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    I was on chaturbate today and a guy comes into my room and says he thinks that he knows me. I pm him so he wouldn't say my real name just in case. He told me what town I live in, he called me by my real name, told me my daughters name, and said that he went to school with her. He also said he seen me and my bf at a restaurant last weekend and named the restaurant and everything. Then he starts telling me that he has seen me and my bf on our couple account on cb. At first, he wanted me to meet him and fuck him like I do my bf. Of course I told him no. Now he is black mailing me, telling me to do a show and he wont tell her. I thought about blocking him but then I am afraid that he will just make another account and then tell her. When I refused to do the show, he said that he will be back tonight and wants to see me and my bf on our couple account. He promises if I do the show, he won't bother me again.

    What really scares me the most is that he knows my real name and typed it in a pm. My biggest fear is that he will type my real name and city that I live into free chat on any of my other sites. I've already had a crazy stalker on skype that keeps changing his name so I will add him. Of course I keep blocking him when I figure out its him. Also the crazy stalker follows me and knows every site I am on. My biggest fear is the guy that knows me will say my real name in chat and my stalker will see it. I don't want my daughter to know either but I HATE being black mailed. Should I just go ahead and tell my daughter? Any ideas on how I can find out who this guy is? Can I report him to cb?
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    Can't you just DENY? Make out you haven't a clue what he's talking about? Sure, him having your info is creepy, and you can go to the police with all this cos he's STALKING (an offense) HARRASSING (an offense) and BLACKMAILING (an offense)...But if anyone ever says your name on cam, just make out like you don't know what he's talking about. Child?? What child? What restaurant? I never eat out...

    I'm sure the ladies here will help you more

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    Call his bluff. He has more to lose from it I'm sure. Don't give him any power over you by aquiesing to his demands, in fact don't give him any of your time at all. If he is going to out you (very doubtful), there is nothing you can do to prevent him. Giving him any power will only serve to prolong the situation. That's how I'd personally handle it. I know other girls in a similar situation that have temporarily shut down their social media sites and taken their pics off their cam sites. You could go that way, but personally I don't think you should let anyone fuck with your money making ability. And Cat is right - faced with the actuality of him sating any of this in your chat in front of people - an incredulous look, a laugh, and a "yeah sure, like I have a kid" then BOOT.

    If I were faced with someone trying to do this face to face I would rip their fucking throat out!
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    It sounds to me like this IS the crazy stalker you already mentioned. But with a new story to scare you. Thats what these assholes want, to scare you. Play it out, worst case scenario everything he says is true, he tells your daughter, and your completely dumbfounded by what she heard. You laugh at the ridiculousness and ask her why she is hanging out with porn obsessed pervs. See? Worst isn't awful. Don't give him the power.
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    Also, I'm just so sorry that you are dealing with this. People are so fucked up and you should be able to live your life feeling safe.
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    Ignore him completely... Do not say another word to him ever again.. Don't even call out his bluff...don't adjust your mood wen he's typing just block block block maybe block ur state or city for a lil while...they feed of the attention they get .. The control they have over u... U give him a show he's not going to stop so don't even give him one to begin with

    Get mace or whatever is legal I. Your area and carry it with u.. In case him not getting ur attention online makes him actually want to approach u ..mace his ass!!!
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    What a thirst bucket psycho.

    I had similar situation where dude came into the club telling me he knew me and had seen me out at my fav shops and out with the kid. Like as soon as a psycho mentions the kid I was like uh no, you don't know me fucker now stfu and walked away.

    But after that made me real cautious never to frequent same spots too much and to be very careful about douchebag men and cunty women trying to fuck with me.

    Also dude is a loser for trying to blackmail you. I'd report his ass to the site and maybe even take legal action if I were you. But at the very least report him and try to get him banned from the site.
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    @Layla your so right, I just remembered that back when, my mom had a stalker. The police said not to give him any attention at all. Not even to tell him to back off. Keep changing your number and routine. Get gel mace with UV dye online. 40 bucks or so, literally the best and safest. The police said that unfortunately with stalkers you basically have to wait until they attach to someone else
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    Do a screen shot each & every time, what he is doing is illegal. Now, whether or not the law will do anything is another matter.

    Blackmail is a felony, kindly remind of him that fact. If he contact your daughter about the situation then he is a predator & sending a child porn is also illegal.

    Never be intimidated, and if he outs you then you can tell everyone what a total douche bag he is in return. Hence how those screen shots can come in handy at that point.

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    Contact an adult friendly lawyer. Had to deal with something similar to this last year and the dude backed off so freaking fast the second there was a lawyer involved.

    the pornlaw guy on twitter is super helpful, especially if you're in cali. even if you aren't, I'd contact him and ask for a lawyer suggestion in your state.

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    I wonder how he would react if he realized he is committing a felony and could wind up in jail or on the sex offender's lists. I hope you can compile enough evidence to figure out who he is, track him down and get him in deep trouble.


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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    What a thirst bucket psycho.

    I had similar situation where dude came into the club telling me he knew me and had seen me out at my fav shops and out with the kid. Like as soon as a psycho mentions he kid I was like uh no, you don't know me fucker now stfu and walked away.

    But after that made me real cautious never to frequent same spots too much and to be very careful about douchebag men and cunty women trying to fuck with me.

    Also dude is a loser for trying to blackmail you. I'd report his ass to the site and maybe even take legal action if I were you. But at the very least report him and try to get him banned from the site.
    I was going to try and report him earlier but he has already deleted his account. I did take screen shots of the conversation tho. I also tried contacting cb but couldn't figure out how to contact them. Anyone know how to contact cb?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Girly_Girl View Post
    I was going to try and report him earlier but he has already deleted his account. I did take screen shots of the conversation tho. I also tried contacting cb but couldn't figure out how to contact them. Anyone know how to contact cb?
    idk... maybe try the orange support button at the bottom of the main page. or this: https://support.chaturbate.com/contact-us

    I'm kind of surprised you didn't contact them like IMMEDIATELY when you were getting harassed... Being proactive and nipping this kind of crap in the butt is extremely important.

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    The thing to remember about blackmail is that it doesn't stop if you give them what they want. It just gets worse. The classic tactic is to use the first blackmail attempt to get more leverage for further attempts. He wants a show? Bet he's asking so he can screencap it to use as further blackmail material.

    Never give in, never reply, never respond. The best advice I ever read about stalkers is that if they try calling/contacting you over and over, and on the hundredth time you give in and answer to tell them to fuck off, then all you've taught them is that 100 times is the number they have to try to get your attention.

    Pick up a copy of 'The Gift of Fear', excellent book by a guy that works in this field.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Girly_Girl View Post
    I was on chaturbate today and a guy comes into my room and says he thinks that he knows me. I pm him so he wouldn't say my real name just in case.
    Instead of pming him, ban him right from start. Never call out their bluff. Contact support with the link provided and send them the screenshots. What he was doing is illegal and it's against to custy ToS.





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    Quote Originally Posted by Girly_Girl View Post
    he called me by my real name, told me my daughters name, and said that he went to school with her. He also said he seen me and my bf at a restaurant last weekend and named the restaurant and everything.
    How's your controlling douchenozzle boyfriend doing these days, hon, and where was he while this conversation was happening?

    Call me paranoid, but when there's already one existing asshole in your life who likes to fuck with your income, I'd look at them first.


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    Quote Originally Posted by DancesWithSloths View Post
    How's your controlling douchenozzle boyfriend doing these days, hon, and where was he while this conversation was happening?

    Call me paranoid, but when there's already one existing asshole in your life who likes to fuck with your income, I'd look at them first.
    Oh wow, I never thought about it being him. Kind of got me wondering now tho.He was in the other room while all this was going on. I set up a computer in another room so he can edit some videos and pictures since I work so much and barely have time. Figured I'd make him do something. Not sure if it would be him tho unless he was just trying to get me to couple cam last night because he knows I don't like couple camming or having sex with him anymore. Funny thing tho is whoever it was has deleted there account but I took screen shots of the conversation before he did.

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    Thank you Caramelcraze for the link. I clicked on it and was able to email support to find out if any thing can be done to ban him from the site. I did try reporting him right after it happened but when I clicked on contact support, it just gave me a list of faqs but no way of contacting them Only thing is, he has deleted his account now. I do have screen shots of the convo too. Wonder if they can still go back and find out who it was or get his ip address? I also added the pornlaw guy on twitter to find out what else can be done.

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    They can black list his IP.





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    Oh holy shit... If you are a controlong guy with a girlfriend who does cam work and you want to be in complete control of her, creating a stalker identity to frighten her would be perfect. He would have an outlet for all of his rage/anger/control issues, he can manipulate you into doing what he wants you to do IRL and IRL he can turn around and play the hero! The protector! Please look into protection tips just in case. Him or not, it couldn't hurt. http://www.helpguide.org/articles/ab...ered-women.htm I have read stories of women stalked for years by men they found out are right in their orb.
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    There is a top model on a top token site that dealt with this same thing. Her creep stalker has posted horrible stuff about her, (still does) her real name and town and personal things about her husband and daughter. When that happened she held her head high and didn't take any shit. She changed her cam name and persona, wrote a long straight forward tweet/note explaining everything to her fans and ended it with , "this is the only time and last time I will ever discuss this" It was DONE. So, it does happen. when I was a stripper everyone knew who I was, family friends customers, but that was my world. I didn't give a shit. You'll get to the bottom of it I'm sure. And don't be surprised when you find out who it is, people are capable of really dumb shit. I roll my eyes every day. God Damn I hate to hear of anyone being an asshole to my cam-sisters.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Girly_Girl View Post
    told me my daughters name, and said that he went to school with her.
    How old is your daughter? Because if she's underage by quite a bit, then that would mean jackass is as well. That seems highly unlikely, because I really can't think of a single underage (even nearly legal) teenage boy who's organized and capable enough to find a classmate's mother to try to blackmail. If she's in college, I could maybe see it, but it's still a stretch. Either way, those threats don't have much in the way of teeth with someone that (relatively) young.

    Do you know who this guy is? Seriously, some random young guy recognizing you because he knows you through your daughter really limits the pool.

    Report him to the site. I think there's a CB higher up who keeps an account here (Shirley maybe?) that you can PM to look into this matter. If the kid is underage (never mind the attempt at blackmail), they'll be quick to handle it.

    At any rate, keep proof of what's going on and throw up some geoblock on your area as an added precaution. Don't want him coming back and trying to say you solicited him for sex/off site contact/whatever.

    Fuck, if I had the evidence to prove I didn't solicit him (Ass Covering 101, right there), I'd just tattle on him to his parents and the police. Enjoy that awkward conversation buddy...


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    Quote Originally Posted by LilLadyLux View Post
    Oh holy shit... If you are a controlong guy with a girlfriend who does cam work and you want to be in complete control of her, creating a stalker identity to frighten her would be perfect. He would have an outlet for all of his rage/anger/control issues, he can manipulate you into doing what he wants you to do IRL and IRL he can turn around and play the hero! The protector! Please look into protection tips just in case. Him or not, it couldn't hurt. http://www.helpguide.org/articles/ab...ered-women.htm I have read stories of women stalked for years by men they found out are right in their orb.
    Sherlock this! Actually this makes a lot of sense to me. I used to have a super jealous bf and the stuff he was doing to check on me was insane. Those people can go far and much more. I suspect TS bf as well. At least worth checking it out.
    Girly_Girl, good luck, stay strong. I hope everything will be fine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LilLadyLux View Post
    Oh holy shit... If you are a controlong guy with a girlfriend who does cam work and you want to be in complete control of her, creating a stalker identity to frighten her would be perfect. He would have an outlet for all of his rage/anger/control issues, he can manipulate you into doing what he wants you to do IRL and IRL he can turn around and play the hero! The protector! Please look into protection tips just in case. Him or not, it couldn't hurt. http://www.helpguide.org/articles/ab...ered-women.htm I have read stories of women stalked for years by men they found out are right in their orb.
    After this thread I was actually thinking about it..especially since I dealt with a stalker online..and then it clicked..it's her bf!!!!!Knows everything that only her bf would know...only part that doesn't make sense it the fact he wants a free show from the couple account..but that could also be part of this plan
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    Quote Originally Posted by LilLadyLux View Post
    Oh holy shit... If you are a controlong guy with a girlfriend who does cam work and you want to be in complete control of her, creating a stalker identity to frighten her would be perfect. He would have an outlet for all of his rage/anger/control issues, he can manipulate you into doing what he wants you to do IRL and IRL he can turn around and play the hero! The protector!
    Yes! This actually happens sometimes with stalkers, it goes on for months and then the victim finally finds out that their partner/best friend/coworker who was so helpful and supportive was actually the stalker all along. The ultimate manipulation.

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