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    OK mock if you want but there is a bbw lapdance night coming up and I am a size 18. Also 30 and boobs are flat. Its all part of a bbw UK promotional thing.

    I have been working on the webcam and built up a decent size UK following so the actual stripping part is not an issue as they already pay a decent price for that already.

    I need to do 2 stage shows so I get I need 2 different outfits but what type of music do clubs play? Pretty much learnt to walk in 3" heels so I need to start putting together a routine for the stage shows.

    Whats the best way to collect tips. Its more of a way for me to do pre paid Skype shows with a voucher system as there is nothing about bbw lapdances or stageshows.

    I am about worried about being felt up as on webcam its just me in a room with huge dildos

    If you could just point me to some links or info I would be greatful.

    Yeah I imagine your wondering what a bbw doing this is going to look like but I really could do with some advice as all the USA stuff is touch based and you cant do that in the UK

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    Sorry .. I want to offer advice because there isn't a lot of British girls on here but I'm having a hard time understanding your post.

    You're an experience BBW cam girl and are looking to start dancing at a club in the UK? Or you're doing a one night promo thing at a club that is having a BBW night in the UK?

    Are you from the UK? Or are you traveling there for this BBW night?

    Which club is it and in which city?

    As for music, most places let you choose your own music or your own genre. Find some songs that you like and practice to them. If you don't let the DJ know or they don't let you choose, they will likely play top 40's pop/hip hop/trap. I found that British clubs are have more dance music and pop than hip hop, trap and rnb but I haven't danced at many clubs in the UK.

    As for collecting tips, you'll probably be making money off of selling dances or VIP rooms. These dances or VIP rooms will have a set price per dance or per 15/30/60 minutes. The club may or may not take a cut off of each dance/VIP room you sell. Likely the customer will pay you and then at the end of the night you have to give the club back whatever their percentage is. Different clubs have different ways of doing this.

    You may get tips while on stage but I think this happens in the US a lot more then it happens in the UK, so I wouldn't really expect it. In fact, British clubs seem to not really have a strong empathizes on stage shows, so I wouldn't worry about being able to do tricks or anything fancy. Just move slow and have fun.

    You can also ask for tips on top of what the set dance prices are but in my experience the British customers weren't very good tippers. There's loads of different ways to ask for tips and there's a good amount of information about that on SW if you do a search. But the bulk of your money will likely be made by customers getting dances from you.

    " I am about worried about being felt up as on webcam its just me in a room with huge dildos " ... what do you mean by this?


    Quote Originally Posted by Selenasecret View Post
    OK mock if you want but there is a bbw lapdance night coming up and I am a size 18. Also 30 and boobs are flat. Its all part of a bbw UK promotional thing.

    I have been working on the webcam and built up a decent size UK following so the actual stripping part is not an issue as they already pay a decent price for that already.

    I need to do 2 stage shows so I get I need 2 different outfits but what type of music do clubs play? Pretty much learnt to walk in 3" heels so I need to start putting together a routine for the stage shows.

    Whats the best way to collect tips. Its more of a way for me to do pre paid Skype shows with a voucher system as there is nothing about bbw lapdances or stageshows.

    I am about worried about being felt up as on webcam its just me in a room with huge dildos

    If you could just point me to some links or info I would be greatful.

    Yeah I imagine your wondering what a bbw doing this is going to look like but I really could do with some advice as all the USA stuff is touch based and you cant do that in the UK

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    Default Re: Bbw lapdance night

    Sorry hunny. Brain was spinning out over this.

    OK there is a special bbw lapdance event coming up in the UK and I have been asked to attend. It should have about 100 - 200 presold tickets. It requires private dances and stage dances.

    I have requested the dimentions of the stage or I can plot out where I am to what part of the music is on.

    I am drawing it out in the garden so I can work out how many steps etc.

    I need to pick 2 songs and come up with a routine for the stage part. Which is why I wanted to know what type of music clubs use.

    I have been a webcam girl a while now thats involved stripping and basically live sex acts but dancing about on stage is a bit daunting for me or being so close to the guys.

    I am a bit worried about a guy grabbing me trying to get me to touch him. Or getting groped/touched up by them.

    I have been told they are happy for me to sell pre paid Skype shows so I will be taking a diary with me for this. But how to collect tips and hold tips is a bit of a blank spot. There are 10bbw confirmed for this night.

    I know how to strip as I do it on webcam several times a day its putting on the stage show so its not rubbish thats the issue for me and collecting money.

    I have managed to get used to 3" heels I just need to dance in them.

    Sorry about the first post my mind was running to fast in panic.

    I was expecting comments like what if you fell off stage and killed someone or fatty jokes.

    I know an event of bbw women is a bit strange. But there isnt very much in the UK for bbw women. However there are alot of bbw fans in the area where the event is being held.

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    Default Re: Bbw lapdance night

    Different strokes for different folks -- they're having an event for it, so it doesn't seem so unheard of. I'm sure you'll do fine.

    Contact levels will vary from club to club. In some clubs, guys will be used to copping a feel on the main stage with no objection from the girls or the bouncers, and in others that's strictly not allowed. A good portion of the ones I've worked in fall closer to the latter side of the spectrum. Since you're planning a show and are coming in more as a feature, you have the benefit of an excuse to limit time, attention, and contact. When someone comes up to tip you, you can make a show of being excited, maybe kneel down and shimmy your shoulders so your boobs jiggle, or some such, and then just hold out your thong or garter for them to put their tip in. Or just take their tip with your hand. Because you're putting on a show, you probably don't have a lot of time to be rubbing up all over everyone who comes to give you a couple bucks. Just a couple seconds of attention given more or less at arm's length will probably be fine. Keeping your distance and keeping the encounter brief will both help minimize the risk of customers groping you on stage. There might still be a risk, again, depending on the club, but every little bit, rights?

    With lapdances, you can let them know you don't allow touching before the dance starts. You can also just start dancing, and if they try anything, correct them then. You might find it beneficial to stick more or less with an air dance. I'm not sure what the norm is in the UK as far as contact levels go, but even if contact levels err on the higher side, your being a feature/special occasion can help shake up the rules in your favor a bit. Plus, if you're coming from camming, air dances might be the most natural option for you, something you have the highest arsenal and most experience with. The smoother and more seductive, the less likely they'll be to complain about the lack of contact. Again, this might not even be an issue at your club. If it is, you have the final say in all contact issues. If he goes to a stripclub looking for anything more than a dance, that's his problem, not yours.

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    Hey girl ... there's no such thing as strange in the stripping world. I am sure you are a beautiful, experienced, web cam model. You've been asked to perform at this event, which likely means that the event organizers like what they see and believe that their customer will be pleased!

    The majority of girls on here would not make rude jokes like that. I haven't been around here for that long but it seems like an open minded bunch here and the mods are good too. We all know that everyone has their tastes and preferences and we all understand that different things work for different girls.

    One reason why you might not get so many responses is because this is a really unique situation which most of us likely don't have experience in. But I'll try anyways ..

    Are you being paid to perform on the BBW night? I think this would be fairly uncommon in the UK but maybe it's different because this event is very unique. If you are being paid to perform from the ticket sales, I would assume that they expect you to have a prepared routine of some kind. Maybe not the most elaborate thing but something wore then walking around the pole (which is what I noticed most of the girls did in the UK). I wouldn't stress out too much about this though. Maybe if you let us know what club this event is happening at, someone who has worked there can give you a better idea about the stage situation at that particular place.

    The club will likely let you choose your own music. To be safe, you can stay within the top 40 genre, which is what they'll be playing anyways. But if you prefer dancing to other genres, just ask them and see what they think. DJs can accommodate lots of types of music and if you're being specifically asked to perform there, they'll likely be even more flexible.

    I can understand the anxiety that you are likely feeling about going from the webcam world to the strip club world. The element of physically being with your customers must be really daunting. This is the biggest difference between the two jobs and I think it's why some web cam girls never want to cross into the strip club world. I think a lot of new dancers feel this anxiety to a certain extent, having a stranger in your personal space and trusting them enough not to hurt you and violate your boundaries.

    I think you'll find that in the UK the contact laws are really strict compared to what you'll read from posters coming from other countries. When I danced in Bristol the customers weren't even allowed to hug you after a dance in the VIP. It was strictly no contact. There was cameras everywhere and bouncers pretty much watching all of your dances. If a customer brushed your leg by accident, they would get a warning by the bouncer. After one warning, you get kicked out. If they touched your ass or your boobs in any way, they get kicked out. Its up to you to follow the clubs rules, establish your own boundaries and know how to react in situations where a customer is being pushy. Those situations will come up and you always have the power to say fuck it and end the dance.

    Will you be doing private dances or only stage shows? Attempts at contact will likely be more common in private areas vs on the stage. The customer would have to be pretty brazen to grab at you in front of all the bouncers and would likely result in a swift ejection from the club. The majority of the customers will likely be well enough behaved but you can always keep away from the edge of the stage if you really want to keep a distance from you and them.

    I'm assuming you'll want to promote your webcam show that night? You could get a little outfit with the website printed on the back? You could make business cards with your details to hand out to customers. You could try to upsell prepaid Skype shows after private dances or while chatting with customers. You could tell customers that the dances you do online are more explicit and that the club is just a taste of what you're awesome. You could use this as a way to appeal to shy customers that aren't interested in dances but you should always awesome that guys are there with money and that you just need to convince them to spend it on you.

    I would bring a small purse with you. Something for your cash, pen, notebook and business cards if you decide to go that route.

    Good luck! Don't stress!

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    Thanks girls. Its really helpful. The club is in Peterborough so its a fair trek to get there. I would have prefered just private dances and I am going to have to make some touching contact to actually get in their lap. I am only 5' 3" lol.

    I put together a basic routine today so I have multiple routines for private dances but the stage is the most worrying.

    I did 3hrs of zumba today my body can take it even tho I am 15stone or 210lbs. I am actually really fit just body has always been big. I am going to spend all next week in heels dancing to get more used to them. ( all the dildo riding shows paying off)

    Its bbw only event so all the dancers will be large and about 200 guys. So its just like webcam need to make bank.

    Thanks for not just laughing at me. I worked really hard building my webcam show and twitter into a international operation. Just never expecred lapdancing to happen with this but its big in USA.

    Just hope this is a successful night. As its a fair old outlay to spend just to attend the night however I can re use most of it for the webcam shows after.

    Again thank you for the advice.

    Selena xx

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    Well 50 squats a day learning 5" heels. practice dances with guys off swingers site all comes to ahead tomorrow as its game time.

    I been through this forum more times than I can count. Even got used to handjobs with guys other than my hubbie to make more in private.

    I am shitting my pants as I waited week and now its tomorrow.

    Thank you for the kind words above as I reflect on them right now.

    I just hope enough guys with money are at this now so me and the other girls make bank.

    Fingers crossed

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