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    My mom is so loving, supportive, and kind, but he just gets on my nerves so bad. Now I'm going to have to spend an entire week with her while I move to Florida because she's coming with me for the drive. She was going to take a separate car but once she realized everything I own will fit in one car, she decided she will just fly back to the midwest. I'm not looking forward to this at all. She is so irritating, she smokes a lot, and listens to annoying books on tape and complains about my music. Seriously nothing is enjoyable with her and I'm so sad and I feel horrible for saying it, but she is constantly over the top about EVERYTHING. But she is so great, she's planning me a big graduation party and it is really nice of her to "help" me move. But at the same time I wish I could avoid this entire ordeal.

    Do any of you have any advice how to calm down and enjoy time with your mother, instead of being irritated by everything she does and says? I wish we had a better relationship, but my patience is so short with her.


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    Take every time you have with her to heart and don't let the semi-big things get in the way of bonding, she is who she is and its always a fortunate thing to have a Mother. You can take things along with you like drawing pads, writing notebooks to pass the time or game puzzles.. There will be so many things to do and see you will be distracted from the move once you hit the State, don't take a ton of rest breaks in between driving, bring snacks or drinks that you think she might like..make it a fun trip regardless of her enjoying it. I had a similar situation happen with really grouchy people, once I opened up Pringles cans, jerkey and soda they came around..

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    Just constantly remind yourself that one day you will look back on this trip with fond memories. The older you get the more you truly will appreciate the time you were able to spend with her.

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    I have a similar relationship with my mom to what it sounds like you do with yours. It's gotten better as I've gotten older because I am better about asserting myself and getting my needs met/ prioritizing my own needs.

    It helped to start being more upfront with her about how the things she says make me feel- that way I am minimizing my own resentments by airing them, so the annoyances don't build up as fast.

    I also have the habit of gently poking fun at my mom when she picks at something (like my music).

    Remember, as crappy as she may seem at having fun with you, SHE WANTS TO. She probably does have habits that annoy you, because, you know, family.

    Just try to keep in mind that she knew you when you were less capable of caring for yourself, and that it's not her actual goal to upset or distress you.

    You might even try telling her you're nervous about the trip so that she can also put effort into making it a positive experience.

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    I know exactly how you feel. I rant about my extended family all the time on here.

    Unless you can pay some movers to help you and can tell her Nevermind, then you have to move forward as is because It's already planned so you just have to deal with it. Burn some steam beforehand by exercising, meditating, etc. Just tell yourself the week will go by faster than you realize.
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    My relationship with my mom is exactly the same way. She is very supportive and I know she just wants to help me.. but we do NOT get a long and every little thing she does irritates the crap out of me. That being said.. when she came out here to visit me for a few days we ended up having a really cool conversation and I learned a lot about her that I never even knew before. This was after a couple drinks so it probably helped the conversation flow more easily lol but when you're just focused on little annoying things your mom does its hard to have conversations like that.

    This is just one week out of your life. Try to ignore the annoying things that get to you and try to have some real conversations with her. My mom told me about traveling alone when she was my age and stories she's never told me before. It was cool to see how similar we really are and it made me forget about the pettiness that I normally focus on when we're together. Try to get to know your mom a little more and you'll appreciate the time you had together afterwards.

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