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    Hello. I was hoping for some information and advice. My girlfriend and I are planning to visit a strip club together in the near future. I'm a 26 year old guy and have only once been to a club. I was just 18 and went with some friends, didn't stay very long and I was too shy to get a lapdance. She's never been to one but she actually really wants to. I have little to no experience with this.

    Is it unusual for couples to go to a strip club together? How does it work with lap dances, do couples get dances together or does it have to be one person at a time? How much money should I bring with me, and do I have to bring a lot of singles?

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    Where I live (PDX), it's VERY common for couples to go to strip clubs. It may not be common where you are--this varies by state and country. Every club I've been to offers couple's lap dances, and they can be a ton of fun. At my club, it costs significantly more to get a couple's dance, so be prepared to pay double whatever the going rate for lap dances in your city is.

    I would plan on bringing a few hundred dollars in cash--whatever you can afford and plan to spend. You can get singles at any strip club from the bar or waitress, but ATM charges are insane at every strip club so don't plan on withdrawing any cash there.

    Some couples are awesome, and I've really enjoyed dancing for a few of them. Others--the majority, unfortunately--are annoying as hell. Here's how to be the good kind of couple:

    -Tip the girls--for both of you! Even if you're not comfortable sitting at the rack (the chairs directly next to the stage), go up to the stage and put a few dollars down regularly. Have her do it too! Please don't be the couple that orders a drink, sits at a table, stares at every girl, and never puts a dollar down. And DEFINITELY don't be the couple at the rack that doesn't tip or only tips for one person. We work for tips only! We don't get a wage to dance. Working for free SUCKS.

    -Women and couples tend to push boundaries more consistently than men do. Please don't be that couple either. If you're not sure what you can touch, ask the dancer--she'll be happy to let you know.

    -Your girl's never been to the strip club and she thinks it's going to be fun. Some girls--myself included--have a BLAST going to strip clubs with their boyfriends. Others discover that they're a lot more jealous than they thought they would be. Pay attention to your girlfriend's mood. If she starts getting quiet, or sullen, or starts loudly talking shit about the dancers (this happens more than you'd think), step outside and talk to her about it. Be prepared to leave the club and go somewhere else to talk if you need to. Hopefully this won't happen, but I've seen a lot of ugly fights at strip clubs and it's better to avoid that.

    -On a similar note, a lot of dancers won't approach couples, because sometimes the girlfriend gets mean or resentful. If you like a dancer and think you might like to get a lap dance from her, go to her and ask her to join you at your table. Or, better yet, have your girlfriend do it! You're probably going to have to be assertive to get what you want.

    -You might--with your girlfriend's knowledge--want to scout out the club you're planning to go to. Not all clubs are created equal. Some clubs are disgusting, depressing places, and taking her to a club like that could mean the end of your strip club adventures. Check it out yourself, or get recommendations from a friend you trust.

    I hope you go and have fun! I LOVE going to strip clubs with my husband when I'm not working, it's a blast and I think more couples should do it. Let us know how it goes!

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    It's very common for couples to go to strip clubs. So dont be shy! Just be respectful of the dancers and tip them well on stage. If you decide to get a lap dance, it's totally up to you and the dancer how you do it. It also depends on the club's rules. Some couples get the dance together, some do it separately, it all depends on what you're most comfortable with. Definitely bring lots of singles, especially if you plan on sitting at the stage to watch the girls dance. As for how much money to bring, do some internet research on how the prices are like at the strip club you want to go to. Bring enough money to get one lap dance/private dance and to tip the girl you do the dance with.

    Find out how many girls are working the night that you decide to go to get an idea of how many girls you will have to tip on stage. If you want to make a good impression, tip $5 or more for each song she dances to. And make sure you and your girlfriend tip the dancers individually on stage! Good luck and have fun!

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    If you want to keep a vast majority of dancers at bay, by all means bring in outside vagina. It's advice I give to my cash strapped male friends. If I see civilian vagina I treat each case like a rabid dog.
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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    Bring a nice stack of 1's or 2's and at least $100-$200 for dances ( more obviously if the budget allows ).
    Be generous and easy going and you'll have a blast.
    Keep in mind that ( overall ) couples can be notoriously cheap so they often get skipped when dancers go around asking for dances. Simply ask your favorites if they have time to dance for you if you encounter this.

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    I can not second Miss_Red enough for her mentioning paying attention to how your girlfriend feels! I've seen so many couples where the girl insists she's okay then things go sour quickly. Last time I was in I had a couple that was watching me from the bar then the guy moved up to tip me while he was waiting for his wife to freshen up. We were chatting and she came over and started chatting with us. She seemed tense but friendly enough. Lo' and behold, he gives me another tip while telling me how pretty I am and she grabs his dick and twists HARD!

    He didn't see it coming because he was more into his own fun than making sure she was having fun too. Check in on her even if things seem fine and don't push her into trying things she's clearly not comfortable with. Just keep communication open and keep it light-hearted and fun and I'm sure you'll have a wonderful time!

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    Everything Miss_Red said is spot on.

    If anything, don't go into the club as a "couple." Go there with the mentality that she's the real customer and you are just there for emotional support to help her feel comfortable. Make it about her going to the club and she won't feel as if she is competing with the dancers for your attention.

    The part about women/couples pushing boundaries more than men? If a staff member reminds your lady of the rules, support the staff member. In my (limited) experience most men seem to instinctively understand the rules, but a fair number of women don't understand that the rules apply to them as well. You are the key link between the staff and her club experience/behavior, so you may be able to divert any issues better than we can.

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    Just please don't go unless you're planning on spending a decent amount of money.
    It might be a good idea to talk about the kind of experience you're both looking for before you get to the club. Nothing worse than dancing for a couple and the girl starts getting all pissy because she doesn't like what she's seeing. You can start with her getting a dance without you, and then get one together, but be sure you know what she wants to do not do (if it's a touching club is she alright with that?)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kzrk View Post
    If anything, don't go into the club as a "couple." Go there with the mentality that she's the real customer and you are just there for emotional support to help her feel comfortable. Make it about her going to the club and she won't feel as if she is competing with the dancers for your attention.

    This is perfect advice. Today this couple came in and they both seemed happy and stoked to be there, and the girl was feeling adventurous and the guy was focusing on how hot it was to him that his wife was there, and they were fine while he stayed on that topic. They were tipping really well and she seemed to be having fun. BUT then the husband switched from just being like "it's hot to see a girl on your lap" to his wife to telling me he thought I was sexy and she tensed up immediately. It's not just "uncool" or overly jealous wives who get like this, I think a lot of girls don't expect to feel uncomfortable but then tense up when the situation is less in her control. Compliment the girls by giving them money but keep the verbal compliments on your wife!!!!! For her sake and for ours, it's a terrible feeling to see a girl hurt and knowing it pertains to us :/

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shy89 View Post
    Is it unusual for couples to go to a strip club together? How does it work with lap dances, do couples get dances together or does it have to be one person at a time? How much money should I bring with me, and do I have to bring a lot of singles?
    It is not unusual, but usually I stay away from couples. You can get dances together or one person at a time. I suggest that you yourself don't get dances alone. Watch or get one with her. Bring 100-200 for dances, plus tip money. The club will have one's in case you need them.

    PLEASE make sure your girl is aware:

    *Don't touch the dancers. Just because she's a girl does not make her exempt from the no-touching rules.

    *She herself is not allowed to give you a lap dance in the club. She can do that after you guys go home.

    For you:

    Be complimentary of her and attentive to her mood, and don't stare too hard at the other women in the room. Make her feel like the prettiest one there.

    For both of you:

    Please don't make out in the club. Usually that isn't allowed.

    Don't try to get the dancers to go home with you. They can't and they won't.


    Have fun, but please make sure she's having more fun.

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    Or better yet, leave the outside vagina at home!!!! You don't go to a restaurant and bring food do you??? (Saw this on a Jacq the stripper comic)
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    Lol Tempest! Your awesome! I'm glad to hear Clubs in other spots of the country are more adaptive to couples going in. I live in Tucson, AZ. Out here basically if you go with anyone, a guy, a girl, just the fact you have someone with you, the ladies tend to avoid you.

    I remember one time I was talked into tagging along with a friend from work to a place called "Tens". For some reason she wanted to goto this more upscale club, rather than my usual hole in the wall. Don't get me wrong, this place has gorgeous girls! However if and when one of them do decide to approach you, don't expect an A game social engineer sweet talking you into a trip to the ATM! No rapport game with these girls at all! At best if you go alone and look like a fresh kill you'll get a drive by "Do you want a dance?". If you say no she's gone in a flash! And if you say yes, you better have her money in your hand as your saying it! Because she doesn't take bitcoins dude!

    My friend wanted a dance, and I already knew she was burnt! I thought up something quick! My usual 20 different packs of gum laid out on my table during free taco night wasn't gonna cut it! I literally covered the entire surface of the table with 20 dollar bills chumming the waters for her! 2 hours went by and the only one that approached us was the Server with more drinks lol

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    I respect what's being said but I guess I'm odd but I like going to strip clubs with my boyfriend. It's not to be "the cool girlfriend" I just like going. I tip well and like to buy dances. It's fun. The girls never seem weird or avoidant. But then again, I am confident and ok with myself and being a dancer myself know how to act properly. I also don't drink or act stupid and attention-seeking.
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    Quote Originally Posted by RyanXO View Post
    I respect what's being said but I guess I'm odd but I like going to strip clubs with my boyfriend. It's not to be "the cool girlfriend" I just like going. I tip well and like to buy dances. It's fun. The girls never seem weird or avoidant. But then again, I am confident and ok with myself and being a dancer myself know how to act properly. I also don't drink or act stupid and attention-seeking.
    I don't count current or former strippers as part of the uterine sector hoi polloi. Almost all of the "unicorns" that pop in are off duty strippers.
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