
Originally Posted by
PyrrhicFallout
A quick bit of advice about blackmail and him having a wife- it is illegal to blackmail, to say, "pay me X, or I will do Y" (Pay the boob job deposit we originally agreed upon, or I will tell your wife about our cash for nudes agreement). You do not want to get involved in a legal case with someone who has way more money than you, and, for all you know, maybe his wife has given him a free pass. Seeing as he called up your surgeon and put down a deposit under what I'm assuming must have been your legal name, he has your info now.
As far as the deposit that he has given so far, call the doctors office and ask them if they can hold on to the funds to apply to your future surgery. You could just tell them that someone offered to pay the whole amount, but is now backing out, but you would like them to hold the funds until you come up with the remainder of the surgery fee. He could possibly dispute the payment with his credit card company if the procedure hasn't been done yet, and he just wants a refund. Just call and ask the doctor's office what you can do about it and what their policy is. They would like to keep the money he put down for your surgery, but they might be aware of some legal issues or not want to get involved with c.c. dispute. Also, he may not want to do a c.c. dispute or cause a fuss because of his wife potentially finding out. Just call and they will let you know. Other people paying for surgeries is common, so just give them a call and see what they say.
Honestly, you got some money from him for pretty little time and effort on your part, in the beginning... until now. Now that he has "demonstrated his seriousness", he is testing your boundaries, waving lots of red flags and being a jerk. Maybe he will eventually pay the remainder of your surgery fee? Doubt it, but it's possible. How much time and energy is he going to demand in return for it? You have to weigh that with what you're comfortable with. I can tell you for a fact that even if he does give you more money, he is not ever going to magically just become less demanding and rude. A lot of sugar arrangements from that site involve in-person interaction, at the very least, so, I think you've already gotten lucky to just find someone who is willing to exchange "$2k for nudes". I would just contact your surgeon and see if it's possible for him to dispute or cancel his deposit. If he can't, just ignore him. Find someone new because he's getting fussy and, honestly, doesn't seem worth it. You may be able to use the money he put as a deposit on your surgery for a different procedure before he can cancel or dispute the payment. You gave him what he asked for, but he didn't uphold his end of the deal, financially. You could just write it off and call it a lesson..but, I feel like you can get the surgeon's office to agree to hold on to the deposit for you. Call, and post an update if you can. I'm interested in knowing what the surgeon's office would say.
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