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    Default Tips on keeping work and home life seperate (workaholic woes)

    **separate not seperate. oops.

    I know there's plenty of threads on avoiding burnout but this is more about how to keep boundaries so that when you're away from work you feel like yourself and aren't just planning your whole day/life about going to work later, or otherwise being a workaholic drag.

    Doing so effectively leads to avoiding work bleedover problems like: not being able to transition out of your "work persona", not wanting to wear sexy outfits because they feel like work clothes, not being in the mood to have sex with your s/o, feeling like your whole life is work, and of course burnout.

    I'll start with a few ideas.

    Wear different outfits at work then you would wear personally at home. It doesn't matter if its "your style" or not, it matters if its a money maker. I used to wear all black lingerie because its my style, but i'm transitioning to wearing more neon stripper-like clothes because i've noticed i never wear any cute panties at home anymore because they make me feel at work. the more distinct my work style is from my home style, the less i'll associate them with each other.

    Tell stories or vent about work on stripperweb instead of talking to s/o & friends. I've noticed the more i work the more i talk about my customers to my boyfriend... which is just a form of being a workaholic and not being able to stop thinking about the club when i'm away.

    This is kinda abstract but... Don't think about planning your day around work, but instead think about work as just one puzzle piece in your day. Everything else you do in a day isn't just "the stuff you do before work" but stuff you do thats important in its own right.

    Make your work persona very different from your home persona. Have a different career or say youre going to school for a different degree, or otherwise change details about your life. This helps create a clear distinction between you & your work persona.


    anyone else have any suggestions?
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    Default Re: Tips on keeping work and home life seperate (workaholic woes)

    I just keep to myself mostly- I hang out in the back of the dressing room and if girls try to talk to me I am polite but usually say I have to get back on the floor and make money lol.

    I try not to vent too much about work to my family or friends either.

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    Default Re: Tips on keeping work and home life seperate (workaholic woes)

    Write down characteristics/style/etc. of your stripper persona so you have something concrete to step into and step out of when its time.

    Keep a small circle - especially local and Never frequent same places to often cause then people know your schedule/think they know you/etc.

    Meditate/Relax/Pamper yourself cause leading a double life is not easy at all.
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    Default Re: Tips on keeping work and home life seperate (workaholic woes)

    When I was dancing ( on and off for almost five years ) I always talked about work with my friends... Until about two years later when I got sick of it. I do valuate my free time and do not want to think about work when I'm free. Maybe in the beginning it was a little exciting to have this type of job so it was becoming part of my private life too.

    Keeping the stripper-alter ego and the private me was not really a problem after a while. Because you just don't want talk about it all the time!
    But when i worked - I worked my ass off and only make venting with the other girls in the club.
    But private with bf or "vanilla friends", I tried to be like any normal girl.

    Most important is you go to work with your stripper-persona, leave her at the club when you get undressed and come home being the real you.

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    Default Re: Tips on keeping work and home life seperate (workaholic woes)

    Quote Originally Posted by buttonpop View Post
    **separate not seperate. oops.

    I know there's plenty of threads on avoiding burnout but this is more about how to keep boundaries so that when you're away from work you feel like yourself and aren't just planning your whole day/life about going to work later, or otherwise being a workaholic drag.

    Doing so effectively leads to avoiding work bleedover problems like: not being able to transition out of your "work persona", not wanting to wear sexy outfits because they feel like work clothes, not being in the mood to have sex with your s/o, feeling like your whole life is work, and of course burnout.

    I'll start with a few ideas.

    Wear different outfits at work then you would wear personally at home. It doesn't matter if its "your style" or not, it matters if its a money maker. I used to wear all black lingerie because its my style, but i'm transitioning to wearing more neon stripper-like clothes because i've noticed i never wear any cute panties at home anymore because they make me feel at work. the more distinct my work style is from my home style, the less i'll associate them with each other.

    Tell stories or vent about work on stripperweb instead of talking to s/o & friends. I've noticed the more i work the more i talk about my customers to my boyfriend... which is just a form of being a workaholic and not being able to stop thinking about the club when i'm away.

    This is kinda abstract but... Don't think about planning your day around work, but instead think about work as just one puzzle piece in your day. Everything else you do in a day isn't just "the stuff you do before work" but stuff you do thats important in its own right.

    Make your work persona very different from your home persona. Have a different career or say youre going to school for a different degree, or otherwise change details about your life. This helps create a clear distinction between you & your work persona.


    anyone else have any suggestions?
    I really like your 'puzzle' theory. I quit dancing 5 months ago for another job. Now, I'm becoming a workaholic in my vanilla job.....and some of my friends are finding it really boring.

    Your puzzle theory is a good suggestion. I'll be trying it myself.

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    Default Re: Tips on keeping work and home life seperate (workaholic woes)

    ^ LOVE the puzzle piece thing too ! I'm a " work in progress " when it comes to my mood not falling apart when work ( any of my streams of income that I'm working on that week / month ) are slow.
    I'm working on being " me " a lot this month and have been using the similar mental tricks .

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