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    I'm a dancer who has been lurking on this site for awhile. I'm having some issues with a sugar daddy of mine and am hoping to get some perspective from anyone with experience in this department.

    This guy is more of a plastic daddy than a sugar daddy. He met me on seekingarrangement and lives across the country from me. He saw in my bio that I was looking for a sponsor for certain procedures, claimed he had a plastic surgery fetish, and sent me $100 through paypal off the bat to show he was serious. About a week later he paid $500 for me to get lip fillers. I should mention that this was 100% his idea and originally there was no talk of him receiving anything in return.

    Slowly but surely, he starts making requests for pics. I don't send him any nudes but I send him some sexy pics as well as photos of my lips. Eventually it is mentioned that I want a boob job. He tells me he will help pay in exchange for more photos and promises around $3000 towards it.

    I tell him no nudes until he pays my surgery booking fee ($500). The entire surgery costs $7000. He calls and pays $2000 to book it which I admit surprised me. In return I send him about 15 nudes, none with my face or anything, but just to keep my half of the deal.

    Ever since he has not sent me any more money (though he claims he will also pay my botox which is only around $200). That's fine, however he is getting clingy and demanding with my time. He texts me daily and if I don't reply in time he will sometimes text "hello?" or "..." as if he's getting impatient. He also is getting more demanding with pics, acting like he should be able to request them whenever he wants or be picky about how much I show in the pictures. (for example, I sent him 5 more today to which his only response was "more butt?")

    While I appreciate the 2K, he not only hasn't lived up to his original 3K promise yet, but asked for nothing at all off the bat when he agreed to help me in the first place. Now he is acting as if I'd better keep up my half of the deal or else....he literally said "I bet you can't wait for boob job and botox" to which I said of course, so he said "as long as you send some more pics..."

    I'm starting to get super annoyed, not only because he made it originally sound like he wanted to help only to later reveal a catch, but also because of the manner in which he's going about it...as if to remind me he's in control (at least in his own head). I don't even mind sending nudes but let's be serious, he hasn't even spent 3K total yet alone on my boobs like he promised, and is getting clingy and demanding.

    I have no idea if the 2K he put down for my boobs is refundable or not, he does have a wife so I suppose if he tried to blackmail me by withdrawing the deposit it could go both ways. Though I don't really want it to get to that point.

    I'm curious what you ladies think...is this more trouble than it's worth at this point? Or am I being ingrateful? I do appreciate the help he has given me but let's be serious, there are men out there demanding less and paying for entire boob jobs, not less than 1/3 of it

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    Is it an escrow? did he send you the funds? did he call the doctor and paid for part of the procedure himself?

    If I paid $2000 for a girl to get plastic surgery because it is my fetish I would expect a bunch of pictures before and after.

    So it sounds to me like you put yourself in a weird situation by accepting an arrangement like this from a stranger. It doesn't sound like you told him your boundaries either. Did you tell him you weren't going to send him pictures before accepting?

    If this is bothering you and you feel like he is trying to control you, perhaps it is not worth it. So if you were to cut all contact with him, would there be any losses other than the $2000 and his promises?

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    Well, tbh, you're lucky to have gotten anything, not saying anything against you personally, but especially meeting someone off that particular site. Also, it sounds like he's 'maxed out'? (He's just done giving you any thing more, but again maybe not, hard to say)
    I see you're new to the forum, Welcome, & if you look @ the bottom of the page, you'll see where it says similar threads. Also you can do a search, Idk that those will address this particular issue, but should give you some idea.
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    I think he's not gonna pay more. I noticed with a certain type of fetish I've been trying to learn about....guys want to be in the driver's seat all the time. Meaning they still have control over the situation. IMO I think he's hoping you'll pay for the rest on your own & "give" him the pics he fantasizes about (kind of like some club goers expect a $20 BJ.)

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    Well it's his fault. All he said was he wanted pictures in exchange for giving you 3k towards the boob job. Now he's trying to come back after the fact and regulate how you pose in the pics and how often you send them, and he didn't even give you the entire 3k.

    I'd say to him in however the best way you want to word it ..... Um, you wanna see some a$$ but I haven't seen all the cash you agreed to, so what's up with that? And also you seem like you wanted him to pay the total cost of the boob job so do you think he will keep paying? If not or he's too annoying it might be time for a new SD.

    tell him you have school or an office job and you don't have your phone on you all day and can't always respond that quickly.
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    Go get that boob job ASAP. Pay for the remainder yourself and then block him. At least you got a discounted boob job, right?

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    A quick bit of advice about blackmail and him having a wife- it is illegal to blackmail, to say, "pay me X, or I will do Y" (Pay the boob job deposit we originally agreed upon, or I will tell your wife about our cash for nudes agreement). You do not want to get involved in a legal case with someone who has way more money than you, and, for all you know, maybe his wife has given him a free pass. Seeing as he called up your surgeon and put down a deposit under what I'm assuming must have been your legal name, he has your info now.

    As far as the deposit that he has given so far, call the doctors office and ask them if they can hold on to the funds to apply to your future surgery. You could just tell them that someone offered to pay the whole amount, but is now backing out, but you would like them to hold the funds until you come up with the remainder of the surgery fee. He could possibly dispute the payment with his credit card company if the procedure hasn't been done yet, and he just wants a refund. Just call and ask the doctor's office what you can do about it and what their policy is. They would like to keep the money he put down for your surgery, but they might be aware of some legal issues or not want to get involved with c.c. dispute. Also, he may not want to do a c.c. dispute or cause a fuss because of his wife potentially finding out. Just call and they will let you know. Other people paying for surgeries is common, so just give them a call and see what they say.

    Honestly, you got some money from him for pretty little time and effort on your part, in the beginning... until now. Now that he has "demonstrated his seriousness", he is testing your boundaries, waving lots of red flags and being a jerk. Maybe he will eventually pay the remainder of your surgery fee? Doubt it, but it's possible. How much time and energy is he going to demand in return for it? You have to weigh that with what you're comfortable with. I can tell you for a fact that even if he does give you more money, he is not ever going to magically just become less demanding and rude. A lot of sugar arrangements from that site involve in-person interaction, at the very least, so, I think you've already gotten lucky to just find someone who is willing to exchange "$2k for nudes". I would just contact your surgeon and see if it's possible for him to dispute or cancel his deposit. If he can't, just ignore him. Find someone new because he's getting fussy and, honestly, doesn't seem worth it. You may be able to use the money he put as a deposit on your surgery for a different procedure before he can cancel or dispute the payment. You gave him what he asked for, but he didn't uphold his end of the deal, financially. You could just write it off and call it a lesson..but, I feel like you can get the surgeon's office to agree to hold on to the deposit for you. Call, and post an update if you can. I'm interested in knowing what the surgeon's office would say.

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    Yup, you're being ungrateful. You got 2k from the guy and all you did was have to pose nude in some selfies you took yourself and you think he should send you more money?

    It would be funny if it weren't so tragic. Ugh.

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    If you don't have the money for the boobjob right now you could use the deposit for something less expensive such as fillers? Just spend that money ASAP before he has a chance to take it back.

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    I don't think the issue is that she is being ungrateful. I agree she got a great deal for nudes for $2k, but the original deal was not for that amount. The issue is that he offered her X for Y, and she delivered her end, but he is now backing out for what he originally offered. It's about holding up your end of the deal. If the guy wanted to make a more reasonable offer, he could have. Offering a price for a service and then backing out after receiving a service doesn't make the person sending the pictures "ungrateful".

    I think ungrateful would be if she got way more than agreed upon, and still complained or asked for more.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PyrrhicFallout View Post
    A quick bit of advice about blackmail and him having a wife- it is illegal to blackmail, to say, "pay me X, or I will do Y" (Pay the boob job deposit we originally agreed upon, or I will tell your wife about our cash for nudes agreement). You do not want to get involved in a legal case with someone who has way more money than you, and, for all you know, maybe his wife has given him a free pass. Seeing as he called up your surgeon and put down a deposit under what I'm assuming must have been your legal name, he has your info now.

    As far as the deposit that he has given so far, call the doctors office and ask them if they can hold on to the funds to apply to your future surgery. You could just tell them that someone offered to pay the whole amount, but is now backing out, but you would like them to hold the funds until you come up with the remainder of the surgery fee. He could possibly dispute the payment with his credit card company if the procedure hasn't been done yet, and he just wants a refund. Just call and ask the doctor's office what you can do about it and what their policy is. They would like to keep the money he put down for your surgery, but they might be aware of some legal issues or not want to get involved with c.c. dispute. Also, he may not want to do a c.c. dispute or cause a fuss because of his wife potentially finding out. Just call and they will let you know. Other people paying for surgeries is common, so just give them a call and see what they say.

    Honestly, you got some money from him for pretty little time and effort on your part, in the beginning... until now. Now that he has "demonstrated his seriousness", he is testing your boundaries, waving lots of red flags and being a jerk. Maybe he will eventually pay the remainder of your surgery fee? Doubt it, but it's possible. How much time and energy is he going to demand in return for it? You have to weigh that with what you're comfortable with. I can tell you for a fact that even if he does give you more money, he is not ever going to magically just become less demanding and rude. A lot of sugar arrangements from that site involve in-person interaction, at the very least, so, I think you've already gotten lucky to just find someone who is willing to exchange "$2k for nudes". I would just contact your surgeon and see if it's possible for him to dispute or cancel his deposit. If he can't, just ignore him. Find someone new because he's getting fussy and, honestly, doesn't seem worth it. You may be able to use the money he put as a deposit on your surgery for a different procedure before he can cancel or dispute the payment. You gave him what he asked for, but he didn't uphold his end of the deal, financially. You could just write it off and call it a lesson..but, I feel like you can get the surgeon's office to agree to hold on to the deposit for you. Call, and post an update if you can. I'm interested in knowing what the surgeon's office would say.
    Maybe I misread but I didn't get the vibe the OP was trying to blackmail this dude.

    I do think it's wise to call up the office and see about the money that's already been put towards the surgery and like Ariel mentioned spend that sh*t before he has a chance to file a chargeback or try to get a refund.
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    And the funny thing is true SDs / whales don't want women like the OP.

    She has to be a little less obvious in her approach - unless she lands a human ATM or a man who prefers aggressive hustler mentality.

    I have a feeling that this will happen to her over and over again. She'll keep getting crumbs until they get sick of her BS.

    She hasn't learned how to play the game.

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    OP, I think you might have come on a little strong.

    Men like spoiling more when they think its their idea. Men are also like little puppies in training. Pee outside? Get a little treat. I'm not calling you ungrateful, just suggesting that you shake up your hustle a bit. He deserved something sexy for what he has done thus far. Pictures would have been perfect!

    Read Ho Tactics. Any other advice I would give you would come straight from that book anyway.

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    Or maybe he was expecting explicit pictures (his fault though he should have been clear about his expectations upfront) and the well ran dry since you only gave him mild pics. He may have other options, ran out of disposable money, someone could have thrown salt in your game, who knows.
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