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    Tired Greetings! I'm new here and only planned on lurking..but..

    Looking to relocate.. I have lost everything (again) by getting involved with the wrong people (again) and alone and scared (again). I have a place to stay temporarily..but, everyone I know is too broke and/or dangerous. I don't have any family who could help...let alone the fact that I shouldn't involve them in my life..especially since they couldnt even help when i was little to this day. I suffer from anxiety and having serious legal issues. I'm so scared and have question's I'm too scared to ask for help..so, I am reaching out for support. I don't know if I should stay and go vanilla for awhile, though, I fear there aren't many normal jobs here..or relocate because I enjoy doing body rubs, but, there is a person who wants to destroy me and my dreams because I want better for myself..so, it might be worth it to just wait a few months and relocate and hopefully they will stop harassing my life. I just saw this ad for "Snuggle Buddies" and think I might sign up and try it out. You get paid to Snuggle. Anyone ever hear of cuddling companions? I'm really going to miss body rubs
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    Default Re: Greetings! I'm new here and only planned on lurking..but..

    I don't know if I posted in the right place...I read a lot of forum literature from all different places..but, I don't really understand how it works..let me know if this is ok..I'm sorry..I'm lost everywhere right now..

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    Default Re: Greetings! I'm new here and only planned on lurking..but..

    Aww. Welcome..there's a section Other Work, they would have info about body rubs, if you're still interested? I don't know that the snuggle thing w/b very good $-wise, (I know there's a thread about it in Other Work section) Can you look into a women's shelter? I know myself I'm not really liking them, but see if they can direct you to some help, there's usually a social worker..
    & they can direct you to any gov't programs to assist you including free legal help. My library has free programs to direct people to get help too, maybe there's one by you that would?
    Can you google focus groups, look in backpage & craigslist for them also..& check out cl/bp for cash paying jobs, waitress, bartender, etc. Also, try looking for demonstrator jobs, you hand out food samples in grocery or Sam's Club
    Are you able to cam at all? Can you strip somewhere? Just trying to throw out some ideas for ya.
    Good Luck!


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    Default Re: Greetings! I'm new here and only planned on lurking..but..

    *hugs*

    I'm sorry you are going through all of that, I know what it is like to be desperate and scared. I don't know much about body rubs or other adult work other than stripping so I can't speak for that but I would say be careful if you decide to go the adult route, as when you are vulnerable it can be dangerous. I don't mean to be condescending, but this has been my personal experience. If you are able to move (I don't know what your legal troubles entail) I would recommend Texas there are lots of vanilla and adult jobs both here and housing is affordable in many areas that aren't dangerous.

    I don't mean to be presumptuous but it sounds like you might need to talk to a therapist as well. I'm not sure what you've been through but I sense some trauma. There are student counselors who are low fee or free if you can't afford it.

    In any case, if possible, DEFINITELY move as far away from these negative people as you can. Change numbers, delete Facebook ,etc. I had to do this once so I know its hard. I'm glad you're here so you can get some advice.

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    Default Re: Greetings! I'm new here and only planned on lurking..but..

    I found a homeless shelter to go to tomorrow at 8 a.m. I don't know what to do until then *yet* I have 1 or 2 people left to call..so, here goes nuthin'. P.s. I had an apt. for Therapy and I had just started a new medicine that was in the belongings of mine that won't be returned. I have to find a safe place to make it through the night right now.

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    Default Re: Greetings! I'm new here and only planned on lurking..but..

    I have a place to stay for the night! I'm going to walk over there tomorrow and start FreSh..Thank You all so much for being caring, friendly, and supportive..I was just too overwhelmed and wanted to feel heard and understood. The legal issue is just going to take time and money. It's devastating and heartbreaking...but, I will keep trying and never give up. There are people who want me to just give up..oh well. Edited to add and a few much more important people who depend on me to never give up. I choose them.
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    About deleting Facebook..i hope I can just make it so private that only me and very few can see..I'll have to look into it..

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    "She had a Lotta crooks try to steal her heart, never really had Love couldn't ever figure out How to Love" ~Lil Wayne song anyone know that one?

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    Thanks for the hugs! xo backatcha

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    I'm allowed to move..just nowhere to go and broke.

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    Moving this to Life Support!

    We're here for you, girlie.

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    Thank you! I'm so lost! I checked out other jobs and I must be having trouble navigating..or maybe there isn't much posted there? *sheesh * at least I figured out how to change my mood from Happy to Confused. Lol "it'll get better" that's what they say, right? Smh

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    Default Re: Greetings! I'm new here and only planned on lurking..but..

    I have decided to definantely relocate..from this homeless shelter. .I'm going to check in tomorrow morning, get Any vanilla job, then save up money for a bus ticket and hotel room for a week in a new town far away from here. I'm scaredd, I didn't want to do it alone, but, that's why I'm in this mess. Trusting emotionally and physically, at times, abusive users..I don't need anymore "friends" or "lovers" like that. No more relationships either. Imma do me for awhile.

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    Sweet dreams are made of this..who am I to disagree?

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    Good luck Doll, w/your attitude you have nowhere to go but up & up!


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    Quote Originally Posted by LucyLurker View Post
    Thank you! I'm so lost! I checked out other jobs and I must be having trouble navigating..or maybe there isn't much posted there? *sheesh * at least I figured out how to change my mood from Happy to Confused. Lol "it'll get better" that's what they say, right? Smh
    Yea, there's not much in the Jobs section on here, I was referring to Other Work, meaning, threads about phone sex, body rubs, etc. Not the actual job ads themselves.


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    Default Re: Greetings! I'm new here and only planned on lurking..but..

    It wouldn't pull anything up..it's working now but, it was probably just my Internet or phone service..thank you I'm reading till my eyes fall out..then I will pop email back in and take a 15 lol

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    You'll be fine. Better than fine I'm sure. Praying for you. Excercise and meditation always works for me. Peace and Blessings.
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    Default Re: Greetings! I'm new here and only planned on lurking..but..

    Thank you...warmest regards and much appreciated. I'm not sure where I'll land yet..my inner critic rolls eyes and arms folded.."Oh, this should be good." My inner child "It'll be fun!" & "her" "Put on your ass kicking boots and go commando!" Marsha, Marsha, marsha!..I hope my weird sense of humor doesn't call for concern..it's my most go-to coping mechanism and i highly recommend it im just goin through alot and it may not tickle everybody right. Just nevermind in that case. i totally do need a break from this, every time I go to rest or walk it off I get another idea..which would be fine if it was better than the last..sheesh. Ok, I'll go meditate for 15. Thoughtful suggestion accepted..I need a deep tissue chakra massage somethin' fierce. Oh, yeah, those exist! Where I'm headed. I'll check back soon <3

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    Default Re: Greetings! I'm new here and only planned on lurking..but..

    Meditation..that was just what the Dr. ordered. I just sat outside and enjoyed the sounds with a timer set so I could just let go of those minutes..I'm definitely doing that again before I lay down for bed. I couldn't sleep last night. Have you ever heard of Binaural Beats...the mind meditation movies like on youtube? They have different ones for different effects..I use one for energy like coffee..another for bliss or euphoria..I love them.

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    Aww. Welcome..there's a section Other Work, they would have info about body rubs, if you're still interested? I don't know that the snuggle thing w/b very good $-wise, (I know there's a thread about it in Other Work section) Can you look into a women's shelter? I know myself I'm not really liking them, but see if they can direct you to some help, there's usually a social worker..
    & they can direct you to any gov't programs to assist you including free legal help. My library has free programs to direct people to get help too, maybe there's one by you that would?
    Can you google focus groups, look in backpage & craigslist for them also..& check out cl/bp for cash paying jobs, waitress, bartender, etc. Also, try looking for demonstrator jobs, you hand out food samples in grocery or Sam's Club
    Are you able to cam at all? Can you strip somewhere? Just trying to throw out some ideas for ya.
    Good Luck!
    I was just reading through this again..I decided to go vanilla and lay low for awhile. The legal issues I have are not the type of legal issues anyone has a program for..nor does anyone do pro bono. I have looked into Every Option. I just have to start back over and get a new lawyer after I settle down in my own home again. I just lost everything 6 months ago..got it all back and then some..lost it all and then some days ago...I've been going through this looking for a good home crap for too long. I am just going to build it and maybe they will come.. oh, and I edited to add that my first move is to move far away from here. I just have to pick somewhere..Home is where those bleeping bleeeper-Bleepers ain't. This one's gonna take me a minute.

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    I want to Thank each and every one of you for your thoughts advice prayers and well wishes. It helps me remember who I am and who I choose to be in all this..and I hope if someone ever goes through anything like I am..that I can and will get through this and so will they..I hope it would makes things less painful and easier. I apologize if I annoy anyone or ramble..but, that is why I do. I would hate for anyone else to go through being alone, Alone..."We're alone in this together" I forget where I heard that, sry!

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    Hey I'm a bit late to this but-

    * women's shelters and domestic violence shelters will help you (since what you described sounds like financial abuse & being manipulated.) Legal Aid also will help since you describe basically having no income to declare.

    * look into working for a private dance agency- if you are height weight proportionate you can make fast cash during bachelor party/birthday party season.

    * Look on couchsurfing dot com for affordable or free sublets. Some people on there are truly kind.

    * If you update with more specific info we can direct you better. Depending on where you live, you might be able to work at a massage spa & let the spa handle your advertising & work space in exchange for a portion of your earnings, which is not really bad considering what you described dealing with....

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