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    How often do you turn down clients who want a repeat session? I find myself doing it so much and I can't help but think I'm not the only one.

    Today a client tried to schedule a second appointment but I ignored his texts. During our first session, which was three hours (I have a two hour minimum and three hours is a deal), all he wanted to do was aggressively make out and suck on my lips really hard. Then came really aggressive fingering. He didn't even want sex and every time I tried to have us talk or do a different activity, he tried to go back to the old ones. I cut our session short by almost an hour because he was so aggressive in an awkward way, but now he is trying to schedule again for this coming week! What gives?

    Anyone else go through this kind of thing constantly? I'm worried guys like this will leave a bad review. Has that happened to anyone before?

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    I can look past a lot of things, even if I have to roll my eyes into the pillow every now and then. But if something really gets on my nerves about a client to the point that I don't think I can bear to see him again, I don't. Aggressive clients, creepy clients... I'll admit that I turned a guy down once because he takes too long to cum and I didn't want to put that much work into it. (I was battling depression at the time and had absolutely no energy). It doesn't affect them really. Well, not my clients anyway. They still call. No bad reviews that I know of.

    We say our time is valuable, right? I think that phrase holds more than one meaning. We don't "owe" anyone our time if we don't want to give it. They don't own us.

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    It's all finding your niche / comfort level. One lady at a meet & greet whispered in my ear that one of the dudes 'had a dick like a baby arm', hence only gets one date from most escorts. Another athletic (although small framed lady heard ladies didn't want to book a dude because he 'fucked too hard' and she said she was up for the challenge! There are plenty of escorts and plenty of customers - just pick your type! (Maybe this is a market opportunity for a more accurate 'escort / customer matching site'?!) ;-)
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    Quote Originally Posted by red.velvet View Post
    How often do you turn down clients who want a repeat session? I find myself doing it so much and I can't help but think I'm not the only one.

    Today a client tried to schedule a second appointment but I ignored his texts. During our first session, which was three hours (I have a two hour minimum and three hours is a deal), all he wanted to do was aggressively make out and suck on my lips really hard. Then came really aggressive fingering. He didn't even want sex and every time I tried to have us talk or do a different activity, he tried to go back to the old ones. I cut our session short by almost an hour because he was so aggressive in an awkward way, but now he is trying to schedule again for this coming week! What gives?

    Anyone else go through this kind of thing constantly? I'm worried guys like this will leave a bad review. Has that happened to anyone before?
    Oh God I just went through something like this. My regular has gotten way too comfortable with me & he annoyed me greatly the last time I saw him. I'm going to duck out of re-booking him but make sure he doesn't realize why. It's my fault for being too nice.

    My only advice is to NOT let these guys know that you don't want them again because some of these hobbyists take rejections from girls way too personally.

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    I agree as well. Usually, if a client is aggressive, creepy or makes me feel really uncomfortable, I won't book again. Usually I'll say I'm booked, but if they become insistent (happened once that I remember) I'll say that I didn't think we had a connection and he deserves someone who can fulfill his needs or some bs like that.

    I also had a huge client that I straight told he'd have to book multiple hours and at most twice a month because I couldn't work for at least a day following a session with him. Yes it was an exaggeration, but I knew I couldn't book any appointments after him and it was better to have time to warm up bc I'm not about getting stretched. At first he was put off but then it inflated his ego so he was okay with it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by red.velvet View Post
    How often do you turn down clients who want a repeat session? I find myself doing it so much and I can't help but think I'm not the only one.

    Today a client tried to schedule a second appointment but I ignored his texts. During our first session, which was three hours (I have a two hour minimum and three hours is a deal), all he wanted to do was aggressively make out and suck on my lips really hard. Then came really aggressive fingering. He didn't even want sex and every time I tried to have us talk or do a different activity, he tried to go back to the old ones. I cut our session short by almost an hour because he was so aggressive in an awkward way, but now he is trying to schedule again for this coming week! What gives?

    Anyone else go through this kind of thing constantly? I'm worried guys like this will leave a bad review. Has that happened to anyone before?
    Sounds to me like the guys you have been booking don't know how to be a gentleman, or treat a woman like a lady (it's a generational problem today). If you could speak to other escorts that your customers have also seen, they probably feel the same way you do about them as well.

    As a John my number one concern is that the lady I'm with feels comfortable with me. I believe a lot of Johns feel they don't need care and put in less effort because they may never see the woman again, or because since they're paying outright, they feel entitled that they can treat an escort anyway they want.

    That said, I'm turned down quite a bit altogether because I'm black, so I don't even get a chance to try a repeat session. The upside is that when an escort does take a chance with me, I have never been blacklisted or anything like that and the escorts I have seen call or text me at regular intervals when they're in town and seem to have a preference to see me.

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    It's possible to modify someone's behavior if you frame it positively. Like, if you liked everything else about the guy and you're thinking, "It'd be worth it if he could chill a little on the fingering and aggressive kissing" you can see what happens if you pitch it to him like, "I'd love to see you again baby. It's just that you were really rough with me last time and I like a little more gentle touch. [[Add the sexy voice here]] If you want to see me again I can show you how I like it if you think you can do that for me...what do you say, you up for a sexy teacher?"

    Now, if he's a good guy he'll probably be into that and then you've got the next session to do your best porn star teacher and dirty talk and show him how you'd like to be touched. You do have to be up for the possibility that he won't learn and the session will be another shitty one. But if you think he could have been a regular that you'd like and you want to try and salvage it. *shrug* could be worth a try.


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    I turn down domme clients all the time lol. But that's different than escorting. I turn them down because I don't want to do the fetishes they want, or it's just too exhausting for me. I only like doing a few select things, and it builds a strong niche that way. I'm not sure how it would work with escorting though.

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    Sounds to me like the guys you have been booking don't know how to be a gentleman, or treat a woman like a lady (it's a generational problem today). If you could speak to other escorts that your customers have also seen, they probably feel the same way you do about them as well.

    As a John my number one concern is that the lady I'm with feels comfortable with me. I believe a lot of Johns feel they don't need care and put in less effort because they may never see the woman again, or because since they're paying outright, they feel entitled that they can treat an escort anyway they want.

    That said, I'm turned down quite a bit altogether because I'm black, so I don't even get a chance to try a repeat session. The upside is that when an escort does take a chance with me, I have never been blacklisted or anything like that and the escorts I have seen call or text me at regular intervals when they're in town and seem to have a preference to see me.
    Why do girls turn down black guys? I have awesome black clients. I feel like race is irrelevant. Is it because of racism and stereotyping? If so, which stereotypes? I can't think of any that would make someone turn down a client? I guess the idea of a pimp, maybe?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Velveteen.Rabbit View Post
    I turn down domme clients all the time lol. But that's different than escorting. I turn them down because I don't want to do the fetishes they want, or it's just too exhausting for me. I only like doing a few select things, and it builds a strong niche that way. I'm not sure how it would work with escorting though.



    Why do girls turn down black guys? I have awesome black clients. I feel like race is irrelevant. Is it because of racism and stereotyping? If so, which stereotypes? I can't think of any that would make someone turn down a client? I guess the idea of a pimp, maybe?
    Possible pimp, thinking all blacks are cheap/abusive/etc, might have pussy stretching monster cocks, and the list could go on.

    Also some ladies have only had sex with people the same race as them and won't venture out of that comfort zone not even for money.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Velveteen.Rabbit View Post
    I turn down domme clients all the time lol. But that's different than escorting. I turn them down because I don't want to do the fetishes they want, or it's just too exhausting for me. I only like doing a few select things, and it builds a strong niche that way. I'm not sure how it would work with escorting though.



    Why do girls turn down black guys? I have awesome black clients. I feel like race is irrelevant. Is it because of racism and stereotyping? If so, which stereotypes? I can't think of any that would make someone turn down a client? I guess the idea of a pimp, maybe?
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    I would tell him your not a blow up doll.

    Reviews don't effect my business - its the bad press is good press thing - which has worked out for me over the years.

    You have the right to refuse any client you see fit, but in some cases I would tell a client if he is performing an act I don't enjoy and direct him in making it more enjoyable for both of us.

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    I find myself getting burned out quicker when I convince myself to work with clients that annoy me to no end. So if you think about it, your hurting business anyways in the long run by working with them.

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    I recently had this with several clients... it seems like whenever there is an issue - "when it rains, it pours" w said issue.

    I'm going to just ignore emails/texts until they get the message, and deal with any issues that arise if and when they ask me directly why I'm not answering them. It's possible that it may be unprofessional, but this is the approach I'm going to try and see if it works for me. Obviously some people won't get the message or get it, but proceed to pester anyhow, but most people will get the message, after I ignore a text AND email.

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    Quote Originally Posted by msjoiparker View Post
    Black men are stereotypically more violent... supposedly
    White men are stereotypically more pedophiles...supposedly. The truth is, this country has an issue with racism so a lot of providers believe the hype and won't see them. May as well be honest I'm saying that the world has preconceived notions based on racial stereotypes.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Luckyguy09 View Post
    That said, I'm turned down quite a bit altogether because I'm black, so I don't even get a chance to try a repeat session. The upside is that when an escort does take a chance with me, I have never been blacklisted or anything like that and the escorts I have seen call or text me at regular intervals when they're in town and seem to have a preference to see me.
    If an escort is discriminating against black men, just because of the color of their skin, she is losing out on a significant amount of business. That said, an escort has to be comfortable with clients she sees. It may be just a personal preference. There should be no shame for that. Her body, her rules.

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    There are guys use escort like a piece of meat. And that's their solo reason to see you. You need to say no to that client firmly. seriously, do not repeat with a client that crossed the line.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Luckyguy09 View Post

    That said, I'm turned down quite a bit altogether because I'm black, so I don't even get a chance to try a repeat session. The upside is that when an escort does take a chance with me, I have never been blacklisted or anything like that and the escorts I have seen call or text me at regular intervals when they're in town and seem to have a preference to see me.
    That's too bad. I think I actually do better because I don't turn down anybody because of race. I've had many black clients and probably have had better experiences with black clients than any other race including white men.

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    Quote Originally Posted by msjoiparker View Post
    Black men are stereotypically more violent... supposedly
    I find this quite comical since crimes are overwhelmingly intraracial. Most of my clients are white but its safe to say that if one of them is a BackPage killer, his victims will be white women.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LeggingsQueen View Post
    That's too bad. I think I actually do better because I don't turn down anybody because of race. I've had many black clients and probably have had better experiences with black clients than any other race including white men.
    My best client is a black guy who gifts me my overnight rate for just dinner and conversation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by baer45 View Post
    There are guys use escort like a piece of meat. And that's their solo reason to see you.
    That goes for almost every guy I see, but then they cum and look at you like a person again. Well mostly.

    Then there are escorts who look at guys like a wad of money......oh wait that's me, nevermind. Lol

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    There are clients I actively avoid unless I need to fill in a slow week ... some are just too much ... one always insisted on trying to take photos, ... to the point where the entire session became a negotiation and me kicking him out, yet he still contacted me. Yeh I def avoid rebooking ppl, which sometimes I feel stupid for because everyone wants repeat clients ... but repeat clients who are a pain in my ass or gross are just not worth the $$ for me.

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