This is a long story/rant/question, I'm sorry. I'm newish to the strip club scene, about 5-6 times in the last year, and would legitimately like to know, how to behave, shall we say? From your point of view. I really would appreciate any comments.
Just to paint a picture of me, maybe it helps:
I think I've got a grasp on the general etiquette, and honestly don't think I would have ever asked this kind of question had I not stumbled on to this forum. By and large I feel like I see a lot of disdain from dancers toward customers, and frankly I'll admit, it has me feeling a little self-conscious about my next trip.
I have legitimately had a great time every time I've gone to the club. I understand the fantasy behind it all, have no intentions of finding some kind of a girlfriend, zero interest in anything OTC. I don't even use the phone numbers I've been given! Even though there are a few I really enjoy, I like the surprise of just seeing who will be there! When I walk out the door, the fantasy over. I like that about it too.
I'm a short flight from Las Vegas, which is where I go. With a friend a few times, solo others. I even booked a flight one Friday night around 4:00 PM, left at 7:00, took a taxi straight to my favorite club, and flew home around 8:00 Am the next morning. Why, you ask? Well, why not? It was a ton of fun. I've been wanting to travel more, so am thinking I might mix that in with visiting cities that have good clubs in the U.S. and Canada.
My usual routine, please feel free to critique:
1. I like to start at the stage for about two hours; I usually tip $2-5 per dancer. (I just read a post by a dancer stating that tipping $2 over and over is lame. True?)
2. Within that time, I'll break away for a $20 lap dance with just about any girl who approaches and asks. Can't be easy to approach customes all night, so good for her for asking. Usually they all seem pretty nice anyway. Probably 10+ times in a night.
3. From there, if there is one I particularly like I will either ask, or usually accept her invitation to 3 songs/10-15 minutes or whatever the combo may be. I have usually done about 5 of those per night.
4. I go back to the stage in between each of these, but inevitably find a girl I really enjoy being with and will usually do 30 minutes VIP. I did a 1-hour once, but it was too long, became monotonous and the law of diminishing returns took effect (the second half tapered off and was nothing like the first half). For this reason I'll usually do one 30 minute VIP, then another a few hours later, sometimes with the same dancer, sometimes with another.
5. Finally, I LOVE when a girl I've done VIP with will spend the rest of the time with me, maybe an hour or two, just hanging out at the stage. I try to periodically slip her some cash to make it worth her time, and she splits my stack of ones with me for on-stage tipping. If she needs to go hustle, that is fine. I just hope she comes back, and try to tip appropriately if she does. Hanging at the stage with a dancer, throwing ones at one of her colleagues might be one of my favorite parts of the night.
All in, I haven't ever left spending less than $1500, and it's usually around $2000. The more I read here the more I do sort of feel like a sucker... as it seems I hear much more about spending $200-300 per night. Maybe those guys don't have as much fun.
One question I have is about dances. I have NEVER asked permission to do this or that. It never even occured to me. My guess is that is because when you find yourself in an intimate situation in life outside the club, it all happens organically. You don't ask, "can I kiss you?" "Can I touch your bum?" etc. It just starts to happen and if the other person is uncomfortable with something, they tell you, and you move on.
It's been that way in the club. Maybe my hand is too high up the leg and she either moves it back down or says something about it. I'll move it, and won't even get close again. No problem. You're the boss.
I have found that different girls have wildly different boundaries, but based on comments here I'm starting to wonder if just because a dancer in the VIP allowed me to touch and whatnot, doesn't mean she was really ok with it. I would feel mortified if that were the case, and it makes me think twice. Comments I read here make me realize that. Posts from dancers such as, "his hands were all over me and he was kissing my neck, but it was worth it for the $$$." It honestly makes me question everything I do. Tell me from your point of view, should a customer literally ask about everything, instead of slowly work towards it and see what kind of reaction you get? Man, I sure hope I'm not coming off like a creep. I just thought asking would be so awkward.
In conclusion, again, I really do appreciate the club for what it is. It's a transaction. I own a business myself, and I have customers. Each one of them represents $$$ to me, but I do enjoy the company of some customers more than others. As a club-goer, I'd like to be that customer whose company is enjoyed more than others, even though it's all about the money.
Sorry for the monologue. If you're still here I'd truly be interested in hearing who your ideal customer is. No unicorn customers, "he spends $5,000 a night, just to chat, doesn't even touch me and leaves a rose on his way out the door." But serious, how does one strive to be a good customer?



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