I absolutely love studying body language, and I have started applying it to reading people in the club. I thought it would be really fun to find others that have done some research on the subject and share how it applies to customers/their work at the club.
I thought I would start by sharing some basics that may be helpful.
There is no one size fits all method for reading people’s bodies, but what you can be sure of is that the information you receive is usually unfiltered and often far more honest then what comes out of people’s mouths. What you are going to be looking for the most are changes in people’s movements. Also, people display “microexpressions” of the face and of the hands. These are people’s initial expressions that are quickly covered by an expression that’s more socially acceptable or fits the narrative they want you to believe. Ex. Your sitting with a custie and mention a love of animals, his nose scrunches and the corner of his lip raises for a millisecond, then he spreads into a smile.. “tell me more, I love dogs!” This tells you his true feelings, he finds them disgusting, time to change the subject.
Men of high status and high wealth display certain body language behaviors. They often mimic the behaviors we display when we are jubilant. Called “gravity defying” look for people that hold parts of their body higher then normal (which sounds odd, but once you look for it and notice it a few times it makes perfect sense) eyebrows high, arms up and gesturing while talking, or almost jumping while walking.
High status people take up more space then others, and will spread their body and their possesions out to mark territory. They tend to keep their thumbs raised and display more of their torso, and inside of their arms. Their posture is straight if not leaning back and they keep their body visible (as opposed to holding an arm behind the back, keeping hands in pockets (unless that thumb is out) or crossing legs under the chair).
Comfortable (especially masculine) people leave their bodies wide open, uncomfortable people close up, cross their arms or rub themselves in pacifying behaviors. Women tend to take up less space as a feminine thing, not a sign of discomfort. TO GET A CLOSED CUSTIE TO OPEN UP- It works surprisingly well to relax someone to imitate their body language. If someone is really closed off and you want to open them up to you, sit near (but respect their space) and mimic their body language. As they start uncrossing, you begin uncrossing as well and start slowly angling your body and torso towards theirs, this will build fantastic rapport and they won’t even understand why.
IF ANYONE FINDS THIS USEFUL I HAVE MORE TO POST JUST LET ME KNOW. And please post your experiences, what you notice about the men who spend and how to make body language work for us!!!



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