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    Mind Blowing Handling "extras"

    I am still fairly new to dancing and still figuring out the ways of the club. My biggest issue is how to turn guys down for extras? The "That's not my job you're in the wrong place for that" works fine on the respectful guys but the persistent guys not getting the hint won't take no for an answer. Any tips from you ladies on how to stay bubbly and energetic while telling them to go f themselves?? Any advice will help a lot! I found if I get mad and break from my happy stripper self it ruins my whole night so I need good way to say no and stay positive!

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    my personal choice is usually "well, i cant do that darling, how bout i get you all riled up and then you find someone someone on backpage".

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    "that'd be against the rules and I'm a good girl... well not that good *wink*"

    I know not everyone agrees to this but I usually play up that I really, really wish I could but I don't want to loose my job or get them in trouble. But I just play up that I'm really attracte to them. This only works until they figure out the game or until they start bothering me for OTC. At that point I just ditch them cause it's not worth it anymore.

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    "Sure you can, girls do it all the time here,"
    "Not when <fake new bouncer/manager>'s working. He doesn't tolerate that at all, and he's here tonight."

    *guy wants to suck my nipples*
    "Woah, you really don't want to do that. I scraped them on some guy's zipper earlier and they're not really bleeding anymore, but there's still blood/an open wound..." At that point they usually ask me to stop and say they don't want to hear about it any more/agree that they don't want to suck my nipples.

    Edit: If all else fails:
    "Look, If you want a $20 hooker, you need to go to <obnoxious local ghetto/bario/trailer park/slums/etc>. (For optional additional flavor,) I hear they have a great deal on STDs." Depending on the customer/clientele, most cringe and start rapidly backtracking at the word "hooker." "But here, we sell dances and time. If you want more, you need to look somewhere else." Then quickly something to turn it back around into happy fun lap dance times if you feel so inclined.
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    I normally look at the guys like their idiots and ask " Do you think I'm a fucking prostitute???."
    They tend to choke on their words after that and feel bad for even thinking about trying to get extras.
    Hey there Delilah, whats it like up in rack city?
    I see 10's of 10's of 20's laying down upon your tittes.
    Yes I do.
    No one can twerk dat ass like you...
    I swear it's true.

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    ''No hun, I don't work that way. Good luck finding what you're looking for though''.

    That's the best way to end things while maintaining your happy stripper persona. It's even a little passive aggressive, but who cares! They deserve it. Walk away from him as soon as you say that and ignore the hell out of him after that. He'll get the hint. I really hate ''persistent'' guys!

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    ”I fuck for fun and not for money and you don't look like much fun!"
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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    "We don't do that here." My clubs kind of weird though, we're pretty damn clean but from the look of our divvy club some people get the wrong impression. I just set the record straight for them. If they persist and say they "some other girl offered such-and-such", I tell them straight up that she's either lying or is going to get fired because we monitor our VIPs on camera. I've pretty much never made decent money off of patrons that ask so bluntly for extras or sex and even if I do sell them a dance or two, they're typically handsy and disrespectful. Waste of time, waste of energy, and a waste of space.

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    I do work in a club with lots of extras. So almost every guy asks for more than a dance. I have learned to just say oh "sure, we can do xxxxx but it will cost so high number like 1000 for bj or 1000 for fs." Some will respond wth too much, so I counter with how bout a nice nude or topless dance for a fraction of the cost." They usually do.

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    Guys will ask how much for sex, to private dance at their house, to come to a hotel, etc. I tell them, If I were to charge, they can't afford it.

    Ultimately a simple no should suffice. If a dude doesn't get the word no means no and is overly persistent, then that tells you right there he is not someone to be trusted and to walk away.

    I wish I could be like "sir I am an undercover cop an you just solicited law enforcement .... A felony here in xyz city. No take your smog ass outta here or I'm going "escort" you out the old fashioned way" I'd seriously arrest at least 5 dudes a day.
    “Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”

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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    ”I fuck for fun and not for money and you don't look like much fun!"


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    Quote Originally Posted by TearieLeigh View Post
    I normally look at the guys like their idiots and ask " Do you think I'm a fucking prostitute???."
    Yes, yes they do. Or at least they are hoping you are. Backpage is getting to be too much risk for Johns due to the random busts everywhere. SO customers of prostitutes are looking elsewhere for their fix.

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    I'm thinking of telling them that I won't but if they give me a finders fee I'll tell them the name of someone who does and then giving them a name. And that name will be that of a dancer who doesn't exist. "Yeah, just look for Karen, she's here tonight." And then watching them pathetically looking for someone who isn't real while I pocket their cash and laugh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka View Post
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    I used to deal with these dudes a lot. They are so fucking annoying. Like take the no and have some respect for yourself and the dancer. Anyone who doesn't take the no gracefully deserves to be fucked with in my opinion. I'm totally stealing your idea and am going to try it out rareaspasia. I feel like management would be laughing right along with me lol. My go-to solution was always to ask them very bluntly if they wanted herpes. Because did they know that 1/6 people have it and most likely some chick who bangs dudes for money will be that 1 in 6. Oh and don't forget to warn them that condoms won't save them. Last step: look them straight in the face and inform them that you, the DANCER, do not want herpes. And that if they want to go out asking for it, you will not be of any assistance, in the interest of public health. Major boner killer. They usually ran away after. Good riddance.
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    I usually say "I can't do anything too hardcore but I guarantee we'll have a good time" in hopes that they'll get a couple dances at least.... If they keep badgering I just walk away.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka View Post

    I ordered a necklace from her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ElectricSunshine View Post
    I usually say "I can't do anything too hardcore but I guarantee we'll have a good time" in hopes that they'll get a couple dances at least.... If they keep badgering I just walk away.
    exactly, walk away, someone else will buy dances.

    if someone is doing this to me, what I do is finish the song, if they want to buy more dances I say "I have to check in to see when I'm on stage." "I ordered food and forgot to pay the doormen" and then i kind of let them know we're done "have a good night!" just try to wrap it up with them. they usually get the hint since I walk away and move on to the next guy.

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