Just had a fight with my youngest sister (11) and my mother over comments that my sister (let's call her T) has been making towards and about me. I am out as a stripper to my mother and the immediate family that I am living with, but not my father and step-mother. I refuse to tell my father because he has/is still helping me out financially. Both my father and step-mom have been known to be extremely emotionally abusive and manipulative in the past, and I know something like this would absolutely cause them to lash out at me. This is why I won't tell them about it, especially because I do not want to deal with the constant verbal harassment I would get from them.
So, the whole source of the fight. I have been living with my mother for about 3 weeks now and everyone here has known from the beginning that I strip. They all have been for the most part supportive but occassionally make comments that are to be expected. T's comments especially get to me, as (since she's 11 and "has no filter" as my mother proudly claims) her comments come out far more harsh. She constantly talks about how my job is nasty and disgusting. How can I get naked? How can I let old "weird" guys touch me? Do they pet me? "YOU'RE NASTY!" It upsets me but I never say anything because she's my sister and I since I have anxiety I don't want to get involved in fights.
Well tonight it just came to a head. I had taken her out shopping earlier that day as a treat and, while we were shopping I tried on and bought a few bras for work. She kept talking about it at the dinner table and how uncomfortable and weird it was and that it was nasty. Nasty, nasty, nasty. And I was laughing and joking along but then it just kept going and my mom was encouraging it and I just snapped when she said she didn't even want me for a sister. I told her that between her whorephobic comments and attitude I didn't want to be her sister either. She immediately got upset and told me to shut up, and my mom jumped in and began the whole "she's only 11 she doesn't know what she's talking about!"
That excuse isn't good enough for me because yes she doesn't understand WHY it's wrong but she should understand that making fun of someone for anything is wrong and that my mom is at fault too because she, as a mother, should teach her child things that are not okay to say to someone else. I told her also that T may think it's a joke now but because no one is correcting it and teaching her otherwise she is going to likely grow up and believe these things which just continues the cycle of discrimination against sex workers.
The fight ended when I excused myself to my room and I listened to her preach about how I'm just ashamed of my job because I won't tell my dad about it, and that people who are ashamed just always look to place that shame on other people. Just...fucking URGHHH
TLR: The family I live with are whorephobic assholes who think that because I will not let them make fun of and belittle me for my job that I'm actually just ashamed of my job as a stripper. Fuck everything.



R: The family I live with are whorephobic assholes who think that because I will not let them make fun of and belittle me for my job that I'm actually just ashamed of my job as a stripper. Fuck everything.
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