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    I love my job but I will never be a people person. I feel like that gets in the way of me making money. I work a lot and after awhile I get overwhelmed & bored with the job. I have no problem at all with going into work. But when I get there and get on the floor I completely shut down. When I try to talk to customers my mind pretty much goes blank. & having those same, boring ass, small talk convos with customers doesn't help at all. It's how I deal with all of the people. Of course my money suffers from this. Taking off from work usually helps but that is NOT an option anymore.


    Any advice on how to combat this without taking time off (not an option at all)? I know there's a way and that I can do it but I'm just not sure how.

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    I guess learning how to be an extrovert is probably the key. I can't change the way I'm wired but I can control my behavior for a night at work to make money.

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    I know what you mean, I'm not stripping @tm, but yea I know..have you checked out the section Hustle Hut?


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    I concentrate more on one-on-one interaction vs group. I do my best on day shift or slower nights like Mondays. I'm a regulars kinda dancer. Don't try and change yourself to fit your surroundings, change your surroundings to where you really shine. I hate weekend nights, and avoid them like the plague ..they may be busier but I can't cope and end up getting angry and overwhelmed.

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    My tactic is- I tell myself I am letting people down if I am shy at work. These lonely sad men come in for attention. If I don't engage them/entertain them they will leave feeling sad. It's my job to be an entertainer.

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    I'm an introvert too! In my area, alcohol clubs are usually more sit and chat and that's really not my style. I currently work at a divey full nude clubs and I usually never talk to a customer for more than 1 minute. I would try a full nude club because they tend to be a faster hustle with less small talk. Customers can't sit there and babysit a beer, so there's no excuse to not get dances.

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    I would often play a " game " like an actress getting into character. It doesn't really matter what " you " think of the job because the " you " part just counts $ and leaves.
    Your character can become your work horse in a sense . I hope that explains a little my " push through " strategy .
    It's not perfect but it'll often help me stay when I want to leave ect. or hang in there on the last day of dance trips ect.

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    I hate doing small talk too, especially if I don't even like the person and I'm always afraid it shows on my face. So I try to picture the things I want to get off these guys (money or what I wanna buy for it or what I'm saving it up to) and I automatically am more enthusiastic. Also, I try to lead the conversation faster to the closing line, because once the talk is over and it gets to the dancing part, this projecting gets easier because it's not distracted by stupid words coming out of their mouths.

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    Get big fake boobs. They talk for you.
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