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    Hi, I am building up my regulars. So I have a lovely gentleman who used to come to see me almost every week, so I gave my number and keep a conversation also outside the club. .. But after texting him, I noticed he used to spend less on me. Of course if he is having y+x =£ why he should pay ££=x?.. Btw I am try to correct the things and try to be more mysterious/distant. How often shall I text him. I text him almost every day. Plus what shall I focus in our conversations? I don't want to sound like 'I hope to see you next week' all the time, but neither text him pointlessly. Please any advice, from costumers or dancers with a similar experience?

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    Oh no, they all seem to do this, they spend n spend trying to get your # then when u give it to them the $$ declines cause u are giving too much in my opinion. I don't do this cause of this reason rt here. Then all they do is wanna take u out n waste ur damn time fuck that see me its or not at all, don't have time to think about them when I'm not there. I just say don't do it again unless theres an unusual circumstance or if you do extras. And stop texting him much.

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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    Default Re: How to keep a good relationship wirh a costumer trough texts and sending pics.

    I am maybe not the proper target audience for this. I only see my favorite every month, if that.

    > How often shall I text him.
    > I text him almost every day.
    > Plus what shall I focus in our conversations?
    > Please any advice, from costumers or dancers with a similar experience?

    What could you or she send to entice me, as a customer, to return to the club to spend? Send 2 sexy teaser pics at random on a Friday morning, once a month, if even that often, with the line "I'm horny, lol" or with the line "just because." It would be a nice *unexpected* pick-me-up. I've probably had a long week (or month!) at work. It's probably been a while since I've seen you ITC. The pics alone will motivate me to finish up my work and come see you soon. Skip the texts and convo, just send pics. Or just send your schedule. That works too.


    ETA: I'd only expect a text from her if she suddenly changed clubs or her schedule to the point I would no longer be able to find her. That's the real reason and the only reason she has my telephone number -- to make sure I can find her.
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    Text him when you'll be at the club. There's no reason to be engaging in daily conversations about nothing. The point of sharing your number and communicating outside the club is to get him to come back to the club to spend money on you. If you work often or he comes to see you sporadically, maybe shoot him a text at the beginning of the week letting him know when you'll be in, otherwise a short and sweet "miss you, hope to see you later" or something along those lines before going in for a shift is more than enough.

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    Default Re: How to keep a good relationship wirh a costumer trough texts and sending pics.

    Any relationship is about setting boundaries and investment. Everyone is going to have her limits both in timing and topics, especially off the clock. Texting and communicating should be about All Roads Lead Back to the Club. Whatever you talk about lead it to having him come back.

    Ex can be when he's taking too much of your time "I'm a bit busy right now, come and see me tonight" or "I bought a new outfit, come by and check it out" etc. The point is lead it to him coming back and not getting side tracked by distractions.

    Just my 0.02. Good luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dominic.2 View Post
    I am maybe not the proper target audience for this. I only see my favorite every month, if that.

    > How often shall I text him.
    > I text him almost every day.
    > Plus what shall I focus in our conversations?
    > Please any advice, from costumers or dancers with a similar experience?

    What could you or she send to entice me, as a customer, to return to the club to spend? Send 2 sexy teaser pics at random on a Friday morning, once a month, if even that often, with the line "I'm horny, lol" or with the line "just because." It would be a nice *unexpected* pick-me-up. I've probably had a long week (or month!) at work. It's probably been a while since I've seen you ITC. The pics alone will motivate me to finish up my work and come see you soon. Skip the texts and convo, just send pics. Or just send your schedule. That works too.


    ETA: I'd only expect a text from her if she suddenly changed clubs or her schedule to the point I would no longer be able to find her. That's the real reason and the only reason she has my telephone number -- to make sure I can find her.
    Yea this sounds great to a guy but for a stripper this approach will only get you the guy trying to bang you and asking you for dates 24/7, too much

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    Default Re: How to keep a good relationship wirh a costumer trough texts and sending pics.

    I completely understand why many strippers don't feel this is a good investment of their time. But if you willing to extend your business model this way, here's what has worked for me -- by "worked", I mean, I enjoyed the "text relationship" and believe it led to me seeing her much more.

    I regularly text with whoever my current favorite is; in fact, chances are, that's part of the reason she's now my current favorite. I would say for me, a fun texting relationship might as much as double the frequency I see her and overall amount I spend on her. I don't know if that's because I'm a different type of customer than your regular ("appreciate the attention you're giving me" guy vs " familiarity breeds contempt" guy?) or if it's because of the nature of the texting...

    I'm trying to think back about how the texting goes... for me it tends to feel super natural and organic, so I have to actually think about how text conversations usually unfold.
    - I don't think there's a general rule on frequency, although daily seems like a lot
    - I often initiated; I loved those rare times when she initiated. With most, I probably initiated 70% of the texts.
    - There's almost never a sales pitch, which is part of what made it feel organic to me. If anything, I'd be the one getting worked up, and end the conversation with "when are you working this week? I'll see if I can break free" ... which I suppose is a tribute to how effective it can be. Getting texted sales pitches just annoys me, I'd rather not get a text at all -- I start getting "I miss you <3 When are you coming to seeee meeeee" texts, at best I'm not bothering to reply anymore
    - Often the texting was about whatever little things we talk about at the club. If we both love The League, she might text me the next day to make some jokes about it, or better yet, mid-episode to joke about it. If I told her I had a big meeting, she'd ask how it went. At the club she'd tell me she's getting her nails done, and then when she does it, she sends me a pic. It's not uncommon that I'll get sexy pics sometimes under the guise of "just picked this up, thinking about dancing in it, what do you think?". Etc. Again, it's always just felt organic to me, even the sexy pics.
    - I don't need her to keep up some air of mystery; in fact, what makes texting work for me is the reverse. Again, maybe a difference in customer psyche here?
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    ^^ men and women respond to different things, if we were referring to a women customer, YESSS!! the texting is gold for her just not for a male customer or at least a straight one, u give them an inch and they take a mile

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    Hi! Yes, am agree, more u text and more the chances are to get pointless. This guy is very polite and now I text him twice a week. I am thinking of sexy pics with new outfit beginning of week or pics at the beginning of the shift. I need to shift a bit as we are already quiet organic, just want to keep it with a bit of intrigue too. I.e.: Last times he came at club we were too familiar, I set and let him do all the talk, let's say, I entertain bit less last times... as we are ok. I am afraid to forget he still a costumer, no 'only a friend' and I need to keep him surprised and interested. This is what I was meaning regarding be more mysterious (distant). I feel like we getting too familiar. if am able to understand the right way to text and how often will be able to keep him more interested longer and this would be more interesting also for him. Am open to considering meeting him outside too, that case would be another level of meeting. And I don't know if a want to shift at that level. Because in that case we may meet only outside after the first time we meet. Any costumer have that experience before? What do you expect from your favourite striper? Professionally speaking?

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    I'm telling you, it's not worth it. Also, make sure you charge well for meeting him outside the club. PS-be so careful, guys Can totally turn Jekyll Hyde without cameras and bouncers.
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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    Default Re: How to keep a good relationship wirh a costumer trough texts and sending pics.

    Yes, would charge £££ and he is totally fine with that. But to be honest I may prefer to keep on meet him at club only.

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    IMHO you are giving him too much. For a certain % of these guys, the (obviously false) feeling of emotional connection is an important part of the experience. If you are texting with him every day, then he is getting from you for free what he was paying for in the club. If I were you, I would stop texting with him until he comes back to the club to see you again. While a limited amount of texting is not uncommon in keeping guys on that hook, daily texting and long conversations aren't so common in my experience, at least unless the guy is also spending a shit ton on a girl ITC.

    Good luck as you work through this.

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    Default Re: How to keep a good relationship wirh a costumer trough texts and sending pics.

    I only give my number out to good regulars and even then, I only text them to let them know when I will be at the club so they come visit. Exceptionally, I will text them to ask how they are doing and make small conversation if they tip very well, if I haven't seen them in awhile because they are on business trip or I haven't been working due to school. I try to keep it minimal.

    Texting every day is definitely too much.

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    Every day? OMG I wouldn't even want to get out of bed. Please stop giving him so much for free, it's really not worth it.
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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    Default Re: How to keep a good relationship wirh a costumer trough texts and sending pics.

    Yes guys, you definitely right. I am quiet new in this exchanging phone numbers and i am doing so only since January.. Probably in my beginner way... Looks like best to use texts to be redirect him at club. Maybe text him/them from work

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    If you use freetext its pretty cool. I can put my text number on there and I text when I log in/out.
    Google voice also seems okay at times if you dont use click2call.
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    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    IMHO you are giving him too much. For a certain % of these guys, the (obviously false) feeling of emotional connection is an important part of the experience. If you are texting with him every day, then he is getting from you for free what he was paying for in the club. If I were you, I would stop texting with him until he comes back to the club to see you again. While a limited amount of texting is not uncommon in keeping guys on that hook, daily texting and long conversations aren't so common in my experience, at least unless the guy is also spending a shit ton on a girl ITC.

    Good luck as you work through this.
    This sounds about right. I don't see why you'd need to talk to him everyday. He needs to implicitly understand and accept the dynamic of paying for your time for you to really take advantage. Don't meet anybody outside the club. You're putting yourself at risk.

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    Personally would text them every other day and keep watch for updates but, everyday would be worse than screeching forks on a plate.
    When push comes to shove don't care to push, otherwise it morphs into a cat and mouse conversation..

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    I used to do this, and I have found nothing good comes of it. They usually want to talk 24/7, they then think you are "friends" and won't spend the same money.

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    Default Re: How to keep a good relationship wirh a costumer trough texts and sending pics.

    It can work but you need to be selective. Get to know the customer before considering it.

    As a customer I am on two dancer's text lists, in both cases they offered the number to me, I did not push them for their numbers. Mutually we respect each others privacy, but I can attest to the fact that a flirtatious text with available times WILL encourage more visits (and income). When I do show up I am treated especially well.

    Often (actually like today) I will get a 'thank you' text after I leave.

    That works, but ONLY with guys who are willing to be gentlemen.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Grace108 View Post
    Hi, I am building up my regulars. So I have a lovely gentleman who used to come to see me almost every week, so I gave my number and keep a conversation also outside the club. .. But after texting him, I noticed he used to spend less on me. Of course if he is having y+x =£ why he should pay ££=x?.. Btw I am try to correct the things and try to be more mysterious/distant. How often shall I text him. I text him almost every day. Plus what shall I focus in our conversations? I don't want to sound like 'I hope to see you next week' all the time, but neither text him pointlessly. Please any advice, from costumers or dancers with a similar experience?
    Well personally the girls I have kept as regulars are the ones who regularly check up on me once a week or every few days. Those who only want me to text them when coming in or I have money to spend I have ditched, I get a text from one of those girls every few months "what happened to you? Haven't heard from you or seen you in months?". Well my feeling is if I am last on her list by her only wanting to talk to me when money is exchanged then she is also last on my list of dancers to see. It is like the saying don't make people in your life a priority who treat you like they are last on their list. I want to feel needed and appreciated and frequent texts make me feel that way and they encourage me to spend more on a dancer and see her more often. I figure if she is going to do this for me then I will reward her with more time and money. That is why I got one dancer been seeing OTC for past 2 and half years every 2-4 weeks, she always text messages me and treats me like a priority instead of someone who is just last on he list. I also have 2 others girls found made regulars because they frequently checked up on me and charge a low price. I just pay dancers OTC for dances and dinner & movie dates nothing sexual.

    I will say though texting everyday is a little excessive and unnecessary, once a week to check up on a customer is sufficient.
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    Thanks for sharing your personal experience. Although my situation with this regular is changed. Intact since May I am in a higher club, which is the other side of city and no very handy anymore for him. More over is a very strict club and yes was giving bit of extra to him, no much really, but now is no possible anymore and the situation is over. I am keeping a different relationship with regulars via text now. Bit sorry as this guy was fun and generous, but in the other hand I try to make him come at new club and he came only once. Is no working anymore. So I am giving up. I hope to build up new good regulars.

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