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Last edited by BambiCutie; 05-22-2016 at 02:14 PM.
You apologized for YOUR behavior? Because you pulled his dick out and put it in another woman??
Read what Dan Savage has to say about cheating, I'm sure you can Google it. Humans aren't ment for monogamy. Of you cheat once you didn't fail monogomy, you were good at it for x years and has one slip. Its up to you to weigh how many years that is, whether he really seems contite or not, how good the relationship is and how likely you think he is to do it again.
Don't let anyone guilt you for wanting to make it work, people make others feel awful about wanting to work through an infidelity and it's a personal decision.
"Used as rocket fuel, sex energy can lift our consciousness to the stars to experience a state of being where love exists in and for itself and has no opposite. On a soul level, this is our natural state."-John Maxwell Taylor





^^ as LLL asks above I'm curious why you had to apologize?
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I think lady lux has interesting points.
I made a thread a couple months ago on monogamy etc. and the responses were interesting- I'll see if I can find link. I had this theory that despite most people craving open and or non monogamous relationships, they get into committed monogamous relationships then end up sneaking and cheating as a result of giving into said "urges". BecAuse if they were honest about wanting open relationships on the front end, they'd severely limit their options.
Anyways, If I were you I'd keep my options open. If you want monogamy I'm sure there are men out there that would be happy to be with only you. Test the waters and see what other men are out there. Maybe you could give him a second chance but also don't make it easy for him because he'll just cheat again if he knows he can mess up and you'll always take him back.
I'd let him know I'd give him a second chance if he can give you the same respect you give him (aka cutting out side action once committed in relationship) but also I would tell him I'm dating other people so he will have to step up to the plate if he wants to win.
“Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”
Miss.a.p. has a great point. Don't be afraid to make him jump through hoops, let him re-earn your commitment.
"Used as rocket fuel, sex energy can lift our consciousness to the stars to experience a state of being where love exists in and for itself and has no opposite. On a soul level, this is our natural state."-John Maxwell Taylor





You're young, time to dump him. I'm definitely older than you so IMO my view is you are personally better off being single or finding someone else. If you were my age I'd have a different opinion. (This is just my opinion from reading other posts of yours.)
Well now I must say scrap the reunion for now.
This dude sounds indecisive and probably wants to be single and trying to tell you in a kind way.
Leave now before the heartbreak gets worse.
You will find someone better suited for you.
“Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”
Ok.. So rip the bandaid off. . it sounds like he doesn't want to be in the relationship and cheating was a symptom.
I'm so so sorry. Cut this guy loose. Now. Cry alot. Watch "he's just not that into you" and sex in the city, eat once cream, hang out with girlfriends.
This sucks, breakups are the worst, but you are a wonderful person and you deserve someone that knows if nothing else in life, they want to be with you 100%. He may like silver, but that doesn't mean your not gold.
"Used as rocket fuel, sex energy can lift our consciousness to the stars to experience a state of being where love exists in and for itself and has no opposite. On a soul level, this is our natural state."-John Maxwell Taylor
Seriously if your young and going through a break up read he's just not that into you. I did when I was really vulnerable and it's simple but we need it reiterated.
"Used as rocket fuel, sex energy can lift our consciousness to the stars to experience a state of being where love exists in and for itself and has no opposite. On a soul level, this is our natural state."-John Maxwell Taylor





This is for the best. You will be fine
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