Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 25 of 31

Thread: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

  1. #1
    Veteran Member sovereignv's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2015
    Location
    Germany
    Posts
    690
    Thanks
    1,136
    Thanked 1,720 Times in 476 Posts
    My Mood
    Yeehaw

    Default How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    Hey all,

    Hope you're having a good Friday the 13th.

    My question of the day is, how do you, personally, deal with members/clients/freeloaders annoying you? Not "what do you say to the customers", but what do you say to YOURSELF to keep yourself from going completely crazy?

    The amount of freeloading, dick-pulling bullshit I get from guests/members/skype users recently is making me go fucking mad. I don't have trouble with the sex stuff or people's weird fetishes but the sheer disrespect for my time and work consistently shown is driving me crazy. Why do they think they're entitled to treat me like that? Like why do they think I'm some kind of showhorse that exists to do tricks for them for free? Lastly, in what other business except for sex work do people think it's okay to approach people and pretend genuine interest when they have absolutely no actual intention to buy anything?

    One guy even went as far as to make THREE different skype accounts where he pretended he was going to buy something, "Oops - payment declined - I have no money now - can I pay you on Monday"... THREE times. What makes them think this is okay???

    As you can tell this is getting to me, and I'd really appreciate any advice you have for keeping cool and staying focused on the money that you may have, because right now every shift I do feels like a war between me and potential clients and it's making this job way harder than it has to be.

  2. The Following 15 Users Say Thank You to sovereignv For This Useful Post:


  3. #2
    Veteran Member cutiecam's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2015
    Location
    USA
    Posts
    346
    Thanks
    455
    Thanked 1,216 Times in 257 Posts

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    One cannot always control what goes on outside, but one can always control what goes on inside.

    I just don't focus on the things that anger and annoy me. Not for very long anyway. The things you think about happen more and more. I know this sounds like 'the secret' bullshit, but it's true. If all you think about are as assholes and timewasters, that's what's going to manifest. People like that exist, I just don't give too much of my energy to em.

    Think about all the great and wonderful customers instead =) because at the end of the day, getting annoyed won't make annoying people go away. May as well choose to be positive and happy instead.
    Of course, it's always good to rant for a minute just to let it all go if you need.

  4. The Following 11 Users Say Thank You to cutiecam For This Useful Post:


  5. #3
    Veteran Member PrincessfromHell's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2015
    Posts
    399
    Thanks
    908
    Thanked 979 Times in 287 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    Oh dear just logged in and on skype again: turn ur cam on for 30 secs, I found u on the forum, I will pay in pp and amazon.

    Like my shift has started all well...but honestly I try to watch something funny to chill always. When I am in the mood I give them a rant, I say whatever I feel like saying.
    But what truly helps me - being busy, when I am splitcamming plus skype I normally don't even notice stupid comments.
    Stay busy, nothing personal, all business.

  6. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to PrincessfromHell For This Useful Post:


  7. #4
    God/dess
    Joined
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    2,012
    Thanks
    8,357
    Thanked 3,760 Times in 1,372 Posts
    My Mood
    Cool

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    What I say to them IS part of saving me from going crazy. Nobody disrespects me on cam. Ever. Fake cry for tokens lol sometimes Making $ out of them feeling guilty. Throwing the banhammer helps me a lot too mentally as immature as that may sound haha! Every hour is a new hour, every minute a new customer, you NEVER KNOW when somebody is going to make your whole days goal. sometimes I put on more clothes and get extra rude and bitchy with them.. throwing the finger and what not makes ME feel better. I remember why I'm doing this job, for me.... not them. I try to remind myself not to REACT to what they're saying or doing, but to CREATE what I want from it. And then other times these losers need to be put in their place!

    Not to insinuate that I never rage quit on random days lol because I do, probably once a month or so... it takes a lot of assholes to make me do that, not just them though, usually something else is bothering me and it adds up. On those days nothing I can think while on cam or do will make me feel better. I will get pissed off at the whole world and stuck in a negative attitude until I calm tf down, log off or take a break, and do some things to relax.

  8. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to MissAdriana For This Useful Post:


  9. #5
    Featured Member LadyCoco's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Location
    USA
    Posts
    838
    Thanks
    6,822
    Thanked 886 Times in 395 Posts

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    Sigh. I have a lot of thoughts flying around in my head, so bear with me.

    I'm glad that Camming Connection is a place where camgirls can only share their experience, good or bad. That's what sets it apart from other camming forums, imo. But the first page is (mostly) negative threats and rants about slow shifts, cheap customers, glitches, etc. It can be discouraging to the new girl who wants to try it out, or the one who wants to return to camming after getting sick of working a dead-end job or dealing with cheap freelance clients. It can trigger my depression and anxiety, and I'm sure it can do that for the others as well. Because of that, I often find myself going over to the Hustle Hut for some much-needed motivation.

    When going through difficult times, we have to take time to take care of ourselves. It can be through meditation, therapy, yoga, exercise, etc. whatever makes you feel good. For me, personally it's through cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), inspirational and uplifting blogs, journaling, and meditation. I also make sure to wake up with a positive mindset every day. Write down 10 things you love about yourself and your life. Then write 10 things you're proud of. Keep that happy mood afloat throughout the day by taking care of yourself, drinking tea and relaxing, enjoying nature, watching a funny movie, whatever.

    Before you get on cam, meditate. Or, just close your eyes and repeat a mantra such as, "I am healthy, wealthy, and wise," a few times in your head. Have a glass wine before you get on cam so you feel a little relaxed and happy. Just don't overdo that you end up drunk on cam. That's not the point. You want to keep the positivity flowing even through tough times so that you can pull through and succeed, no matter what.

    That's what I want for all the girls on here, new or not. This is up and down job but if you just take care of your mental health and stay positive, you will pull through it. You'll notice how much stronger you are day after day. I couldn't go back to camming until I knew my mental health was stronger. I'm a stronger woman than I was 3 years ago. I'm a lot more confident, a lot less anxious, and a lot less calmer than usual. I know I have the power in me to sit through a shift that's slow, glitchy, or when beggars fill up the room. I know that I can get through anytime, even the tough times. And with hard work, a little hustle, and better mentality, we can pull through and get through anything.

    I hope this makes sense. I've seen so much negativity that I had to share my input as well.




  10. #6
    Veteran Member cutiecam's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2015
    Location
    USA
    Posts
    346
    Thanks
    455
    Thanked 1,216 Times in 257 Posts

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    ^ LadyCoco I absolutely LOVE your post. Well said.

  11. The Following User Says Thank You to cutiecam For This Useful Post:


  12. #7
    Veteran Member sovereignv's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2015
    Location
    Germany
    Posts
    690
    Thanks
    1,136
    Thanked 1,720 Times in 476 Posts
    My Mood
    Yeehaw

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    That's cool. I didn't write this to turn people off, I wrote it to see if I could get some advice on dealing with the negativity that camming can actually cause. Like the fact is that many people in this job will treat you with a lot of disrespect and the issue isn't to sweep that under the rug and pretend it doesn't happen but to see if you can find a solution that will save you from burning out.

    I know so many sex workers in general who experience real burnout from the way they are treated by clients and I think it's important to be able to talk about it. I go on cam really happy and confident but then sometimes within an hour my mood has turned sour. I try to limit the amount of time I spend venting/complaining on here but in my opinion it's constructive to acknowledge your negative feelings and then work out strategies on how to work with them instead of being like "Positive! Think positive! Never mention anything negative or you'll make bad things happen!"

    I forgot to mention this, but now that I think of it, a mental trick that helps me with difficult thoughts/moods a lot in my life is to accept the negative feeling, categorize it, and move on - makes it seem like a specific, isolated feeling, instead of something that colours the entire world.

    So in this situation I would be like "hmm, discontent", locate the feeling, name it "annoyed with cam clients" and kind of be aware of it while also trying to be aware of other things. Which does make it more manageable actually, like seeing a pile of garbage in front of you rather than having... eyes made out of garbage.

    I've been thinking a lot recently about how to deal with negative emotion (in general) since if it was as easy as being positive and pushing it away, well, who would ever feel bad? I think acceptance and creating perspective have been the most useful to me, but it's good having this discussion because I hadn't really thought of applying it to the emotions camming causes in me.

    Basically I find that getting angry/annoyed with myself for being angry and annoyed makes me, well, more angry and annoyed.
    Last edited by sovereignv; 05-13-2016 at 07:10 PM.

  13. The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to sovereignv For This Useful Post:


  14. #8
    God/dess SoloDesire's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2013
    Location
    Tamriel
    Posts
    2,687
    Thanks
    9,179
    Thanked 9,109 Times in 2,233 Posts
    My Mood
    Cynical

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    This might seem too simple but I just don't focus on it too much. We all know there are idiots all over the Internet. Some of them just need to be ignored because of their level of stupidity. I laugh them off and then distract myself with something else (in my case I'm usually browsing the web/shopping on Amazon). It usually does the trick until they leave...or get blocked. But seriously, as soon as you find yourself getting agitated, block them! It's not worth any money you MAY get from them.

  15. The Following 7 Users Say Thank You to SoloDesire For This Useful Post:


  16. #9
    God/dess Cutie101's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2014
    Posts
    4,168
    Thanks
    5,212
    Thanked 11,137 Times in 3,381 Posts
    My Mood
    Yeehaw

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    I use my best friend: The BAN button.
    And I feel happy that I am not in the real life to deal with the bullshit in my face and being unable to do anything.
    Knowing that I can flip them away with a mouse click, makes me feel so empowered that is very hard for me to become pissed off.
    Only if I have a very bad day at work, I usually notice all the bullshit and even I ban them, I still am angry, but that doesn't happen too often anymore, especially since I meditate hahahaha ))
    I login at work sooo ZEN and I flip them with the same zen mode. I'm the Goddess in my own room
    * Me, everytime a member has 100 requests in freechat, like he's at a 5 Stars All Inclusive Holiday Resort *

  17. The Following 7 Users Say Thank You to Cutie101 For This Useful Post:


  18. #10
    Senior Member AngelMari's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2014
    Location
    Denver
    Posts
    177
    Thanks
    390
    Thanked 314 Times in 114 Posts

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    Quote Originally Posted by sovereignv View Post
    Hey all,

    Hope you're having a good Friday the 13th.

    My question of the day is, how do you, personally, deal with members/clients/freeloaders annoying you? Not "what do you say to the customers", but what do you say to YOURSELF to keep yourself from going completely crazy?

    The amount of freeloading, dick-pulling bullshit I get from guests/members/skype users recently is making me go fucking mad. I don't have trouble with the sex stuff or people's weird fetishes but the sheer disrespect for my time and work consistently shown is driving me crazy. Why do they think they're entitled to treat me like that? Like why do they think I'm some kind of showhorse that exists to do tricks for them for free? Lastly, in what other business except for sex work do people think it's okay to approach people and pretend genuine interest when they have absolutely no actual intention to buy anything?

    One guy even went as far as to make THREE different skype accounts where he pretended he was going to buy something, "Oops - payment declined - I have no money now - can I pay you on Monday"... THREE times. What makes them think this is okay???

    As you can tell this is getting to me, and I'd really appreciate any advice you have for keeping cool and staying focused on the money that you may have, because right now every shift I do feels like a war between me and potential clients and it's making this job way harder than it has to be.
    I have a couple folks that I just chit chat with on skype-no sexytime shit and that helps a lot. I like listening to their problems because (I'm ashamed to say it but) it makes me feel like my day isn't so bad, and they can be upbeat and hella funny as well.

    I just block folks now, I used to try and explain etc etc ... now I just block them after a couple mins (I tell them they have to pay within such and such a time -5 mins) There are so many people out there I don't even worry about it. Too many assholes getting off on wasting your time or telling you in detail exactly what they want in their show just to get off...

    I also switch to my regular site (SM) and just turn skype off. Skype seems to have a hell of a lot more time wasters and fake fuckers.

    Also you got to be in a good mood to do this job, they can totally see your fake smile/ bad mood no matter how much you try to pretend. Might as well call it a night if you're having a bad day. Just sign off and watch a funny movie or call a good friend and shoot the shit. Eat ice cream... and then sign in again and this time just block them right outta the gate.

    Letting you know, you're not alone - much love

  19. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to AngelMari For This Useful Post:


  20. #11
    Veteran Member sovereignv's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2015
    Location
    Germany
    Posts
    690
    Thanks
    1,136
    Thanked 1,720 Times in 476 Posts
    My Mood
    Yeehaw

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    Thanks y'all, lots of good advice and support in this thread

  21. The Following User Says Thank You to sovereignv For This Useful Post:


  22. #12
    Featured Member Magical_Hoohah's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2013
    Location
    East Coast, USA
    Posts
    1,453
    Thanks
    1,913
    Thanked 4,189 Times in 1,162 Posts
    My Mood
    Inspired

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    One of the things that I think stressed me out until recently was a nagging worry that guys would question how I do things, and I wouldn't be able to give them a good, polite answer. Women especially tend to encounter that problem a lot. For example, if your friend asks you to go to something, and you really aren't interested, many women feel they can't just say "no" or "no, I don't want to go to that." They feel like they need to present a good reason/lie for why they "can't" go. Many of us just aren't taught to be comfortable asserting our decisions or desires. So I used to have concerns about what to say if guys asked about my rates, why I don't flash in free chat, why I don't offer certain things, or even why I won't be online exactly when they want me there ("I realize that it's only 2am, so I should be totally happy to get up in time to play with your morning wood at 6:30am, but I can't because... I have an appointment somewhere at 7...? But maybe another morning I could play with you after only 3 hours of sleep!" *facepalm*).

    I'm fairly laid back to start with, but it really helped a lot when I realized that "because I said so" is a perfectly legit answer to pretty much anything on cam. Then I realized that I can do even better, and just refuse to dignify questions or demands that call my judgement into question. I split cam enough sites that I'm usually scrambling to respond to everyone, so ignoring the stuff that I don't want to deal with is pretty easy. If guys get pushy about it, I kick them, and that usually solves the issue. I almost never have to ban anybody, so if it comes to that, I feel kind of gratified, like I got to play with the big guns, lol! I think it's helpful to take joy in the ban button instead of dwelling on the dickhead that made you use it. More importantly, though, remembering that you never need to argue with anyone, explain anything, or justify anything you do is quite liberating.
    Quote Originally Posted by temptingmodel
    "dont worry, its slow for other models today"
    I'm not other models, its not slow.

  23. The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to Magical_Hoohah For This Useful Post:


  24. #13
    Member
    Joined
    Nov 2013
    Posts
    57
    Thanks
    25
    Thanked 68 Times in 24 Posts

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    Quote Originally Posted by Cutie101 View Post
    I use my best friend: The BAN button.
    And I feel happy that I am not in the real life to deal with the bullshit in my face and being unable to do anything.
    Knowing that I can flip them away with a mouse click, makes me feel so empowered that is very hard for me to become pissed off.
    Only if I have a very bad day at work, I usually notice all the bullshit and even I ban them, I still am angry, but that doesn't happen too often anymore, especially since I meditate hahahaha ))
    I login at work sooo ZEN and I flip them with the same zen mode. I'm the Goddess in my own room
    I'm very block-happy. I've been camming long enough to know when someone is full of shit. Rudeness and trying to freeloaders gets you blocked in my room. Sometimes stupid shit that they say gets annoying too, and the guys who give endless compliments. I just ignore their comment and after the 2nd compliment, I ignore them. They usually leave eventually.

  25. The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to Dulce For This Useful Post:


  26. #14
    Featured Member LoraDoll's Avatar
    Joined
    Dec 2012
    Posts
    1,121
    Thanks
    1,940
    Thanked 2,780 Times in 876 Posts
    My Mood
    Bored

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    Intersting thread.
    For me, the most annoying shit is when they became too personal.
    Like: why re u sad. Why re u upset. Why re u whatever. they can say whatever they want , this sit makes me angry instantly. Honestly, idk how to deal with that. Kick or i just rudely say go pvt and that s it?

    Another thing annoys me that i m damn bored to play the cute girl for them all day long. On Jasmin, most of them is a pain in the ass anyway. So what i do, just ignore and someties tell them random shit. Usually i just copy things, and i dont care what ll happen.

    I know it s not the perfect solution, but actually this is all i can do about it.

  27. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to LoraDoll For This Useful Post:


  28. #15
    God/dess audritwo's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2013
    Location
    10.0.0.1
    Posts
    4,582
    Thanks
    5,702
    Thanked 19,566 Times in 3,647 Posts
    My Mood
    Cynical

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    Quote Originally Posted by sovereignv View Post

    My question of the day is, how do you, personally, deal with members/clients/freeloaders annoying you? Not "what do you say to the customers", but what do you say to YOURSELF to keep yourself from going completely crazy?





    Quote Originally Posted by Miss_Red View Post
    Audritwo's asshole sees all, knows all. Spurs on armies of orcs. Casts fear into the dwindling races of Middle-Earth. Fears hobbits.

  29. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to audritwo For This Useful Post:


  30. #16
    Featured Member IvyRose's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2013
    Posts
    1,511
    Thanks
    6,060
    Thanked 6,479 Times in 1,352 Posts
    My Mood
    Psychedelic

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    Quote Originally Posted by sovereignv View Post
    Hey all,

    Hope you're having a good Friday the 13th.

    My question of the day is, how do you, personally, deal with members/clients/freeloaders annoying you? Not "what do you say to the customers", but what do you say to YOURSELF to keep yourself from going completely crazy?
    .
    1 Raise your rates, esp when your in a slumb
    I always push harder and get excited when raising my rates, feel a thrill when I get them inside my pvt/excl again on a higher rate. I feel like working again and my customersupport in freechat is topnotch when i know i will be earning more. I just wanna please them so they please me

    2. Always read everything written in freehat or inside a show in the nicest voice you can possibly imagine
    even when they are typing out ridiculous , embarrasing, hurtfull things I always try to read it like they are saying it to me in a very kind, loving and sweet way (like a hear a very sweet, or sexy voice). Whenever i loose it, I tend to read everything like they say it in a nagging way- thats when i kn ow I have to adjust My attitude

    3. Be in the present
    Dont dwell on what has been said or what pissed you off. Let it go, dont think about time, dont think about money, just focus 100% on your chat, give an response- and let go again. L:et go nervousness and expactations, judgements.. Just focus on feeling good and getting youreself in a positive flow. If it doesnt work and you feel pressed feeling something you c ant, or feel pressed letting things go and you cant take a break- go outside get your mind of the things that annoy- geta fresh start
    You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want - Zig Ziglar

    "Be thankful for the troubles of your job. They provide about half your income Robert R. Updegraff


  31. The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to IvyRose For This Useful Post:


  32. #17
    Veteran Member pinklemonade0's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2015
    Location
    Europe
    Posts
    228
    Thanks
    290
    Thanked 369 Times in 144 Posts

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    Like AngelMari and Magical_Hoohah I used to try to explain to them why something wasn't ok, why what they said was really offensive, or horrible or whatever the issue was. I felt like I wanted to, and I also wanted them to understand why it was upsetting.

    However, I've had to completely change that strategy now to literally no response. I don't have time for it. Even when I explained things, very few of them 'got it' and it dragged me down. It's not up to me to have to educate them, and I imagine that most of the time they know they're being offensive anyway and they don't care.

    So now I try to float along on a cloud... when someone says something offensive I think "oh, that's nice" and I simply don't respond and silently block them. "That's a nasty person" - block. End of thoughts. At first it felt weird - like I wanted them to understand why what they said wasn't ok. But now I realise it's best for me not to even say anything and just cut it off.

    I also find listening to music (in general, not on cam) helps a lot. Sometimes it totally takes my mind away from things, especially when it's stuff I really enjoy. When you come off cam, maybe get changed, take your make-up off, move to a different area of where you live if you can and completely decompress. They're people who live in the computer... that's where they should stay.

  33. The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to pinklemonade0 For This Useful Post:


  34. #18
    Veteran Member sovereignv's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2015
    Location
    Germany
    Posts
    690
    Thanks
    1,136
    Thanked 1,720 Times in 476 Posts
    My Mood
    Yeehaw

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    I realized that too - once somebody starts to piss me off I try to disengage completely. Like, you can't explain to some guy WHY you won't fuck your pussy with a stiletto heel for him, because he literally doesn't care about you as a person, as a human, he's happy for you to injure yourself so he can get off. And you can't argue with that, it's like arguing with a black hole. But sometimes it does stress me out to deal with this level of male entitlement on a daily basis.

    Interesting how people find such different approaches helpful. I hate arguing or getting defensive when it comes from a place of genuine hurt/annoyance, it makes me feel like they've got too much power over me. I enjoy it when it comes from a place of purely laughing at them though :'D

  35. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to sovereignv For This Useful Post:


  36. #19
    God/dess Marina Starr's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2012
    Location
    Don't Bother Me, USA
    Posts
    9,937
    Thanks
    12,135
    Thanked 37,400 Times in 8,666 Posts

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    The majority of men have a sense of entitlement. On and off cam. Even the ugliest motherfuckers think they can have any pussy they want and they're getting all kinds of pussies, LOL! When reality sets in, they can get real mean!
    Quote Originally Posted by sovereignv View Post
    I realized that too - once somebody starts to piss me off I try to disengage completely. Like, you can't explain to some guy WHY you won't fuck your pussy with a stiletto heel for him, because he literally doesn't care about you as a person, as a human, he's happy for you to injure yourself so he can get off. And you can't argue with that, it's like arguing with a black hole. But sometimes it does stress me out to deal with this level of male entitlement on a daily basis.

    Interesting how people find such different approaches helpful. I hate arguing or getting defensive when it comes from a place of genuine hurt/annoyance, it makes me feel like they've got too much power over me. I enjoy it when it comes from a place of purely laughing at them though :'D
    Quote Originally Posted by ~Carmen~ View Post
    I can see you being 90 and flipping your long hair, still teasing the boys.




  37. #20
    Member milarky's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2016
    Posts
    39
    Thanks
    13
    Thanked 140 Times in 28 Posts

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    The biggest mistake I see newbies make when they start camming is treating CamWorld like it was RealWorld.

    You see, in RealWorld you are supposed to treat everyone with respect. You are supposed to answer people's questions. You are expected to give every stranger the benefit of the doubt. In RealWorld you assign fair prices to things you are selling according to what seems reasonable, to what you would pay for it.

    CamWorld is a very different place. In CamWorld you will never be equal to the person who enters your room. There will always be an asymmetry. They see your face, you don't see theirs. They have the possibility of seeing you naked and it is expected of you to be sexy, you are there to sell sex. They don't even have to show their faces much less their genitals if they don't want to. This changes the rules and you should never play in CamWorld with the rules of RealWorld or you will get burned fast.

    1) In CamWorld nobody deserves your respect by default. People need to earn it. Any person who approaches you for the first time is to be treated with suspicion and banned on the first offense.

    2) In CamWorld you cannot risk being disrespected in front of the audience. In RealWorld you can afford to give them the benefit of the doubt and "work things out" but not in CamWorld. In Camworld you ban first and ask questions later. Only engage with a troll if the room is slow, he seems like he could be entertaining, and you are capable of outsmarting him. It will be adding value to your show. If the troll is uninspired, insulting, or too smart for you, then don't even say a word, ban and ignore, don't even let the room notice him.

    3) In CamWorld you are not selling a normal product so you shouldn't price it like a normal product. You are selling your intimacy and images of you naked that will have potential consequences for the rest of your life. So think about it when you price your shit. Guys will pay through their teeth, much more money than you would ever pay for anything. Don't sell yourself short. And if a guy looks like he is cheap, don't waste a single second of your time, he doesn't want to be your friend.

    4) Freeloaders are a reality in CamWorld and you should simply ignore it. Focus on being entertaining to your tippers and to the room in general so more freeloaders turn into tippers. But don't get mad at the nature of token sites. Every tipper was once a freeloader.


  38. #21
    God/dess SylvySinclair's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2016
    Location
    Brazil
    Posts
    2,032
    Thanks
    372
    Thanked 1,849 Times in 902 Posts

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    lately the number of real customers is much lower than the number of twats asking for free shit and trying to rip u off. Back in the day, this % was much different and i had only few twats compared to real clients, so yes, it gets on my nerves too and it makes me really upset, but i just block them once they start acting like shitheads. I dont waste my time on them.
    Visit my site for live shows, sexting and phone calls:
    twitter:

    Snapchat:



  39. The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to SylvySinclair For This Useful Post:


  40. #22
    God/dess Mare's Avatar
    Joined
    Feb 2004
    Posts
    2,413
    Thanks
    10,356
    Thanked 3,466 Times in 1,087 Posts
    My Mood
    Stressed

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    The majority of men have a sense of entitlement. On and off cam. Even the ugliest motherfuckers think they can have any pussy they want and they're getting all kinds of pussies, LOL! When reality sets in, they can get real mean!
    Word.

  41. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to Mare For This Useful Post:


  42. #23
    God/dess audritwo's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2013
    Location
    10.0.0.1
    Posts
    4,582
    Thanks
    5,702
    Thanked 19,566 Times in 3,647 Posts
    My Mood
    Cynical

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    Quote Originally Posted by milarky View Post
    The biggest mistake I see newbies make when they start camming is treating CamWorld like it was RealWorld.

    You see, in RealWorld you are supposed to treat everyone with respect. You are supposed to answer people's questions. You are expected to give every stranger the benefit of the doubt. In RealWorld you assign fair prices to things you are selling according to what seems reasonable, to what you would pay for it.

    CamWorld is a very different place. In CamWorld you will never be equal to the person who enters your room. There will always be an asymmetry. They see your face, you don't see theirs. They have the possibility of seeing you naked and it is expected of you to be sexy, you are there to sell sex. They don't even have to show their faces much less their genitals if they don't want to. This changes the rules and you should never play in CamWorld with the rules of RealWorld or you will get burned fast.

    1) In CamWorld nobody deserves your respect by default. People need to earn it. Any person who approaches you for the first time is to be treated with suspicion and banned on the first offense.

    2) In CamWorld you cannot risk being disrespected in front of the audience. In RealWorld you can afford to give them the benefit of the doubt and "work things out" but not in CamWorld. In Camworld you ban first and ask questions later. Only engage with a troll if the room is slow, he seems like he could be entertaining, and you are capable of outsmarting him. It will be adding value to your show. If the troll is uninspired, insulting, or too smart for you, then don't even say a word, ban and ignore, don't even let the room notice him.

    3) In CamWorld you are not selling a normal product so you shouldn't price it like a normal product. You are selling your intimacy and images of you naked that will have potential consequences for the rest of your life. So think about it when you price your shit. Guys will pay through their teeth, much more money than you would ever pay for anything. Don't sell yourself short. And if a guy looks like he is cheap, don't waste a single second of your time, he doesn't want to be your friend.

    4) Freeloaders are a reality in CamWorld and you should simply ignore it. Focus on being entertaining to your tippers and to the room in general so more freeloaders turn into tippers. But don't get mad at the nature of token sites. Every tipper was once a freeloader.



    this is the best advice





    Quote Originally Posted by Miss_Red View Post
    Audritwo's asshole sees all, knows all. Spurs on armies of orcs. Casts fear into the dwindling races of Middle-Earth. Fears hobbits.

  43. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to audritwo For This Useful Post:


  44. #24
    God/dess anonymous camgirl's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2012
    Location
    HEAVEN
    Posts
    5,359
    Thanks
    6,513
    Thanked 11,807 Times in 3,965 Posts
    My Mood
    Sleepy

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    loved this!.. I was on CB and I didn't have a price for my pussy to show cuz I am on all these other sites..so I asked for 500 tokens and BAM he paid me just to see it..lol

    Quote Originally Posted by milarky View Post
    The biggest mistake I see newbies make when they start camming is treating CamWorld like it was RealWorld.

    You see, in RealWorld you are supposed to treat everyone with respect. You are supposed to answer people's questions. You are expected to give every stranger the benefit of the doubt. In RealWorld you assign fair prices to things you are selling according to what seems reasonable, to what you would pay for it.

    CamWorld is a very different place. In CamWorld you will never be equal to the person who enters your room. There will always be an asymmetry. They see your face, you don't see theirs. They have the possibility of seeing you naked and it is expected of you to be sexy, you are there to sell sex. They don't even have to show their faces much less their genitals if they don't want to. This changes the rules and you should never play in CamWorld with the rules of RealWorld or you will get burned fast.

    1) In CamWorld nobody deserves your respect by default. People need to earn it. Any person who approaches you for the first time is to be treated with suspicion and banned on the first offense.

    2) In CamWorld you cannot risk being disrespected in front of the audience. In RealWorld you can afford to give them the benefit of the doubt and "work things out" but not in CamWorld. In Camworld you ban first and ask questions later. Only engage with a troll if the room is slow, he seems like he could be entertaining, and you are capable of outsmarting him. It will be adding value to your show. If the troll is uninspired, insulting, or too smart for you, then don't even say a word, ban and ignore, don't even let the room notice him.

    3) In CamWorld you are not selling a normal product so you shouldn't price it like a normal product. You are selling your intimacy and images of you naked that will have potential consequences for the rest of your life. So think about it when you price your shit. Guys will pay through their teeth, much more money than you would ever pay for anything. Don't sell yourself short. And if a guy looks like he is cheap, don't waste a single second of your time, he doesn't want to be your friend.

    4) Freeloaders are a reality in CamWorld and you should simply ignore it. Focus on being entertaining to your tippers and to the room in general so more freeloaders turn into tippers. But don't get mad at the nature of token sites. Every tipper was once a freeloader.

  45. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to anonymous camgirl For This Useful Post:


  46. #25
    God/dess sexysusie's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2012
    Location
    UK
    Posts
    5,664
    Thanks
    8,080
    Thanked 10,331 Times in 3,728 Posts
    My Mood
    Aggressive

    Default Re: How to deal with members pissing you off without going crazy

    I don't do free chat unless I'm feeling exceptionally generous? Seriously, plenty of non free chat/ free optional sites around x
    "If you want to earn more, learn more" ~ Zig Ziglar




  47. The Following User Says Thank You to sexysusie For This Useful Post:


Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. Chaturbate is PISSING ME OFF.
    By MiaraRiley in forum Camming Connection
    Replies: 14
    Last Post: 04-20-2013, 09:08 PM
  2. Pissing me off.
    By CamWhore in forum Other Work
    Replies: 12
    Last Post: 02-15-2011, 10:32 AM
  3. Snaz75 is pissing me off
    By tempest666 in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 15
    Last Post: 01-04-2011, 03:36 PM
  4. My hayfever is pissing me off
    By Polekitten in forum Body Business
    Replies: 5
    Last Post: 06-26-2008, 09:09 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •