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    I absolutely love studying body language, and I have started applying it to reading people in the club. I thought it would be really fun to find others that have done some research on the subject and share how it applies to customers/their work at the club.

    I thought I would start by sharing some basics that may be helpful.


    There is no one size fits all method for reading people’s bodies, but what you can be sure of is that the information you receive is usually unfiltered and often far more honest then what comes out of people’s mouths. What you are going to be looking for the most are changes in people’s movements. Also, people display “microexpressions” of the face and of the hands. These are people’s initial expressions that are quickly covered by an expression that’s more socially acceptable or fits the narrative they want you to believe. Ex. Your sitting with a custie and mention a love of animals, his nose scrunches and the corner of his lip raises for a millisecond, then he spreads into a smile.. “tell me more, I love dogs!” This tells you his true feelings, he finds them disgusting, time to change the subject.

    Men of high status and high wealth display certain body language behaviors. They often mimic the behaviors we display when we are jubilant. Called “gravity defying” look for people that hold parts of their body higher then normal (which sounds odd, but once you look for it and notice it a few times it makes perfect sense) eyebrows high, arms up and gesturing while talking, or almost jumping while walking.

    High status people take up more space then others, and will spread their body and their possesions out to mark territory. They tend to keep their thumbs raised and display more of their torso, and inside of their arms. Their posture is straight if not leaning back and they keep their body visible (as opposed to holding an arm behind the back, keeping hands in pockets (unless that thumb is out) or crossing legs under the chair).

    Comfortable (especially masculine) people leave their bodies wide open, uncomfortable people close up, cross their arms or rub themselves in pacifying behaviors. Women tend to take up less space as a feminine thing, not a sign of discomfort. TO GET A CLOSED CUSTIE TO OPEN UP- It works surprisingly well to relax someone to imitate their body language. If someone is really closed off and you want to open them up to you, sit near (but respect their space) and mimic their body language. As they start uncrossing, you begin uncrossing as well and start slowly angling your body and torso towards theirs, this will build fantastic rapport and they won’t even understand why.

    IF ANYONE FINDS THIS USEFUL I HAVE MORE TO POST JUST LET ME KNOW. And please post your experiences, what you notice about the men who spend and how to make body language work for us!!!


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    We all know, when your scanning the club for interested parties, that if someone is making eye contact with you he is interested. When there is a group of guys together though it can be a bit more difficult, especially if you’re sitting on his friend’s lap.

    A guy doesn’t have to look at you to show interest, look at where his torso is angled, watch for a guy that raises his voice when you are near (as if to draw you into the conversation), notice if he starts preening himself more, adjusting his tie, fixing his hair etc. but most of all, look at his feet. Where the feet are pointed is the number one limbic indicator of where a person wants to be.

    The alpha of the group will take up the most space and can often be seen in their natural habitat with hands interlaced behind their heads. But what I’ve come to find is that although in my experience they have the most money, they tend to want to buy dances only for their friends (?!). When I figure out who they are I approach them first, build quick rapport, and then move on to the beta that has been eyeing me.
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    Default Re: Body Language In The Club

    These are probably really "Duh!" to most of the vets here...

    If you walk up and they open or close their legs at all. The culture in Phx is for the dancer to come sit on the customer's lap to chat them up, so if a guy is really interested he'll open them so you can sit. If they press them tightly together, I will often leave it at "Hi" and not even ask if he wants company... the answer is always no.

    If they're closed off/hard to talk to, you'll know when you've hit a topic they like if they relax their upper body a little. You can feel the tension let down. Keep on with that topic!
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    Bumping


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    I do it all the time.

    I stand a certain way and use power stances around other dancers.

    I also use open body language and flirty body language around men.

    Works like a charm.
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    This is good info. It's true ...rich men definitely have distinctive body language. In fact I love John Slattery's portrayal of rich jerk Roger Sterling in the TV show "Mad Men" because he nails the body language of a WASP rich guy so accurately.

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