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    I haven't gathered all my thoughts on this topic, but I want to strongly object to some of the sentiments expressed in this thread. I have a TON of respect for all of you ladies and your opinions, but I don't think it's ok to tell a person that she should just give her partner what he wants because, if she doesn't, he'll get it elsewhere or find a way to get it anyway. I know that what's going on with the OP may not seem like a big deal to some of you, but privacy is more important to some people than to others, and I think that the OP is within normal/healthy bounds with her desires for privacy (that is, she's not being pathologically paranoid or anything).

    What if we were talking about something slightly different? What if the OP came here saying that, since she started camming, her BF really wants to have anal sex, but she's specifically told him that she's not into that? Then she started noticing him trying to be sneaky about it, like trying to slip it in during sex by pretending that he "missed." Then one day, when she's not around to give consent (e.g. passed out asleep), he just goes for it and fucks her in the ass, and she wakes up and catches him in the act.

    In that scenario, we would NEVER say things like, "You should be flattered that he wants to have anal with you," or "He's a guy, and guys like anal, so what did you think would happen?" or "Well, do you want him to have anal with someone else because you wouldn't do it?" I know the comparison sounds a bit dramatic, but at the core, the scenarios aren't so different. She has a part of herself/her life that she doesn't feel comfortable sharing with him right now, she has told him that, he has acknowledged that he understands, and yet he's violating her boundaries without her consent.

    I really do get where some of you are coming from, that you're totally fine sharing this with your partners, and you don't see much reason to keep him out of her work. Likewise, I'm happy having anal with my partners, but I understand if some women aren't. We all have different limits, and I think that all of us here advocate respecting people's limits, no?
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    I think you're right to feel the way you feel about him doing this. He is being sneaky and he's obviously trying to hide it from you or he would just ask you if he can watch them. My SO doesn't watch my videos. He isn't into the sorts of videos that I make (humiliation videos, not masturbation) and he has no reason to watch them. He asks me how my day went and what I filmed and I run ideas by him and he gives me his thoughts. Sometimes he even thinks of new videos that I can do! BUT he ALWAYS respects me when I tell him I don't want him watching my videos. I will tell him what I am doing, what I said in them, but I feel like it's not necessary for him to watch it for there to be communication and honesty. I don't know if that makes sense, but he knows that it just makes me feel odd!

    He has never once tried to watch any of my videos without me being there. I even have a full notebook of what I film everyday and have told him that he is welcome to look at it at any time to see what I have done. He has respect for me and what bothers me. It seems like your boyfriend does not.

    When I was 19 I was camming on LiveJasmin. My then significant other was really into me being watched by other men (something I wasn't into at the time!). He would sit in the corner of the room and he would watch me do shows. For a while he just watched then he started jerking off during them. I had never felt more uncomfortable in my whole life. I told him about this and he said I was just being too sensitive. Needless to say that relationship ended very, very horribly. He did not respect my feelings or care about them. He later showed me his true colors and I found out that he was addicted to porn. He stopped going to school, would stay up til all night and look at HUNDREDS of websites, jerking off all night long. He had a lot more issues than just that.

    When I started camming again (4-5 years later) my then boyfriend knew what I did and we were cool. One day I was on his PC and found that he was going into my MFC room and had been tipping me! He never told me that he was watching me, much less using OUR money to tip me AND other women. He started hiding the fact that he was watching me and a LOT of porn (what the fuck is wrong with my choice in men!?). He ended up telling his friends what I did and they were coming to my room and buying shows - I didn't find out until someone told me who they were! He didn't see the problem!

    Your boyfriend should be respecting you and he clearly is not. If I were you I would delete the videos that he has on his phone/computer and start locking your computer when you are not using it. TELL him that you feel disrespected and that you don't appreciate him downloading your videos without your knowledge. If he respects you at all he will stop. Tell him you will let him see the videos if he asks, but only when you're around, but never behind your back. You don't need to make an ultimatum, but let him know what you want him to do as he asks or you will feel differently about him and camming.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Magical_Hoohah View Post
    I haven't gathered all my thoughts on this topic, but I want to strongly object to some of the sentiments expressed in this thread. I have a TON of respect for all of you ladies and your opinions, but I don't think it's ok to tell a person that she should just give her partner what he wants because, if she doesn't, he'll get it elsewhere or find a way to get it anyway. I know that what's going on with the OP may not seem like a big deal to some of you, but privacy is more important to some people than to others, and I think that the OP is within normal/healthy bounds with her desires for privacy (that is, she's not being pathologically paranoid or anything).

    What if we were talking about something slightly different? What if the OP came here saying that, since she started camming, her BF really wants to have anal sex, but she's specifically told him that she's not into that? Then she started noticing him trying to be sneaky about it, like trying to slip it in during sex by pretending that he "missed." Then one day, when she's not around to give consent (e.g. passed out asleep), he just goes for it and fucks her in the ass, and she wakes up and catches him in the act.

    In that scenario, we would NEVER say things like, "You should be flattered that he wants to have anal with you," or "He's a guy, and guys like anal, so what did you think would happen?" or "Well, do you want him to have anal with someone else because you wouldn't do it?" I know the comparison sounds a bit dramatic, but at the core, the scenarios aren't so different. She has a part of herself/her life that she doesn't feel comfortable sharing with him right now, she has told him that, he has acknowledged that he understands, and yet he's violating her boundaries without her consent.

    I really do get where some of you are coming from, that you're totally fine sharing this with your partners, and you don't see much reason to keep him out of her work. Likewise, I'm happy having anal with my partners, but I understand if some women aren't. We all have different limits, and I think that all of us here advocate respecting people's limits, no?
    I honestly thought it was just me for a second. I was in an abusive relationship for 6 years so I know I approach sexual matters a little differently. It takes me a long time to warm up to something new. About your scenario though, he actually has permission to fuck me in my sleep. It's a kink of mine, and I know plenty of women would be like, "hell no!". But I guess my limits don't need to make sense to anyone else.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Magical_Hoohah View Post
    I haven't gathered all my thoughts on this topic, but I want to strongly object to some of the sentiments expressed in this thread. I have a TON of respect for all of you ladies and your opinions, but I don't think it's ok to tell a person that she should just give her partner what he wants because, if she doesn't, he'll get it elsewhere or find a way to get it anyway. I know that what's going on with the OP may not seem like a big deal to some of you, but privacy is more important to some people than to others, and I think that the OP is within normal/healthy bounds with her desires for privacy (that is, she's not being pathologically paranoid or anything).

    What if we were talking about something slightly different? What if the OP came here saying that, since she started camming, her BF really wants to have anal sex, but she's specifically told him that she's not into that? Then she started noticing him trying to be sneaky about it, like trying to slip it in during sex by pretending that he "missed." Then one day, when she's not around to give consent (e.g. passed out asleep), he just goes for it and fucks her in the ass, and she wakes up and catches him in the act.

    In that scenario, we would NEVER say things like, "You should be flattered that he wants to have anal with you," or "He's a guy, and guys like anal, so what did you think would happen?" or "Well, do you want him to have anal with someone else because you wouldn't do it?" I know the comparison sounds a bit dramatic, but at the core, the scenarios aren't so different. She has a part of herself/her life that she doesn't feel comfortable sharing with him right now, she has told him that, he has acknowledged that he understands, and yet he's violating her boundaries without her consent.

    I really do get where some of you are coming from, that you're totally fine sharing this with your partners, and you don't see much reason to keep him out of her work. Likewise, I'm happy having anal with my partners, but I understand if some women aren't. We all have different limits, and I think that all of us here advocate respecting people's limits, no?

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    And on the note of limits, my bf can fuck me in my sleep but he knows better than to snoop my cam shit. Im a totally different person with him than on cam solo. We film clips together but a lot of the clips I film solo id be so fucked up to know hes watched. Maybe someday I'll be able to handle him seeing me talkimg shit about little dicks but for now i am not okay with it.
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    My husband is jealous of me camming, so i go to another room to do it. In the beggining if i was on IM on teh same couch as he was, i could see him sliding his eye to my screen, maybe to see what i was typing. So i confronted him and he said: sorry, im always afraid u will find someone there and fall in love.
    This is real, they think we can find someone on cam or whatever and leave them. Its even worse when the guy was ur client, in my case, i was an escort and he was the client, so the fear is real, it could happen. But sneaking at ur things, thats not cool and downloading ur videos is unacceptable. He could be posting on fb or whatever just to show his friends how hot u are and that u are his.....crazy, but it happens.
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    This would be a deal breaker for me. If my man did this, he'd be out the door. Hell fuckin no... Especially going onto your personal computer like that. That is NOT ok. Just give him what he wants.. no way. I agree with above, it isnt ok to do that just because he might get it somewhere else. Let him. I say kick him to the curb. What else is he doing that he DIDNT tell you? The fact you love doing this and now dont want to because he is creepy but you want to save your relationship.. no. Just do what makes you happy and makes you money.





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    I was honestly so shocked about the bf's behavior and the OP not immediately dumping him for it that I was wondering if it was a troll post. I also am surprised that so many people are trying to talk her into being so comfortable with it. Maybe for some camgirls their work is an extension of their own personal kink, they actually get off on it and it's an extension of their sexuality, but that isn't the case for a lot of us. Camming for me has nothing to do with my own personal sexuality, I'm just playing a part, it's all an act, it's not the real me. Camming is not 'sexy time' for me, I don't feel sexy while I do it, it's pure work and I would be so completely turned off if a guy I was dating didn't get that, let alone didn't respect that.

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    I can understand being upset with having a specific request being ignored eg. boyfriend watching your content.

    I don't understand comparing this kind of behavior with rape. If you specifically say, I don't want anal, and he does it to you while you are asleep then that is rape.

    Does this mean that when you put your content out for everyone to see, that you are being constantly raped? I'm sure we don't want everyone and our fathers watching our video clips, our performances that are being capped, our pictures that we post to social media etc.

    As camgirls, that's the risk we take. I suppose if my father were to accidently see my content I wouldn't think it was a bad thing as long as it was accidental, it certainly would be embarassing for both of us, but, if he kept doing it, well then, that's something else. Hopefully, I'll never find out if he does or not. I'd rather not know.

    If I tell my husband not to look at my content and he just kept doing it, it would be annoying as hell, but would I accuse him of raping me? Nope. I would probably just threaten to take pictures of him and his asshole and post it on the internet so he can have other people look at him too. That's just how I am and I don't think it's a big deal.

    My content is out there and I can't control who looks at it, so why should I have a problem with anyone looking at it, and yes, that includes people that I know. As long as they don't make a point of doing it to slander me, I don't care anymore. It's on the internet. It really doesn't completely belong to me anymore and it never will. That's the price of this job. It's also what celebrities and public figures experience every day. The more profitable your job, the less privacy you have. I've made the choice to give up a lot of control over my content that is on the internet.
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    Boyfriend has a kink, clearly, for watching porn (see: acknowledged addiction).

    Girlfriend is doing the kinky thing that turns him on for a job.

    Boyfriend gets super into the job to the point of making girlfriend uncomfortable.

    Girlfriend tells him he's making her uncomfortable and asks him to stop.

    Boyfriend agrees to stop.

    Girlfriend catches boyfriend not only continuing his behavior (see: LYING and BREAKING PROMISE TO STOP), but actively violating her privacy by doing it behind her back (see: ignoring clearly set boundaries).

    In the grand Order of Importance, boyfriend is placing His Kink at a greater magnitude of importance than Her Boundaries and, in so doing, breaking his word, destroying her trust in him, and treating her as a sexual object for his pleasure above a person he loves who has made a request for boundaries.

    How is that not a problem?

    Ladies, I think you're confusing 'supportive boyfriend' with a dude who has a fetish and will do anything to get his rocks off. That's on par with calling a dude 'supportive boyfriend' for telling his girlfriend 'you can only cam if you do X, Y, and Z, because I'm not comfortable with you using your body on your terms.' In this case, the X-Z terms he wants are unrestricted access to her work.

    OP--I agree. Get his phone/computer, delete everything he's stolen without your permission (make sure you check his back up cloud servers), and then really re-evaluate this relationship. I could personally never stay with someone who thinks sneaking around to get his dick off is more important than my boundaries.
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    Quote Originally Posted by hyori View Post
    I don't understand comparing this kind of behavior with rape. If you specifically say, I don't want anal, and he does it to you while you are asleep then that is rape.
    So the line should be drawn at physical rape? Physical violation is the only violation that counts?

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    If I tell my husband not to look at my content and he just kept doing it, it would be annoying as hell, but would I accuse him of raping me? Nope. I would probably just threaten to take pictures of him and his asshole and post it on the internet so he can have other people look at him too. That's just how I am and I don't think it's a big deal.
    And how you are is totally fine, but you do realize that you are definitely in the minority with that right? A lot of people would not feel the same way or handle it the same way, and I don't think that makes them wrong.

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    My content is out there and I can't control who looks at it, so why should I have a problem with anyone looking at it, and yes, that includes people that I know.
    Again I think that's cool for you, but not everyone is going to feel that way. For me, random people I don't care what they do, it doesn't affect me, they don't owe me anything. But for the people in my inner circle, it's a different story.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hyori View Post
    Maybe I'm the weird one, I actually love it and I am flattered that my husband likes to watch my stuff since he has access to me 24/7. Is that fucked up?
    Same. My husband digs my porn, and I think that's pretty cool. I mean, he has access to all the porn there is, and he'd rather watch me rub one out.
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    @Hyori specifically, because I think you've hit the crux of our difference of opinion here:

    The issue isn't rape--it's consent. OP did not give her boyfriend consent to look at her content, watch her work, etc., and, based on his stealth behavior in getting to it, he knew that very well. That's blatant disrespect of someone's individual entity.

    And, yes, as camgirls, we do risk having ourselves exposed. Nature of the job and all that. The issue is not that OPs boyfriend found it accidentally or was some freebie-seeker googling content on the internet because he was horny. The issue is that he willfully got on her computer to steal her content, tries to listen in on her sessions, and is generally ignoring all her boundaries.

    Take him being her boyfriend out of the equation for a moment and it might make more sense. If a total stranger or male friend/roommate engaged in this exact same behavior, we would all be livid. A total stranger would not have the sort of access to her content that OPs boyfriend does. He didn't stumble onto a capped recording on the internet--he stole it off her laptop, and he did it more than once. This was no accident. It was willful disregard of her privacy and a blatant violation of her trust in his word.

    Now put OPs boyfriend being the perpetrator back into the equation for a moment. With a total stranger, I'm not shocked someone would be googling the shit out of my cam name to find capped vids or trying to hack into my Model Centro account to get free vid downloads, etc., because that person is a stranger who sees me not as a person, but as a sex object. OPs boyfriend is not a total stranger. He is someone who claims to love her as an individual with entity.

    When OPs boyfriend disrespected her boundaries, I don't see a harmless dude who was horny and just wanted to get in on her raunchy secrets. I see a man who thinks of his girlfriend as nothing more than a sex object for his pleasure.

    If OPs boyfriend is upset that she won't let him see her content, he should've had a grown up conversation with her, not sneak the fuck around. If it's a deal breaker for him, he should break up with her and find someone into his voyeur kinks. What he shouldn't be doing, in my opinion, is sneaking around like a horny teenager. He's a god damned adult. He should act like it.

    Girls regularly come to this forum with bf/hubby/partner issues all the time that if their boyfriend can't respect the boundary between work and love life, they need to make a call on whether work or the relationship is more important. We don't apologize for or try to justify a man's behavior as 'he was just horny and you should let him do whatever without being offended/surprised.' I frankly don't understand why that's not happening here.



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    Quote Originally Posted by hyori View Post
    Maybe I'm the weird one, I actually love it and I am flattered that my husband likes to watch my stuff since he has access to me 24/7. Is that fucked up?

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    Same. My husband digs my porn, and I think that's pretty cool. I mean, he has access to all the porn there is, and he'd rather watch me rub one out.
    Same here. Fuck, sometimes my husband comes home during a show, watches through the door and fucks me after I finish.
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    Quote Originally Posted by audritwo View Post
    Same here. Fuck, sometimes my husband comes home during a show, watches through the door and fucks me after I finish.
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    Same. My husband digs my porn, and I think that's pretty cool. I mean, he has access to all the porn there is, and he'd rather watch me rub one out.
    Quote Originally Posted by hyori
    Maybe I'm the weird one, I actually love it and I am flattered that my husband likes to watch my stuff since he has access to me 24/7. Is that fucked up?
    Ladies, that is hella awesome. Full stop, I'm jealous. lol

    I just think the biggest difference between what you're describing and what OP is experiencing is that she doesn't find his behavior hot or flattering. She finds it creepy and invasive. Which, ya know, kinda kills the awesome factor. That's all.


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    Like I said, this is a 10 year relationship that I refuse to dump over this. He would be my husband right now if I didn't want a really nice wedding. I know y'all are only going off the information given, but also know that I know this man better than anyone. And I think it's simply a case of putting his kinks before me. Which was wrong, but nothing to immediately kick him out for. He definitely fucked up and he knows he did. But I've forgiven him. His apology was sincere, and he deleted the videos before I even asked. We had a long talk about why he did it and came to a solution. He would like for us to make videos (solo and together) that are just for him, and permission to take sexy photos every once in a while. Which I think is a great idea and it'll help bring us closer together. I still don't want him watching me cam, just because I get super nervous. But he can see my clips if he wants. He's on thin ice though so there will be no second chance.

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    I think I get what some of the ladies are saying, that if you feel embarrassed or ashamed enough about camming to where it would emotionally destroy you to have someone you know see it, then camming probably isn't for you. I get that, I can actually agree. But again, if you're someone who does not get off on camming, someone who does not consider it a part of your sex life at all and yet your partner kept insisting on MAKING it a part of your sex life--especially to the point of him doing it behind your back--it's just not okay IMO.

    Quote Originally Posted by Issabelle View Post
    I just think the biggest difference between what you're describing and what OP is experiencing is that she doesn't find his behavior hot or flattering.
    Exactly.

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    You are absolutely right on that and no one was telling you what to do. Only you know what's best for you but as Dr. Phil would say:


    Quote Originally Posted by FayeValentine View Post
    Like I said, this is a 10 year relationship that I refuse to dump over this. He would be my husband right now if I didn't want a really nice wedding. I know y'all are only going off the information given, but also know that I know this man better than anyone. And I think it's simply a case of putting his kinks before me. Which was wrong, but nothing to immediately kick him out for. He definitely fucked up and he knows he did. But I've forgiven him. His apology was sincere, and he deleted the videos before I even asked. We had a long talk about why he did it and came to a solution. He would like for us to make videos (solo and together) that are just for him, and permission to take sexy photos every once in a while. Which I think is a great idea and it'll help bring us closer together. I still don't want him watching me cam, just because I get super nervous. But he can see my clips if he wants. He's on thin ice though so there will be no second chance.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    You are absolutely right on that and no one was telling you what to do. Only you know what's best for you but as Dr. Phil would say:
    If that's the case, he's the one that should be worried. I was horrible to him for the first 2 years. He probably only stayed with me due to low self-esteem. But my point is that I did a complete 180 and changed my nasty behavior. So I'm going to help him like he helped me. It's up to him if he really wants to change though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FayeValentine View Post
    Like I said, this is a 10 year relationship that I refuse to dump over this. He would be my husband right now if I didn't want a really nice wedding. I know y'all are only going off the information given, but also know that I know this man better than anyone. And I think it's simply a case of putting his kinks before me. Which was wrong, but nothing to immediately kick him out for. He definitely fucked up and he knows he did. But I've forgiven him. His apology was sincere, and he deleted the videos before I even asked. We had a long talk about why he did it and came to a solution. He would like for us to make videos (solo and together) that are just for him, and permission to take sexy photos every once in a while. Which I think is a great idea and it'll help bring us closer together. I still don't want him watching me cam, just because I get super nervous. But he can see my clips if he wants. He's on thin ice though so there will be no second chance.
    Well this sounds like you have come to a compromise that your both happy with. If you think his apology to be sincere I do believe that you know your relationship best, and it sounds like you two have some kinks that get fulfilled by each other, you just needed to enforce where your boundaries were around the grey-er parts of kink/fetish and your working time.

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    @hyori and others that like involving their partners in camming ~ I really respect and admire you ladies, and nothing I said was intended to indicate that you or your SOs are in the wrong. It's wonderful and healthy that couples can enjoy each other through camming. I also believe that it's valid if someone wants to keep their SO and their work life separate as much as possible, and that can be healthy as well. There's no wrong answer, as long as people are doing what's right for themselves.

    Quote Originally Posted by hyori View Post
    I don't understand comparing this kind of behavior with rape. If you specifically say, I don't want anal, and he does it to you while you are asleep then that is rape.
    I wasn't comparing the OP's situation with rape because it's on the same magnitude or has the same level of repercussions. Obviously, rape is a much more severe example. I compared them because they both involve the principle of her telling her partner that _____ makes her very uncomfortable and she doesn't want him doing _____, him agreeing not to do _____, and then him intentionally doing _____ without any reason aside from his own desires. The reason that I chose to fill in the blanks with "anal" is because, regardless of our own feelings about anal, we all accept that some people don't want to do it, and we don't question their preference. We also agree that it's a huge problem for the relationship if that boundary is violated (legalities aside).
    I could also fill in the blanks with "fucking someone else." Regardless of whether we personally think that monogamy is desirable or realistic, we generally expect that if your partner agrees not to sleep with other people, and then he does, it's normal to feel violated and betrayed.

    Even if we don't personally understand or empathize with the OP's limits, I think it's important to respect that she knows what she needs in order to feel comfortable, she expressed her boundaries, and he willfully violated them. We would definitely denounce his behavior if it had happened on a physical level, and I feel that the principle should carry over into the emotional realm as well.


    @Faye ~ It's not just you - there's a wide range of preferences about SOs getting involved. Also, I hear you on the sleeping sex thing! I'm totally fine if a guy I trust wants to start before I'm awake, lol! I'm glad you had a good heart to heart with your man. It seems like you've handled all of this in a pretty responsible manner, and it's great that you know what you want, can express it, and are able to find a compromise without breaking your own limits. I think you should probably put a password on your computer just in case, but I hope it all goes well!
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    I have only one thing to add that I didn't see said: she should not go behind his back to delete everything because that would be an invasion of his privacy and two wrongs don't make a right. Maybe it could be justified if you were about to end the relationship and worried that he'd be a dick about it, but you could still confront him and talk him into letting you delete the material instead of invading his privacy. Just my two-cents.

    OP I'm glad you found a solution that works for you

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    Quote Originally Posted by audritwo View Post
    Same here. Fuck, sometimes my husband comes home during a show, watches through the door and fucks me after I finish.
    Hottest. Fucking. Thing. Ever.
    I personally really like it to, but we give consent for our partners to do that, OP isn't and he's not respecting her boundaries at all which is bad news really
    high five for post-cam sex tho!

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