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    This is a long story/rant/question, I'm sorry. I'm newish to the strip club scene, about 5-6 times in the last year, and would legitimately like to know, how to behave, shall we say? From your point of view. I really would appreciate any comments.


    Just to paint a picture of me, maybe it helps:


    I think I've got a grasp on the general etiquette, and honestly don't think I would have ever asked this kind of question had I not stumbled on to this forum. By and large I feel like I see a lot of disdain from dancers toward customers, and frankly I'll admit, it has me feeling a little self-conscious about my next trip.


    I have legitimately had a great time every time I've gone to the club. I understand the fantasy behind it all, have no intentions of finding some kind of a girlfriend, zero interest in anything OTC. I don't even use the phone numbers I've been given! Even though there are a few I really enjoy, I like the surprise of just seeing who will be there! When I walk out the door, the fantasy over. I like that about it too.


    I'm a short flight from Las Vegas, which is where I go. With a friend a few times, solo others. I even booked a flight one Friday night around 4:00 PM, left at 7:00, took a taxi straight to my favorite club, and flew home around 8:00 Am the next morning. Why, you ask? Well, why not? It was a ton of fun. I've been wanting to travel more, so am thinking I might mix that in with visiting cities that have good clubs in the U.S. and Canada.


    My usual routine, please feel free to critique:


    1. I like to start at the stage for about two hours; I usually tip $2-5 per dancer. (I just read a post by a dancer stating that tipping $2 over and over is lame. True?)


    2. Within that time, I'll break away for a $20 lap dance with just about any girl who approaches and asks. Can't be easy to approach customes all night, so good for her for asking. Usually they all seem pretty nice anyway. Probably 10+ times in a night.


    3. From there, if there is one I particularly like I will either ask, or usually accept her invitation to 3 songs/10-15 minutes or whatever the combo may be. I have usually done about 5 of those per night.


    4. I go back to the stage in between each of these, but inevitably find a girl I really enjoy being with and will usually do 30 minutes VIP. I did a 1-hour once, but it was too long, became monotonous and the law of diminishing returns took effect (the second half tapered off and was nothing like the first half). For this reason I'll usually do one 30 minute VIP, then another a few hours later, sometimes with the same dancer, sometimes with another.


    5. Finally, I LOVE when a girl I've done VIP with will spend the rest of the time with me, maybe an hour or two, just hanging out at the stage. I try to periodically slip her some cash to make it worth her time, and she splits my stack of ones with me for on-stage tipping. If she needs to go hustle, that is fine. I just hope she comes back, and try to tip appropriately if she does. Hanging at the stage with a dancer, throwing ones at one of her colleagues might be one of my favorite parts of the night.


    All in, I haven't ever left spending less than $1500, and it's usually around $2000. The more I read here the more I do sort of feel like a sucker... as it seems I hear much more about spending $200-300 per night. Maybe those guys don't have as much fun.


    One question I have is about dances. I have NEVER asked permission to do this or that. It never even occured to me. My guess is that is because when you find yourself in an intimate situation in life outside the club, it all happens organically. You don't ask, "can I kiss you?" "Can I touch your bum?" etc. It just starts to happen and if the other person is uncomfortable with something, they tell you, and you move on.


    It's been that way in the club. Maybe my hand is too high up the leg and she either moves it back down or says something about it. I'll move it, and won't even get close again. No problem. You're the boss.


    I have found that different girls have wildly different boundaries, but based on comments here I'm starting to wonder if just because a dancer in the VIP allowed me to touch and whatnot, doesn't mean she was really ok with it. I would feel mortified if that were the case, and it makes me think twice. Comments I read here make me realize that. Posts from dancers such as, "his hands were all over me and he was kissing my neck, but it was worth it for the $$$." It honestly makes me question everything I do. Tell me from your point of view, should a customer literally ask about everything, instead of slowly work towards it and see what kind of reaction you get? Man, I sure hope I'm not coming off like a creep. I just thought asking would be so awkward.


    In conclusion, again, I really do appreciate the club for what it is. It's a transaction. I own a business myself, and I have customers. Each one of them represents $$$ to me, but I do enjoy the company of some customers more than others. As a club-goer, I'd like to be that customer whose company is enjoyed more than others, even though it's all about the money.


    Sorry for the monologue. If you're still here I'd truly be interested in hearing who your ideal customer is. No unicorn customers, "he spends $5,000 a night, just to chat, doesn't even touch me and leaves a rose on his way out the door." But serious, how does one strive to be a good customer?

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    Default Re: My Routine + a Few Comments and Questions from a Customer

    You sound pretty good, to be honest. The vast majority of guys I've seen, at least, do tend to average $2-300/ night, BUT they also come in every week or two, at least. Quite a few come in twice a week, occasionally three. It's also normal for "high rollers" to come in fairly often (at least monthly) and drop the same amount as you or significantly more. Some guys like to pace and spread it out, some go to a club once in a blue moon and maybe only spend $100 max or so while there, and some are like you, who bring enough money to have an absolutely unquestionably good time, and only drop in a few times a year. It all depends on your budget and your personal preference.

    If you don't feel comfortable asking before each move, and I can't blame you, especially if you're new to the scene, you might try asking at the very start (or right before) of the first dance what the dancer's rules are for touching/for hands. If you hands are planted at your sides when you ask that, it can help give the vibe that you'll still be happy to pay her and potentially get a string of dances even if she says no touching at all, so she might be more apt to be upfront and honest with you regarding her boundaries. She won't be as likely to feel the need to lie and grind her teeth and deal with it in order to get paid from you. Every dancer is different, obviously, but it can help. Generally though, drawing the line at touching arms and legs is a safe bet. At the very least, a solid rule of thumb is not to touch anything a bikini would cover. I would definitely recommend against kissing/making out/licking/sucking body parts, because that crosses over into health issue (and if she let you suck her nipples/make out with her neck, you're swapping spit with however many guys got to her before she sat with you) and it's also something that's normally a natural part of the seduction process... but given the environment, it's much, much more likely the dancer is cringing inside but smiling and moaning for you while she reminds herself the money's worth it. Usually paired with the idea that you'll stop buying dances/won't pay her for the current one if she rejects you. When it comes to mouths, it's way way safer to keep that line firmly uncrossed. A safe way to become everyone's favorite customer is to generally keep your touching limited to the arms and legs.

    Ideal customer -- a guy who knows what he wants (or at least a soft idea) and has the money to back it up. The ideal customer also respects boundaries and doesn't try to sexually assault me after I say no, or waste my time trying get me to hook up with him otc, or give him extras itc. The "knowing what he wants" can be as simple as knowing what his budget is (for the night or for me as an individual dancer -- as far as I'm concerned, they're both more or less the same thing) which can help us decide how he wants to spend it/what his options are. Or it can be as specific as "Two hours in the rose room with Veronica, and two gin and tonics while I wait for her/get warmed up." And everything in between. Your system sounds fine because at least you have a system/idea of what you want. And you're okay with spending the money to get it. You go in with a budget, but are okay with actually spending it. From my end, that means I'm probably not going to waste my time if I sit and chat with you, which is a win for everyone.

    A couple dollars over and over to one girl can feel a little sketchy, like you're trying to milk all the attention you can from her for as little money as possible, instead of giving it to her in a lump sum and accepting what she gives you in return in appreciation of your showing your own. If you tip every girl two dollars, don't worry about it. You're a saint for actually tipping while you enjoy the show and paying every entertainer you see. All that said, $2-5 is perfectly fine, especially if you try to tip every girl who comes on. If a girl doesn't like your money, she can give it back. For me, $2 is $2. I'll take it in s heartbeat.

    All in all, you already sound pretty perfect. The main things are respect of boundaries and a lack of bs -- you know what you're there for and what you expect to spend, and you're okay spending it. Sounds pretty close to ideal already.

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    Thanks Candycups, it's good to hear from someone that knows what they're doing. I guess it's all about having a good time, and doing so in a respectful manner (from both parties).

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    Tipping each dancer on stage is great.

    Clubs are different to real life, just ask about touching. Doesn't have to be a dramatic moment, just smile and ask casually.

    Usually you get a better dance, no need to keep dodging hands and be extra cautious.

    Also if you decide you like something in particular and a dancer doesn't offer it, just go to the next one you fancy.

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    Default Re: My Routine + a Few Comments and Questions from a Customer

    Ditto to the other girls, but I'd add that a good approach for touching (IMO) is simply saying "Let me know if I do something out of your boundaries" at the start of the dance. The girl might then just tell you her limits, or will gently correct you if you push too far.
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    Amberlly and Selina, thanks for the responses. Much appreciated and great ideas/tips.

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