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    Default Helpful suggestions for those with any addictions, from our personal experiences

    I thought it would be good to have a support thread for those who suffer, are recovering from addictions. Be it sex, spending money, alcohol, self harm, hard drugs, etc. You don't have to share your background if you're uncomfortable doing so. Just list things that have kept you in recovery or forced you into getting clean. Also, things that have kept you from relapsing.
    -One thing that has worked for me when about to do something I shouldn't is cary around a picture of yourself as a baby. Look at the little kid there and, when you're about to drink a fifth, tell her you're going to pour a bottle of vodka down her throat. At the very least , she'd be horriblu sick. At worse, she'll crash her car, gey migged, assaulted, etc.. Does she deserve that? Cux that little girl is you. You have to protect her and keep her from harm.

    -Another thing important to remember is that, for me? Seeing a silver lining and positivity to everything helps curb this behavior in some, including me. My favorite way is to turn every negative event-thought i to a positive. For example-"Work's been dead and I've had to cut back on indulgences." ->"I'm making less than I used to, but am saving money by cutting out non essentials. This will give me a chance to figure out my bare essentials and my budgeting skills will be greatly enhanced."

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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    There are several threads on recovery. It would be nice if they could be gathered into one place.

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    ^I know that but many are old and I was unable to find any listing quick and effective methods to make it through a time when it's hard not to indulge. I'd reallt like it to stay up, but if mods have a better place for it-bidy business, lounge, etc..-do move it there. I was really just trying to help and maybe find some methods I mtself haven't considered.
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    Hi Sweet Julia! You have a tremendous attitude, so great that you are sharing your positivity with others. For me personally, I have found that a few things ave been very helpful. I see so many compassionate people on here and in life... reminding ourselves to direct our compassion inwards is Huge. Beginning to see ourselves and others WITHOUT judgement. Addictions can create such guilt, right? Then it becomes this cycle of guilt, anger, screw it, it's too hard. I have found that Meditation has helped me a great deal with this. Meditation is really simply relaxing into one's breathe and slowly we can stop the constant noise in our minds that is usually filled with judgement and negativity toward ourselves. Many people can make it complicated but it doesn't have to be. There are sooooo many levels to addictions and of course it depends where each individual is inside of themselves. Who you spend time with matters. Thanks for listening... it comes down to loving ourselves.

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    I really love your idea of carrying a picture of yourself as a baby - I kept a baby picture in my locker when I stripped definitely helped me stay sober at the club....I've been out of the industry for about 8 months now....my addiction has tried moving into different areas of course - I've noticed facebook/people pleasing as areas I now classify as subtle addictions I remain concious of (if that makes any sense to anyone)
    I've had a pretty good hold on the alcohol & cigarettes my main defense against them is prayer because I've had a couple near-death experiences w/ alcohol & I really truly believe God saved me... so I do feel strengthened in my faith from those experiences and have started back w/ AA meetings even though I'll admit I'm not the best at regularly attending them ....I am pretty good at doing things on my own because I want so bad to live a healthy life & be a good example to others like others have for me...prayers for all of us struggling! If I think of anything else that has helped me I'll share stay positive - yes positivity helps soooo much thank you for yours!

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    Treat yourself as a newcomer to AA and do 30 meetings in 30 days. See if it does not become a habit, and you look forward to going.

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    Thanks slowpoke! That sounds like a good idea, I do hope to eventually look forward to going...Unfortunately I just moved in w/ my mom in a really small town & the AA meetings are 45 minutes away so to save money on gas I'll only go when I work (I work over there too) but trying to go as many times before work cause I just started as a cocktail waitress and although i haven't been tempted to drink yet & told everyone I work w/ I'm an alcoholic & been sober (thankfully a few are all really respectful & supportive) but I'm sure there will be a time I may be tempted so will be good to have the meeting to go to before, wish me luck!

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    Also @ meditation girl - yes meditations have helped me a lot! This one in particular I really love & use a lot ---
    also I didn't mention I have a book of affirmations that help I try to read them every day & repeat the ones I want that I'm struggling to believe the most. For example I have a hard time keeping healthy boundaries especially w/ men so I say this one a lot "I create healthy boundaries that honor my value and truth." So I focus a lot on affirming what I want <3 Hope that helps
    and I agree it's about loving ourselves...wish it wasn't so hard sometimes we are all beautiful and unique and have so much good inside <3

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    Good Luck. You might discretely try to find out if there are any Friends of Bill at work.

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    And remember the last paragraph of Chapter 3:

    "Once more: The alcoholic at certain times has no effective mental defense against the first drink. Except in a few rare cases, neither he nor any other human being can provide such a defense. His defense must come from a Higher Power.”

    http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_bigbook_chapt3.pdf

    So maintain constant contact with your higher power.

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    Thank you so much slowpoke! Amen to all that!

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    Hey BrianaVitarina,
    Thanks for responding. Awesome that you added a link for everyone. Love the affirmations also. If you're open try (" I am" creating) The phrase "I am" in itself is a very powerful statement, acknowledging ourselves as powerful creators. Creating positive thoughts on purpose is so important! Sounds like you are on a good path
    The most important thing I have learned is : No one's love for you, will ever be enough to replace your love for yourself. )

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    Yoga has helped me a lot. For example, I just did it now. And I feel very positive. And I don't go to AA much. I'd like to go again soon. But I prefer the women only meetings. I feel as though I can be a bit more comfortable in a ladies only meetings.And let my hair down a bit more so to speak.

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    For the first few years of dancing I drank way too much. There are two things that keep me from doing that anymore. First is I don't remember the first 6 months of dancing at all. I drank every day. And just thinking about that time makes me want to prevent that lapse in memory ever again. Also I saw a TV commercial once that was a dog with his owner, then one night the owner leaves and is in an accident due to drinking. The dog just sits waiting in the window I had just got my first pet rabbit when I saw it and I thought about him being home by himself wondering why he wouldn't get to come out and have his veggies. Sounds silly but it had a really big impact on me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aammeelliiaa View Post
    For the first few years of dancing I drank way too much. There are two things that keep me from doing that anymore. First is I don't remember the first 6 months of dancing at all. I drank every day. And just thinking about that time makes me want to prevent that lapse in memory ever again. Also I saw a TV commercial once that was a dog with his owner, then one night the owner leaves and is in an accident due to drinking. The dog just sits waiting in the window I had just got my first pet rabbit when I saw it and I thought about him being home by himself wondering why he wouldn't get to come out and have his veggies. Sounds silly but it had a really big impact on me.

    This is an adorable story. I hear ya with the blackouts/working. I have come home many times with a shitload of money but don't remember a damn thing. Anyway, it's great that your sweet rabbit helps you. Your story almost brought a tear to my eye.

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    that last statement Thanks & totally agree w/ the affirmations! Love & gratitude to you!

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    Totally with you on the first 6 months....I didn't even journal about it probably because I was so traumatized...I worked at a really dirty club & w/ loots of drugs & alcohol....so ya I don't remember much either... drank every day and little minor flashbacks of that time remind me how I never want to get like that again! My kitty keeps me going too animals are such a good reminder of how to care for basic human rights within ourselves & others! thanks for your post!

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