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    Question Am i f'd up for being this way?

    To get in my zone i do my hair and makeup at home so i spend time in the dressing room. Ive been having some greeeeeaaaaat money making days at my new club. (Been there a month) ive been dancing for 3 years and my hustle is still coming together, in 110% confident in myself, know im the shit (but not better than anyone else), etc.
    Only prob is i HATE being around the majority of girls who work, i hate talking to them, i hate their slick comments, i hate when their "nice" to me. I have tunnel vision when i go to work. I dont want to talk to them. I speak when spoken to but a girl was forcing a convo on me on saturday night and it f*cked up my mood, hustle, etc.
    Is anyone else like this?
    And how do you guys work the room?
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    Don't be afraid to walk into the club with head pho es on. Even if there's no music.

    Maybe you need to create a mantra for yourself that you literally say in their head as their talking before you even know if the comment is neutral or greasy. "Like water off a ducks back" is popular for drag queen Jinks Monsoon.

    Personally I would put in headphones and meditate for 5 min when your done with your makeup. See all the energy you've been accumulating and strengthening while getting ready (your persona) strengthening your aura into a hard inpenetrable shell. This shell attracts money (and sparkely things whatever you fancy) but any words with a hint of sass or jelousy bounce right off your aura. Literally picture it quickly, it's a funny mental image. You are untouchable.

    When you do the aura strengh meditations daily they can be life changing.

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    I have girls I talk to, but otherwise I am pretty much like you. I don't like when girls I've never spoken to try to strike up conversation. Asking to borrow something or a random comment about the night is ok, but anything else is like "agh leave me alone". Luckily we have 2 nearly unused dressing rooms, so if I really don't wanna talk I'll set up shop in one of those.

    Just make it plain you're not interested and leave next time a girl does that. You might get a bitch reputation but who cares, you're there to make money.
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    You're not there for friends you're there for money.
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    Same here. I don't mind brief friendly convo but no b*tch I don't want to hear your poverty struggles, your baby daddy issues, your pimp i mean boyfriend problems, nada.......

    One broad I did not like stayed trying to talk to me. And she was fake as f*ck and I saw right through her. She would only talk to me if no one else was around. She was two faced and would trash talk other dancers but then days later be brown-nosing the same girls she was bashing?!? Every time I look up I see her cock eyes glaring at me, like wtf are you staring at. One day she kept asking me if I liked her outfit. Like hoe you should know better than to ask me that when I barely like you, let alone your struggly outfit. And she was slick racist, making ignorant comments about black male customers. I had zero respect for her. I heard she left the club to work the competitors club and when that didn't work out she had to grovel and beg to get back in. Hahahaha.

    I'd say maybe 5% of the dancers have good convo that won't destroy your hustle mindset and can actually help your hustle. The others avoid like the plague.
    “Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    Same here. I don't mind brief friendly convo but no b*tch I don't want to hear your poverty struggles, your baby daddy issues, your pimp i mean boyfriend problems, nada.......

    One broad I did not like stayed trying to talk to me. And she was fake as f*ck and I saw right through her. She would only talk to me if no one else was around. She was two faced and would trash talk other dancers but then days later be brown-nosing the same girls she was bashing?!? Every time I look up I see her cock eyes glaring at me, like wtf are you staring at. One day she kept asking me if I liked her outfit. Like hoe you should know better than to ask me that when I barely like you, let alone your struggly outfit. And she was slick racist, making ignorant comments about black male customers. I had zero respect for her. I heard she left the club to work the competitors club and when that didn't work out she had to grovel and beg to get back in. Hahahaha.

    I'd say maybe 5% of the dancers have good convo that won't destroy your hustle mindset and can actually help your hustle. The others avoid like the plague.

    LMAOOOOO struggly outfit
    GOOD ONE
    Yeah im glad my what i thought to be rude attitude is confirmed to be ok. Your right i donr wanna be your friend etc.
    And it a girl at my club like the one your describing.
    She makes slick as comments like "omg how much stuff do you have in ur bag" *smiles, chuckle* "im just kidding"
    Or i tip the dj accordinf to how he djs my stage set, so one day i tipped him 5 dollars, and as she was walking out the dressing she saw me tipping him 3 more dollars but i was making it rain to be funny as a joke and she says "omg you shouldve kept that $3 thats not gonna help him" *laugh "im just kidding"
    No the f ur not just kidding, ur smile and chuckle dont hide ur intentions with me.
    Stop talking to me, stop asking to borrow my lipgloss when i know u suck dick in the back b*tch.
    When i first started her "boyfriend" / club promoter asks me me what my name was. I told him then walked away. She follows me into the dressing room OUT OF NOWHERE and says "what did he ask you?!" I looked at her and said "nothing important"

    Like your not competition ur in my fucking way.
    Stop coming on my stage to dance by me, stop touching my butt.

    Theres only one girl that i will hustlr with because she helped me make money and we make $$$$$$$$ together. And we barely talk, we just have a 6th sense that draws us together.

    Like ugh.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LilLadyLux View Post
    Don't be afraid to walk into the club with head pho es on. Even if there's no music.

    Maybe you need to create a mantra for yourself that you literally say in their head as their talking before you even know if the comment is neutral or greasy. "Like water off a ducks back" is popular for drag queen Jinks Monsoon.

    Personally I would put in headphones and meditate for 5 min when your done with your makeup. See all the energy you've been accumulating and strengthening while getting ready (your persona) strengthening your aura into a hard inpenetrable shell. This shell attracts money (and sparkely things whatever you fancy) but any words with a hint of sass or jelousy bounce right off your aura. Literally picture it quickly, it's a funny mental image. You are untouchable.

    When you do the aura strengh meditations daily they can be life changing.
    Im gonna make that headphones thing a go to as well.
    I make bank when i hit the floor once i get there, no talking, no HOW WAS UR WEEKEND, no OMG U THINK ITS GONN BE MONEY IN HERE TONIGHT?. yea for me lol
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    I have a couple crash spots in my club that I've scoped out. Most of the club, space wise, is "back of the club" offices/dressing rooms/etc. Not actual "club" with lights, customers, whathaveyou. If I need a break and one of those spots are available, I try and settle into one of them over the dressing room. So, stairs in the "behind the scenes" part of the club, the other dressing room only three or four other girls seem to use regularly... and then because they typically don't like being social butterflies either, so everyone keeps to their own. Other spots usually include corners of the club that are inconvenient to access, but still in the club proper. That way, even if all I'm doing is sitting, I still look "busy" compared to if I was doing the same thing in the back. People are much less likely to bother me if I'm sitting in a chair out on the floor than if I sit in the back for that reason.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Candycups View Post
    I have a couple crash spots in my club that I've scoped out. Most of the club, space wise, is "back of the club" offices/dressing rooms/etc. Not actual "club" with lights, customers, whathaveyou. If I need a break and one of those spots are available, I try and settle into one of them over the dressing room. So, stairs in the "behind the scenes" part of the club, the other dressing room only three or four other girls seem to use regularly... and then because they typically don't like being social butterflies either, so everyone keeps to their own. Other spots usually include corners of the club that are inconvenient to access, but still in the club proper. That way, even if all I'm doing is sitting, I still look "busy" compared to if I was doing the same thing in the back. People are much less likely to bother me if I'm sitting in a chair out on the floor than if I sit in the back for that reason.
    Ill try this to.
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    I just smile and say "haha" and basically be a terrible conversationalist. say a one word answer, or if i want to be really annoying just keep saying "what" because that drives people crazy haha. they usually get bored and move on quick. then i dont have to talk to them but they also dont think im being rude, just that im boring. hahaha.
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    Quote Originally Posted by buttonpop View Post
    I just smile and say "haha" and basically be a terrible conversationalist. say a one word answer, or if i want to be really annoying just keep saying "what" because that drives people crazy haha. they usually get bored and move on quick. then i dont have to talk to them but they also dont think im being rude, just that im boring. hahaha.
    This right here.

    Secret weapon for annoying b*tches = pretend like you are deaf and dumb. Not only do they finally get the picture that you're not going to entertain them but they will seriously underestimate you on the main floor and will be looking confused when you're racking up lots of privates/VIP/money
    “Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”

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    Quote Originally Posted by fallyn_love View Post
    To get in my zone i do my hair and makeup at home so i spend time in the dressing room. Ive been having some greeeeeaaaaat money making days at my new club. (Been there a month) ive been dancing for 3 years and my hustle is still coming together, in 110% confident in myself, know im the shit (but not better than anyone else), etc.
    Only prob is i HATE being around the majority of girls who work, i hate talking to them, i hate their slick comments, i hate when their "nice" to me. I have tunnel vision when i go to work. I dont want to talk to them. I speak when spoken to but a girl was forcing a convo on me on saturday night and it f*cked up my mood, hustle, etc.
    Is anyone else like this?
    And how do you guys work the room?

    Are you still at AoS on 8 Mile? You should come check out my club sometime in downtown. Anyway, I'm introverted and most of my coworkers know it as we're all Facebook friends. I do my hair and makeup at home and walk to work with my earbuds in (not listening to music). I am able to spend little time in the locker room this way. What gets me in the zone at work is stretching in the champagne room. I am known for being acrobatic and stretching helps me prevent injuries, so the managers let me sit in the champagne room until it's rented out or until I feel like working. This let's me avoid all of the drama, but sometimes a friend or two will join me and stretch out. When they bring up drama or a topic I want to avoid, I suddenly need to pee or "oh, I think that's my customer over there, let me go check" and then I feel better getting away from that negativity.
    Sometimes girls I don't like or know well will say something about my hustle and it will bug me and screw up my night, but I just tell them I don't feel well or something to make them go away and leave me the eff alone. There is a small stage we never use, so myself and others sit on it when we're bored or there is no money in the club. Usually interested guys will walk up and ask us if we want to dance. That has been my hustle lately. I also just do laps around the tip rail and booths and wait to make eye contact with someone. At my bar in downtown, we get mostly Tigers traffic, so we don't need to do much of GFE to get dances. If you ever are interested, PM me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by fallyn_love View Post
    LMAOOOOO struggly outfit
    GOOD ONE
    Yeah im glad my what i thought to be rude attitude is confirmed to be ok. Your right i donr wanna be your friend etc.
    And it a girl at my club like the one your describing.
    She makes slick as comments like "omg how much stuff do you have in ur bag" *smiles, chuckle* "im just kidding"
    Or i tip the dj accordinf to how he djs my stage set, so one day i tipped him 5 dollars, and as she was walking out the dressing she saw me tipping him 3 more dollars but i was making it rain to be funny as a joke and she says "omg you shouldve kept that $3 thats not gonna help him" *laugh "im just kidding"
    No the f ur not just kidding, ur smile and chuckle dont hide ur intentions with me.
    Stop talking to me, stop asking to borrow my lipgloss when i know u suck dick in the back b*tch.
    When i first started her "boyfriend" / club promoter asks me me what my name was. I told him then walked away. She follows me into the dressing room OUT OF NOWHERE and says "what did he ask you?!" I looked at her and said "nothing important"

    Like your not competition ur in my fucking way.
    Stop coming on my stage to dance by me, stop touching my butt.

    Theres only one girl that i will hustlr with because she helped me make money and we make $$$$$$$$ together. And we barely talk, we just have a 6th sense that draws us together.

    Like ugh.
    Omg, these chicks make me feel INSANE. Like, why are you talking to me when you can just mind your own business?? What is the actual goal with the backhanded fake shit? I'm pretty sociable with people I know in the dressing room, but when I need to shut shit out and tend to my money, I'm all about the headphones. :\

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    Quote Originally Posted by iamthefox View Post
    Omg, these chicks make me feel INSANE. Like, why are you talking to me when you can just mind your own business?? What is the actual goal with the backhanded fake shit? I'm pretty sociable with people I know in the dressing room, but when I need to shut shit out and tend to my money, I'm all about the headphones. :\
    I have my headphones to
    Its like im a magnet stiill
    Im humble but im here to make money

    Last week this chick that everyones scared of (she does do drugs nd apparently will wig out on u nd beat ur ass if u rub her the wrong way. Good for her)
    She was trying to b buddy buddy hustle partner but i could tell she was just trying to leech. So i worked with her anyway bcuz more $. One day she hopped on ny runway stage nd was being tipped....idgaf get ur money boo. The next day she hopped on stage nd i was being tipped. She got mad nd said that we had to split it bcuz we sharing the stage. Giiiirl bye! We not splitting sh*t. She has been shit tlking me ever since but i dnt care bcuz im here for $ nd save for my house.
    This week she sees i dnt care nd is now trying to b cool again. I ignore her nd keep moving. I dont have time for crackhead emotions. We are both top earners so she feels some type of way i guess but i just wanna make $ and go home
    scared money makes no money

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