I'm new to this site, and joined to possibly get some advice and opinions on a situation I recently found myself in. First off, I know that the last thing that should cross your mind as you go to a club is to become an actual friend or even partner with a dancer... And that was my mind set before all of this happened. The background to this story is I recently broke up with my latest ex due to her cheating on me and losing feelings for me, And a friend that I work with was a regular at a club that is a few minutes away from our work. He invited me to come along with him to the club after work on a Saturday because we typically get out on time on those days. I accepted the invite because I never went to a club before and was curious what the experience would be like and to hopefully have a good night out since I have been single for about a month. So, when we got there and took a seat at the stage (at 7pm; the club was still pretty dead at this time), the dancer on stage immediately had my attention. Completely straight forward, she is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. After her dance on stage, she walked right up to me and asked if I wanted a private dance and I said no thank you, even though I really did want one but it was my first time in a club and was just getting used to the atmosphere. After that night, I knew I wanted to go back again to see her dance again and possibly have a private dance with her, and I knew it was very out there but I was also hoping to just talk with her and get to know her a little bit. So, on the night that I went back, I got there early on a wednesday night and nothing was going on inside the club yet. In about 15 minutes of being there, a dancer came over to me and we talked for a bit. No making me feel like she was just talking to me because she wanted to do a private dance, just having normal conversation. After a while of talking, she asked how old I am (I'm 21) I'm guessing because I'm young for most customers who go there and in pretty good shape, and also asked if I'm there to see someone in particular. I told her who and we talked about that dancer for a bit. Then the girl I went there to see came down in a bit and we talked for a while. She left after like 10 minutes to get ready to go on stage since she was the first one up for that nights show. She came down after her show and talked for like 5 minutes and then we went in the dancing booths for a private dance. We talked afterwards too and then she asked if I'd mind if she tried some other customers. So after some time goes by we talked again for a bit and overall we got along well and had some heart to heart conversations. She said that she will be working both Friday and Saturday after I asked when would be a good time to see her. So? I went to see her on Friday. I got there and the show has started, and after 1 or 2 dancers dance on stage, she was up. I was sitting at the spot I Sat the previous days I was there and she instantly noticed me, smiling at me. Throughout her dance on stage she paid a lot of attention to me. Dancing in front of Me a lot, said a few things to me, etc. After her stage dance, she came up to me and talked for a bit and I asked if we can have a private session and we did. Throughout the private dances (3 of them in a row) she got really into me. Like, she smiled at me a lot, let me suck on her nipples, kiss her neck, she had me grab her boobs a lot, smack her ass, and she was totally getting into it with me. (Just being straight forward to tell the whole story) after the last dance, I was hesitant in telling her that when she does dances with me, I get the feeling of wanting to make out with her and before I came out and said it, she was like "do I ever get horny with you", laughed in a good way, and said "yes all the time, babe" and then I told her I get horny when she dances too but then told her I'm trying to tell her I felt like making out with her, and she said "that thought crosses my mind a lot too, but my boss is here today and I can't get caught doing that". Later that night, she asked if we could exchange numbers over Snapchat (she asked for my snapchat last time I was in) and I got her number that night. After that, I knew she was into me and likes me. So we talked almost every day but usually only for about 10 texts a time due to our work schedules and how busy she is with her going to the gym and traveling for work (about an hour drive one way for her). We kept in contact and after about a month from the time we met, she told me she was going on a trip and we won't be able to see each other till next week (I'd usually go to see her at work 2x a week), and I mentioned to her that maybe we can plan to hang out outside of work one day and she said maybe when she gets back. Well, she kinda dropped off the face of the earth. She hasn't been on snapchat in days, and hasn't responded to any of the 2 or 3 texts I sent her. At this point, I don't know what to think... If she decided she doesn't want to be friends outside of work, or if she's just been busy, or just doesn't want to talk to me. I doubt it's the topic of seeing each other outside of work because that wasn't the first time we talked about it. She really is such a sweet woman, and she's super cool and we get along great. As I said before, I know that the last thing anyone should expect is to become friends with a dancer, but this situation is different. I'm actually sad and feel like she all of a sudden stopped liking me or wanting to be friends. If I what to do :/ the next day she works is wednesday, which is coming up so I know I'll most likely see her then, but I don't know how to go about asking her what happened. I know this question is more of a typical guy/girl advice kinda thing, but she is a dancer and this situation is unique due to that so I though in hope that maybe someone on here can help me out. - Eddie



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But that is okay, you are still young and still new to clubs.


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