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    Arrow How did the business chang you? *rant*

    I switched clubs. I work at a club about 5 mins away from my house.

    I walked in there a day after u almost crashed my car coming home from Detroit. I walked in on day shiftto check it out and it was dead as a door knob. But come to find out the dj was an old friend from school I lost contact with. We talked business/working there and I started night shift.

    The managers were surprised I made as much as I did; but they have to understand as a newbie I worked in a big club with 30+ dancers so this is a piece of cake.

    But now im starting to catch on to ALOOOOOT of bullshit…

    1. My “friend” is starting to MISUSE me…not use me (because you can use me in a good way). For example, he will not ASK me to take him somewhere, he will tell me to take him somewhere. UUUUUHM HELL NAW!!! TF we are cool but im grown as fuck and you better learn how to speak to me or don’t speak at all.

    Plus he has people thinking we are dating.

    2. I dance in Detroit, and although we have our issues there I’m used to certain things. For instance, bouncers, workers are respectful…but here hell naw. I went to the dj booth to request my song sets and I told one of the bouncers excuse me and he did not move. Like petty!!!

    3. The workers are unprofessional.

    4. The dj is stupid

    5. The way the club is ran in ridiculous. They are supposed to HELP the dancers maximize their hustle. For example, instead of shouting the people out on the dance floor, and dj’ing the regular customers and encouraging them to dance WHY ARE YOU NOT DOING THAT FOR tHE DANCERS?

    6. WHY ARE THE STAFF BUYING DANCES FROM THE CUSTOMER AND NOT THE DANCERS!!!

    7. Im not trying to be stuck up but I don’t want to talk to you, and do drugs with you.* From me to another dancer*

    8. Why can the dancers openly do extras without consequences?

    9. Back to point 1. I think my “friend” has bad mouthed me because everyone thinks we are dating and treating me different. I was gonna tip a bouncer to walk me to my car and my “friend” was rude and turned the whole situation sour.

    10. Im a nice person but im to the point where im aout

    11. Pile splitting – if a customers makes in rain just on the stage girls will run for the money and hurry and pick it up for themselves, instead of splitting it among ourselves. But that’s not so ad because I take it all now. J

    12. The girls complain about not making a lot and I always fill up a bag. The managers stopped letting me get bags to fill up as well, they said I have to bring my own grocery bags. #petty

    This is turning me into a hustle monster BUT its just ashamed it has be like this.

    Im irritated, and I don’t want to be bothered unless its about the money. I speak when spoken to, ignore the girls and get my money.

    I just feel like it’s a new part of me trying to break out of the shell. The business is changing me but not necessarily for the bad.



    When did you recognize the bs in the business/club/people? When did it change you and how?
    scared money makes no money

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    Default Re: How did the business chang you? *rant*

    A few weeks ago...

    I reached a point where I realized no one in the club has (the power to have) my back. I've been here on/off for four years and I'm floating outside every clique. Then my stage partner was roofied and raped by a customer. Then the general manager sexually harassed me again.

    It's my first day back since that last incident and I feel like a completely different, less tolerant person.

    I know it doesn't have to be this way.

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    mine was like yours.. I started dancing in Detroit and I thought people we're all good and everything was all rainbows and puppies until I found out girls were doing drugs every night, doing it in the ass with no protection for 100$, the DJ was stealing money, and the house mom only liked you based on how much money you gave her.
    I was young and innocent and it really scarred me. It got to a point I couldn't go in a LD room (fully curtained far in the corner with no security + music too loud no one can hear you scream) without shaking from fear of what a guy might do.

    Luckily, when I started dancing elsewhere that changed me too. I realize that not every place has sketchy management and desperate girls whose every move was trying to undermine you. I actually talk to the girls at my club now and I like them and would even chill with them in real life. I know this sounds stupid and expected to most people but where I started was 100% different and every shift was a do-or-die scenario. Now I just chill and bullshit with the other dancers like we're just hanging out naked.

    So, it hardened me, and made me keenly aware of my personal boundaries and what I require in a club (good management, safety, law-abiding, open dance areas)

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    Quote Originally Posted by fallyn_love View Post
    I switched clubs. I work at a club about 5 mins away from my house.

    I walked in there a day after u almost crashed my car coming home from Detroit. I walked in on day shiftto check it out and it was dead as a door knob. But come to find out the dj was an old friend from school I lost contact with. We talked business/working there and I started night shift.

    The managers were surprised I made as much as I did; but they have to understand as a newbie I worked in a big club with 30+ dancers so this is a piece of cake.

    But now im starting to catch on to ALOOOOOT of bullshit…

    1. My “friend” is starting to MISUSE me…not use me (because you can use me in a good way). For example, he will not ASK me to take him somewhere, he will tell me to take him somewhere. UUUUUHM HELL NAW!!! TF we are cool but im grown as fuck and you better learn how to speak to me or don’t speak at all.

    Plus he has people thinking we are dating.

    2. I dance in Detroit, and although we have our issues there I’m used to certain things. For instance, bouncers, workers are respectful…but here hell naw. I went to the dj booth to request my song sets and I told one of the bouncers excuse me and he did not move. Like petty!!!

    3. The workers are unprofessional.

    4. The dj is stupid

    5. The way the club is ran in ridiculous. They are supposed to HELP the dancers maximize their hustle. For example, instead of shouting the people out on the dance floor, and dj’ing the regular customers and encouraging them to dance WHY ARE YOU NOT DOING THAT FOR tHE DANCERS?

    6. WHY ARE THE STAFF BUYING DANCES FROM THE CUSTOMER AND NOT THE DANCERS!!!

    7. Im not trying to be stuck up but I don’t want to talk to you, and do drugs with you.* From me to another dancer*

    8. Why can the dancers openly do extras without consequences?

    9. Back to point 1. I think my “friend” has bad mouthed me because everyone thinks we are dating and treating me different. I was gonna tip a bouncer to walk me to my car and my “friend” was rude and turned the whole situation sour.

    10. Im a nice person but im to the point where im aout

    11. Pile splitting – if a customers makes in rain just on the stage girls will run for the money and hurry and pick it up for themselves, instead of splitting it among ourselves. But that’s not so ad because I take it all now. J

    12. The girls complain about not making a lot and I always fill up a bag. The managers stopped letting me get bags to fill up as well, they said I have to bring my own grocery bags. #petty

    This is turning me into a hustle monster BUT its just ashamed it has be like this.

    Im irritated, and I don’t want to be bothered unless its about the money. I speak when spoken to, ignore the girls and get my money.

    I just feel like it’s a new part of me trying to break out of the shell. The business is changing me but not necessarily for the bad.



    When did you recognize the bs in the business/club/people? When did it change you and how?
    Definitely makes you lazy. None of us would be willing to work a job where you make $100-150 a day
    I know it's gonna be hard for me to transition to a regular paying job, although I am in university and getting an education so hopefully I won't be getting paid that much more less of a difference

    The business itself isn't changing me: I've always dealt with people's bullshit and it doesn't surprise me how men are (they were always mostly stupid).

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    Default Re: How did the business chang you? *rant*

    Not a stripper but an escort && am now considering porn. Sexwork changed me because...
    1. No longer trusting people, especially vanilla guys. Every time one of them tells me to "know my worth" I feel like they're tryna get free shit

    2. A lot more $$ hungry && street wise now. If you can't do SOMETHING ($$, drugs, free rides, etc) for me YOU GOTTA GO

    3. Low key hate men
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    Default Re: How did the business chang you? *rant*

    My attitude is starting to become a little less than cordial, and the girls are annoying to me. Uuuugh.
    Less social outside of work
    Love my boyfriend more
    Less friendly.
    scared money makes no money

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    I'm still waiting for my body to start feeling like it belongs to me again.

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    Default Re: How did the business chang you? *rant*

    Of course after a while this business changes you. It changes all of us. But one doesn't have to become bitter. To all the newbies I will tell them, don't be naïve, don't hang with the girls who do drugs, realize that this is a job most guys if not all guys at the club want to do you in some way shape or form. Don't be offended don't get hurt. I am certainly more streetwise than I was and I've lost all naïveté but I have not gotten better because I knew what was going to happen I knew what I was getting into. Of course a lot of it I didn't know but mostly that was how to handle stuff. I know my limits, I know my redlines that cannot be crossed. I learned and not by writing them down the first day but by experience and decision from that experience. I challenge and I'm saying this in all sincerity and honesty and humility, I challenge anyone of us who tell me they are lily white pure. The difference is being okay with yourself. As long as you learn to be okay with yourself you will survive and although you may change you will not become bitter or lose what they call self-actualization which really means self-esteem. I worked a lot of clubs in Atlanta and San Francisco. Some are good some are bad and treat you like crap, you know the drill. You must remain true to yourself no matter where you work. It is damn difficult and I don't succeed all the time. The final point is be wary of all guys no matter what they want, or how much they going to pay for what you are willing to do. Set your limits within your comfort range but that still doesn't matter be wary of all guys. Not being on guard is what changes people for the worse. If this life changes you in a way that you can feel is wrong then you stop. Take breaks every six months. Recharge your batteries. Keep a positive outlook regarding your life.

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