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    Default Re: In this industry is it really hard to make friends?Warning:Generalization alert.

    This is so relevant right now because while my old club was like a family and I still keep in touch with a few girls, I am now in the position of trying to figure out who to trust (at least when at work and only to a point), and who to avoid. I was blown away by how nice everyone was at first, but then another girl pulled me aside and said that they were the same with her until about a month then and then they ostracized her completely and used everything she told them against her. The way I think I'm going to do it is to trust a little but not to tell anyone anything really important. I keep my earnings and my family life private. But you can meet great people in this industry, its just difficult when we are all professional liars lol

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    Default Re: In this industry is it really hard to make friends?Warning:Generalization alert.

    Quote Originally Posted by Layla.00 View Post
    Maybe I'm really lucky but I've became friends with plenty of dancers at work. There's a couple of girls who I have become close to and we have spent a lot of time together in our "real life". We know each other partners and families, we have gone on vacation together, we can call each other up when we need a favour and do things like drive each other to the airport when need be.

    Some of girls are my friends only at work and we don't hang out outside of the club. Not intentionally but because it just doesn't sense due to our schedules or lifestyles. A lot of the girls are mothers, which means that while I'm sleeping all day and catching up on SW, they are busy parenting and balancing the lifestyle of a stripper. We watch each others backs, help each other out when we need baby wipes or tampons, keep each other posted on customers who are gross or aggressive and keep each other in the loop when there's a customer who isn't into my look but is totally into whatever the other has going on. We hustle together when it makes sense, complain to each other when management is being unreasonable and listen to one another about our day to day personal problems.

    It takes a while to get to that level and it takes me some time to read a person. But I think it's a nice thing to have at work and generally I prefer this to open hostility or not talking to anyone else. I'm an extroverted person and I imagine that working at a place where I view everyone as competition and a bitch just wouldn't be fun for me. Of course the number one thing reason for going to work is making money and I always keep that in mind and no one gets in the way of that.
    This. I always make friends at work tbh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AlwaysAutumn View Post
    This is so relevant right now because while my old club was like a family and I still keep in touch with a few girls, I am now in the position of trying to figure out who to trust (at least when at work and only to a point), and who to avoid. I was blown away by how nice everyone was at first, but then another girl pulled me aside and said that they were the same with her until about a month then and then they ostracized her completely and used everything she told them against her. The way I think I'm going to do it is to trust a little but not to tell anyone anything really important. I keep my earnings and my family life private. But you can meet great people in this industry, its just difficult when we are all professional liars lol
    This is why I'm friendly to everyone but don't actually tell them any of my business.

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    I actually got along well with most of the dancers I worked with...but I learned to leave the friendships at work...Not because they were crazy/mean/manipulative or bad people, but because a lot of them turned out to be addicts-alcohol, drugs, sex, abusive relationships, etc. It happens easily. Even if you weren't an addict before, now you suddenly have the time and money to feed an addiction, and the stress of the industry to make you want to escape, or cling to the shitty boyfriend for a sense of stability. Stripping can really fuck with your head and a lot of people just don't handle it well. If you get close to them, you get mixed up in their drama. Always proceed with caution.

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    I've been doing this for 6 months but from my experience. Stay to yourself, a lot of these girls got some real fucking problems. In real life or maybe jealousy, if they act nice it could be because they up to no good. By far I had bad experience. Nosey, gossip, rude, and unforgiving. Not saying all girls but I wouldn't even bother with those crazy bitches

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    I agree with the above. It's far better to keep a professional distance and don't treat it like a normal workplace because you have abnormal mentally off and predatory/abusive folks in these clubs.
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    It's been known to happen, but it's like in reality tv when contestants say: "I didn't come here to make friends!" I keep to myself at work but I'm friendly to everyone as long as we stay in our respective lanes.

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    Default Re: In this industry is it really hard to make friends?Warning:Generalization alert.

    After all these years I look at it like this- dancers have a stressful job & anyone too stupid to appreciate that doesn't need to be in your personal life.

    I've had a few nice friendships with some girls but they were in passing, AKA you can have the same sorts of work friendships with dancers as you do at regular workplaces.

    I really don't think about it anymore. Everyone is on their own path/journey in life.

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    Default Re: In this industry is it really hard to make friends?Warning:Generalization alert.

    Quote Originally Posted by baby-cougar View Post
    It's been known to happen, but it's like in reality tv when contestants say: "I didn't come here to make friends!" I keep to myself at work but I'm friendly to everyone as long as we stay in our respective lanes.
    I always think of work too when I hear reality show people say that. It's really the same, the goal is to make money and be friendly but not friends

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