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    outside of the strip club..

    have a guy threaten to come to your house? tell you know where he lives? why are there so many psychos out there?
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    Default Re: anyone been threatened by a guy in real life?

    Did you meet him in the club? A lot of unanswered ?'s here.
    & they're not new, this's been going on forev.


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    Thankfully I have not had any serious altercations with thirsty psychos.

    But I did have a guy claim he saw me out out a few of my favorite places. I'm like no dude wrong person.

    I had one cheap old man who kept trying to get me to leave the club and go home with him. One day as I'm leaving to go home I look up in my rear view mirror, and I see his smog ass. I'm like wtf?!? I told the manager and he was shocked a "harmless" customer would do that. Well cocksucker people act weird and uncharacteristic of themselves if they are desperate enough.


    Then I had some cheap customer who begged me for otc show up in my Facebook friends you might know list. I immediately blocked him.

    So after these incidents I tightened up my security measures. I never frequent same places all the time, I never leave the parking lot if customers are there, etc.
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    Lol, Ms P, smog ass/thirst psycho

    Now that I think of it, I have had random guys try to follow me out of stores..


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    I had a friend received similar threats while we worked together. Back then, she was still living with her family who didn't know she was a dancer. She was a pretty innocent girl. what we did, okay what i did...I found out which car belongs to him. I poked holes on his front tires and keyed his car a few times while he's inside the club. He never came back to the club after that. He's a nasty pest anyway.
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    When I used to give my # to regulars one left me viocemail saying something along the line of "If you don't call me back in 48 hours, I'm blowing up the hospital your dad works at"

    I never tell customers he's a nurse, I lie and say he's in the Army. So I felt super nervous, especially since the guy called me at 7am 3 times and really expected me to answer?

    I went to the police and they said they needed "three times for it to really stick" and I was told 3 calls in one day doesn't count? Nothing ever came of it luckily and he was banned by the club I worked at right when I played the VM for the manager.

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    I've never been seriously threatened, but I've encountered some creepy and stalker-ish behavior.

    I had a regular who I used to see OTC and one day he flipped out on me and said I dont want to see you anymore. Ok, whatever. Then he changes his mind, apologizes, and asks to have a date. I'm like nope, not interested. He persistently called me and texted me, begging me for forgiveness, and one day I get dropped off home by my friend, and there's a note on my car that he left when I was gone! (to be fair though, he knew where I lived because he had dropped me off home before). WTF! I blocked his number and my lease expired during that time, so I had to move anyway (thank god! I never saw him again)

    I also had a guy who I gave my number to when I first started dancing. I was brand new, and thought leading them on was the way to make money. So I told him yeah, I'll see you outside and hang out with you, when I really had no intention of doing so. He took it seriously, and would come in for me every week and texted me everyday, pestering me about it. I finally couldn't take it anymore so I told him he was getting out of hand and I didn't want to have him as a customer anymore. Instead of taking no for an answer, he demanded to know why. I'm like dude, I already told you, I'm not interested. But he was like no, lets talk about it! give me a chance...hahaha, he was a real loser! One day he came into my work knowing I didn't want him there and he started telling the other dancers what was going on and asking them to talk to me because I wouldn't. I fucking flipped out on him, texted him that I would report him for harassment, and that I had no interest in him whatsoever. After that, I never saw him or heard from him again.

    I made some dumb choices in my earlier days of dancing and its taught me to be super vigilante and have eyes in the back of my head! I know how fucked up some of these men are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EastCoastDancer01 View Post
    I've never been seriously threatened, but I've encountered some creepy and stalker-ish behavior.

    I had a regular who I used to see OTC and one day he flipped out on me and said I dont want to see you anymore. Ok, whatever. Then he changes his mind, apologizes, and asks to have a date. I'm like nope, not interested. He persistently called me and texted me, begging me for forgiveness, and one day I get dropped off home by my friend, and there's a note on my car that he left when I was gone! (to be fair though, he knew where I lived because he had dropped me off home before). WTF! I blocked his number and my lease expired during that time, so I had to move anyway (thank god! I never saw him again)


    I made some dumb choices in my earlier days of dancing and its taught me to be super vigilante and have eyes in the back of my head! I know how fucked up some of these men are.
    I'll add my stories when I have time but yeah, I have also had a guy flip out then change his mind. So stressful to deal with lol. Like, hey, I thought you hated me bro, why you calling?

    In general the bar environment attracts crazies OR makes it possible for crazy people to act as nuts as possible. That is a huge part of the problem.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aammeelliiaa View Post
    When I used to give my # to regulars one left me viocemail saying something along the line of "If you don't call me back in 48 hours, I'm blowing up the hospital your dad works at"

    I never tell customers he's a nurse, I lie and say he's in the Army. So I felt super nervous, especially since the guy called me at 7am 3 times and really expected me to answer?

    I went to the police and they said they needed "three times for it to really stick" and I was told 3 calls in one day doesn't count? Nothing ever came of it luckily and he was banned by the club I worked at right when I played the VM for the manager.
    what a sicko
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    My worst psycho stories -

    * A pretty wealthy guy who was fixated on me...he creeped me out so badly I just ignored him. He proceeded to ask about my whereabouts when he would go to my home club. He tried to frighten me by texting me that he "knew" where I was lately (untrue.) I warned my roomies about him. Luckily this guy was just trying to play bully & it never worked. He also knew I lived/ worked in states where I could legally shoot him to death if he stepped up his stalking game.

    * I dated a psychopath but it was his bad luck I ended up with a guy meaner & nuttier than Psychopath. We tormented the shit out of the Psychopath when he tried to stalk both of us (me & my ex.) Everyone moved on. Live, learn, love. Lol

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    I've had a few life or death situations, one thing I know for certain. The ones you gotta be worried about are the ones that just show up, the ones that talk about it, aren't about it. Always there are exceptions to the rules, but i'd say 9/10 the people who have made threats made idle ones.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BurlesqueBaller View Post
    I've had a few life or death situations, one thing I know for certain. The ones you gotta be worried about are the ones that just show up, the ones that talk about it, aren't about it. Always there are exceptions to the rules, but i'd say 9/10 the people who have made threats made idle ones.

    I could believe that. I do feel with stalkers of women the male stalker gets so much thrill out of terrorizing the women that many keep up with it just for the kicks. They may not kill but they will definitely harrass...gossip & try to maintain a connection. If you watch You Tube videos of infamous stalkers & serial killers you will see that they maintain egotistical behavior & still try to manipulate/terrorize other people. Even when denied the freedom to physically harm others....these guys still try to emotionally abuse and terrorize.

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    If this is happening to you, I'd suggest looking into some self defense classes.

    Krav Maga would be my top pick, look it up in your area. Worst case you will make some friends that can kick the shit out of this guy(s).

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    I've observed after dealing with rapists & male con artists in my life that they truly live the credo "the thrill of the chase." Picking people to victimize & forming plans to hurt them are usually more fun than the actual event of assault..rape or even murder. I guess my point is...pay attention to red flags that indicate that someone relishes behaviors like manipulation or bullying.

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    they're almost always bluffing. but when this happens to me I don't hesitate to let them know I am strapped at all times lol.

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    I had a creepy customer from the club. He used to come in and tell me how he was cheating on his wife with hookers. ( Is that supposed to impress me? wtffffffffffffffffff All I could think of was Ewwwwwwwwwww.) I never did lead him on, as I didn't lead anyone on IRL because it's just not safe imo.
    One day months later he comes into the club and I see him and start walking to the back of the bar. He almost ran to get me and grabbed me by my arm and slammed a little box on the table and said something to me ( I don't even know what it was) and they told him he had to leave.
    It wasn't a holiday or my b-day or anything. It was some kind of glass thingie box I don't even remember. I gave it to another dancer there since she liked it.
    I was so skeeved. But I have no idea where he got things into his head.
    And this was a public BUS driver. He used to get wasted drunk - pretty sure that had something to do with whatever else he was taking. Scary thought that he's out there driving people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mare View Post
    I had a creepy customer from the club. He used to come in and tell me how he was cheating on his wife with hookers. ( Is that supposed to impress me? wtffffffffffffffffff All I could think of was Ewwwwwwwwwww.) I never did lead him on, as I didn't lead anyone on IRL because it's just not safe imo.
    One day months later he comes into the club and I see him and start walking to the back of the bar. He almost ran to get me and grabbed me by my arm and slammed a little box on the table and said something to me ( I don't even know what it was) and they told him he had to leave.
    It wasn't a holiday or my b-day or anything. It was some kind of glass thingie box I don't even remember. I gave it to another dancer there since she liked it.
    I was so skeeved. But I have no idea where he got things into his head.
    Ugh yikes.

    BTW this thread made me realize that the first crazy guy I detailed upthread was totally into harassing me just to terrorize me. His mistake was blabbing so much that I figured it out. I think he was lonely & had no self-awareness about why people hated him so he was hoping to have a confidant in me despite not respecting me (or women) at all.

    My point being that a lot of dangerous guys love targeting adult industry workers because it's so easy to victimize us. Anyone (female, male, trans) should educate themselves on criminal psychology in order to be safer when working.

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