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    Default Have you been "found out" and if so, how did it go?

    I'm new here, and first let me say this site is fantastic! So much great information. I have been seriously considering camming in the last month and have been doing a lot of reading.

    I have been stalling a bit because I understand you have to go into this job assuming someone you know will find out. Part of me is just fine with that... this is my body, why can't I use it to earn money, especially in a relatively safe way where I am in a separate city/country from the customer. Why are the views on women and sex still so gosh darn outdated anyway? But there is still the introverted side of me that cringes at the idea of having "the conversation" with family members.

    So, I've been wondering, has anyone out there tried to keep their camming private, only to have been found out by someone close to you that you would have rather stayed in the dark? And if so, how did it go? Easier than expected or life-ruining?

    Thanks all!

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    Default Re: Have you been "found out" and if so, how did it go?

    Thanks! I tried using the search function on the site, but came up with some irrelevant results. Super awesome

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    Default Re: Have you been "found out" and if so, how did it go?

    *Don't know where else to put this, so here goes.
    I recently reconnected with my boss who I worked for when I was in my early 20's.
    I told her about camming and PSO, and she actually had the nerve to 'slut shame' me!
    She said I was always so conservative, and come from a strict new England background, so how could this happen? I actually was stripping back then every night after work.
    I told her 'survival'.
    This from a woman who was cheating on her live in bf, and who all of us at her company had been used as a cover, so he wouldn't find out. This from a woman who brags about sleeping around Hollywood, and now has herpes to show for it!
    GTFO!
    THIS is why I never tell anyone what I do.
    I thought of all people she would be different.

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    Default Re: Have you been "found out" and if so, how did it go?

    I keep it private because my business is no one's business but I don't deny if it comes up. When people know you cam, they won't ask you 'How's work?' or bring it up with you. We live in a world with so many busybodies so they'd gossip!
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    Default Re: Have you been "found out" and if so, how did it go?

    It is possible that people will find out. I would also say this issue has a lot of variables.
    When you get into camming assume people will found out and get comfortable with the idea.
    You could keep it private by changing your looks with different tricks, but that's a lot of work.

    My advice: 1. do not tell anybody unless extremely necessary
    2. change your looks a bit before you are sure this job suits you
    3. different name, different clothes, different makeup, different anything people might recognise you
    I personally found people I know camming and I had to look a their Facebook pictures because I wasn't sure it was them.
    4. different email, if they ask you if family and friends know tell them yes, if you get asked what's your other job: this is your job, create a new personality, if you do Skype shows always use a vpn to not let the others know what's your location
    don't tell your state to nobody. tell them you live in another state that you know

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    Default Re: Have you been "found out" and if so, how did it go?

    I learned a lot and put up a lot of safe guards before I started camming. Even though I did that, if someone found out who I was and tried to black mail me, or if someone stumbled across me, etc. I really wouldn't care. I'm pretty open in my life. There are very few people who don't know and for everyone else they are positive and think that, knowing me, it's a great fit. They are all really happy about finding something that works for me Honestly aside from maybe my grandparents, if anyone found out and did not react this way, our friendship would probably either die off or I'd convince them to rethink how they look at this.

    Additionally I'm an open and sexual person in general. Not that I would try to have sex or blab about my sex life at any other job, but I feel like that would seep through and any company that would have a serious problem with me doing this work wouldn't be good fit for me anyhow. Heck I don't know why people don't appreciate this type of job from the "she has sales experience and experience with dealing with rowdy people" point of view. Either way I think the shaming will decrease dramatically in the next decade or two.

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    Default Re: Have you been "found out" and if so, how did it go?

    I keep my job private. But I've had a few guys from my past (who are obviously already searching porn sites) find me. Two which are my best customers! Lol!!

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    Default Re: Have you been "found out" and if so, how did it go?

    when i ve started to work, i was on a small site ... for people who live in my country.
    and one of the site's owners liked to visit me, often
    Never told him any personal, not even my real name in chat.
    Once i ve just seen he sent me a message in facebook somethng like:
    "how long should i wait for u" ?
    As a beginner i found that kinda weird. Since than i dont have account on any social site, with my real name and real photos of myself.

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    Default Re: Have you been "found out" and if so, how did it go?

    Been found out sorta. Friends + fam have no idea. I'm always careful when I cam, only use certain sites etc.

    - Was dating someone, he knew what I did from the start, didn't want me to do it anymore and offered me no support whatsoever, stupidly stopped for a short while then went back on as I had no ££ (young, naive and stupid lightly describes it!).

    - Decided to go back online, everything was cool, he then found out a few months later, went nuts, tried to out me to family and uni, tried to get my profile removed, he put my full name on my feedback, I couldn't go back to uni in September, due to being that upset and depressed, barely ate, resulted in 2x police visits, harassment warning (atleast 200 abusive emails) and a lot of tears and sleepless nights.

    - Now the ratbag, realises why I did what I did, wants to get back together but now I've moved on, behaviour like that can't be forgiven

    - He's still hovering round like a bad smell, making usernames to come in to my cam room etc.

    I honestly wouldn't wish being "outed" or similar on anyone. Can't relax and enjoy your job properly.
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    Default Re: Have you been "found out" and if so, how did it go?

    I'm about to out myself. I cam full time and have kids that are getting old enough to be curious about all the shenigans I've been going through to hide my cam gear/sex toys etc. I plan to make a career out of camming so it's time to bite the bullet and just tell my ex husband and kiddos.

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