Hi! I started researching stripping about 2 months ago (literally downloaded every ebook I could find, read a TON of blogs, etc so that I'd be as prepared as possible) and have worked a handful of nights now. I really enjoy it and feel like it's already had a pretty great impact on my life- I'm eating way healthier and exercising daily, being more careful about how I spend my money, feeling way more confident and I have a healthier sex drive, I've been making friends with dancers, etc. It's something I'd REALLY like to keep doing a few nights a week to supplement my income from my day job so I don't have to worry as much about money.
I've had a few long talks with my boyfriend about it and he's pretty adamantly opposed to it. He's always been a little bit more of a prude than me when it comes to stuff like this, and until now we've both just done our best to respect where the other is coming from and talk it through when issues arise. I think he just can't comprehend that it could be a really good thing for me rather than the beginning of a slippery slope into addiction/prostitution/whatever nightmare he's got going on in his head. We've been together for years and there's no doubt in my mind he's my soulmate, so part of me thinks I should just drop this if it really makes him that uncomfortable, but I'm worried I'll come to resent him for basically making me choose between him and something that would allow me to become more financially secure/more confident/etc.
We have a few friends that are dancers and he totally respects what they do, I think he's just uncomfortable with the idea of me being so overtly sexual with other guys. Are there things y'all have said to your SOs that made it easier for them to understand why you want to dance?


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he so far hasn't been able to articulate it beyond "it would just make me uncomfortable" or some variation of that. We've been talking about all of this in a super calm way, trying to work together to help each other see the other's point of view, which is one of the (many) reasons I love him, but I'm getting frustrated because I keep coming back to "I would do it if you didn't essentially tell me I can't" so I feel like things might not stay so undramatic if we keep talking about this.
like you claim then he shouldn't be a bloody hypocrite about you dancing. Why is it ok for other women but not you? Sounds like a case of Madonna\whore complex to me, which further strengthens my conviction that you need to dump him, or at least disregard him. I bet when the Benjamins come in he'll be singing a different tune. They almost always do.


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