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    Default How do you deal with this kind of customer?

    There's this guy who always comes in (we'll call him Mr. Ninja Turtle cause thats what he reminds me of.) He always tips every other girl except for me. My first encounter with him started with him sitting at a bar by himself so I went over to him and asked if I could sit next to him and give him company. He says yes then gets up to walk away to another seat. -____-. Whenever I would go around to say hi to everyone, he would always intentionally look away when I walk around him. At first I thought he just didn't like girls like me but then started tipping girls like me. So I know he doesn't think I'm ugly. LOL
    Sometimes I would sing on stage and that's the ONLY time he would turn around to LOOK at me. Not even tip me and would look at everyone else tipping me then when I would get off after singing, he WANTED me to go to him just to hear him say "YOU CAN SING! You shouldn't be up there doing that (exotic dancing) but you should be singing." I thought this would be our turn around. But days after when I won't sing, he won't even pay attention.

    The only reason why I keep saying hi to him when I go make my rounds, I don't want his other club friends (who do tip me) to think I'm being a bitch towards their "friend" and end up losing money. WWYD?

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    Default Re: How do you deal with this kind of customer?

    I would just ignore him.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with this kind of customer?

    Sounds like a pick up artist to me, google some articles online about how to pick up a stripper by ignoring her. It's an old tactic where they never give money or attention to the one they really want to sleep with. I never thought it worked but here you are, on your own time, thinking about him.

    Don't give him another thought, "hi's" aren't even necessary anymore. If you don't believe me go up to him and ask him any he don't talk to you and watch him start running game. He won't want you to leave him. Them he'll ask you to a second location or get your number.
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    Default Re: How do you deal with this kind of customer?

    Agreed with the other responses on here.

    I know how frustrating it is when someone ignores you. I struggle with keeping my emotions out of this job, and often take rejection way too personally. But if he isn't giving you money, he doesn't matter.

    Mr. Ninja doesn't exist. Look through him, not at him. Ignore him as thoroughly as he's ignoring you. Concentrate on customers who are actually spending money on you. If he tries to talk to you, you didn't hear him. He's not even there. He's not a real person.

    It could be pick-up artist shit. It could be that something about you reminds him of an ex or someone he hates. It could be that he's enjoying fucking with you. It could be that something about you makes you not his type. The common thread with all these? It's HIS problem, not YOUR problem. He's not spending money, so he doesn't exist. End of story.

    His friends exist, so talk to them. If they think you're being a bitch because you're ignoring someone who ignores you, that's a level of crazy that probably isn't worth the trouble unless they're dropping a lot of money on you.

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    Who cares about that loser??

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    Agreed. Sounds like he is interested in being with you otc. Ignore his lame ass.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with this kind of customer?

    Definitely ignore him from now on.

    To drive the point home, you might make a point of giving his friends attention while you also make a point of ignoring him when he's with them. Don't look his way, just keep looking at the guy you're sitting with. Flirt with his friends. Sell them dances or VIPs. Thank them for their tips. Laugh with them. Ham it up. And don't acknowledge Mr. Ninja's existence at all.

    Whether he's a PUA or just doesn't like you is 100% irrelevant. All that matters to you is how much money he gives you. No money = no attention. You've approached him a few times, you've given him a few chances, but he's made himself clear now. He's a dry well for you. There's nothing there. His friends and other guys though... They sound like a better investment for your thoughts, energy, and time.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with this kind of customer?

    I'd shower attention on customers very close to this guy, just as a kind of "fuck you." Then I'd purposely ignore him. Make a point to say hello to everyone but him. Don't be a bitch about it, just pretend you don't see him.

    You don't need that guy. Don't let his attitude get under your skin.

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    Ignore !
    He obviously doesn't dig you for some reason ( maybe you ignored him one day months ago for another customer and you don't remember but he does ) OR he's just playing a silly game. It seems like there must be easier targets ..... so just move on .

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    Default Re: How do you deal with this kind of customer?

    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    Ignore !
    He obviously doesn't dig you for some reason ( maybe you ignored him one day months ago for another customer and you don't remember but he does ) OR he's just playing a silly game. It seems like there must be easier targets ..... so just move on .
    UPDATE! I'm SOOOO glad you said that because that's EXACTLY what he's doing! And I agree with everyone on here its a mixture of just trying to be a PUA/I remind him of an ex he hates/plain stupidity. He saw me talking to one of my regulars and made a gesture with his pointer finger to come over to him. My regular was cool with me saying hi and I didn't wanna look like a bitch so I told my regular I'll say hi and come back.

    I go to Ninja and he claims one of the other girls told him that I said he never pays me any attention. He's clearly trying to start stuff and even though it may be true one of the girls said something because we sometimes do talk about customers that come in here just so we look out for each other and make sure no one is disrespecting us. But to the point, yeah, I'm ignoring and playing the "fuck you, pay me" game

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    Quote Originally Posted by ZafinaX View Post
    UPDATE! I'm SOOOO glad you said that because that's EXACTLY what he's doing! And I agree with everyone on here its a mixture of just trying to be a PUA/I remind him of an ex he hates/plain stupidity. He saw me talking to one of my regulars and made a gesture with his pointer finger to come over to him. My regular was cool with me saying hi and I didn't wanna look like a bitch so I told my regular I'll say hi and come back.

    I go to Ninja and he claims one of the other girls told him that I said he never pays me any attention. He's clearly trying to start stuff and even though it may be true one of the girls said something because we sometimes do talk about customers that come in here just so we look out for each other and make sure no one is disrespecting us. But to the point, yeah, I'm ignoring and playing the "fuck you, pay me" game

    Ok this is when you blow him off entirely. You don't have time or energy for this nonsense. Focus on paying generous customers who don't waste your time with this bullshit.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with this kind of customer?

    Even if this guy has a ton of money to spend he seems like a HUGE energy waster and the gamble may not pay out. That's coming from a girl who will always pay attention to the person holding cash out in their hand NOW v.s. any sort of later promises ( which may or may not work for your own hustle style ).

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