figured something out and went ahead and made plans tonight, which now I guess I'll have to be changing.
What should I do at this point? I have no clue how much money they brought or anything nor are they good at keeping me updated on their plans. I don't want to center my whole day around their visit. Technically they don't know my address yet, I could easily snake them but I do value her friendship so idk what to do



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