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    I'm 11 weeks pregnant. I'm going bat shit crazy. I spend most of my time insanely depressed, resenting my bb sometimes, or thinking about death. I'm not going to kill myself or anything sometimes it's just a comforting thought.

    I am pregnant and alone with no family. I want my baby but I hate feeling like this and know that it's not okay. I feel like an awful worthless person when I resent my baby. I only really resent it when medical problems I have can't be taken care of that well because I'm pregnant.

    I'm dealing with major stress. I might have to go to jail at the end of this month because I'm going to be late paying this court fees I have(I find out tomorrow if they will or not my roommate says they won't but idk). I have to find a way to move out of state and get housing. On top of all of this I'm sick as fuck everyday with nausea/ dizziness from hell that keeps me in bed. Then I fight with my sperm donor sometimes.

    I really need some advice from people who are mothers or have went through the same thing. Most places I have tried to call and talk to it doesn't seem like they listen well with out shoving God stuff down my throat and other things. Mentally I'm getting more screwed up every day. I do have PMDD and maybe that plays a part in things?

    Im extremely lost and I'm so fucking depressed it's hard to do anything at all. I know I shouldn't feel this way. I should be happy or something idk. Sometimes I wonder if my drug abuse (I last used meth in January of this year) has something to do with this idk..


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    I felt that way with my second. It went away in late second trimester. It's all the hormones messing with you. Have you told your ob? They can prescribe anti nausea medicine. It may not always work, but it helps. I was so sick, I lost weight well into my second trimester. I'm sorry you're going through this. It will get better.
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    Default Re: Going insane while pregnant

    Evil, if you only want comments from the ladies just say the word and I will remove this, but I thought I'd share a few things fwiw...

    My wife was pregnant 5 times and lost her mind during each one. Those hormones are powerful and they made her think and feel some crazy shit. It is not your fault and you are not a horrible person because of it. This too shall pass, though my wife was usually in her 3rd trimester before her head got remotely straight.

    Second, you need pre-natal care. There are a ton of groups and resources out there willing to help, nevermind that you may qualify for free health insurance through an exchange or the state. You need to talk to somebody who can help you figure out your options. And yes some of the private groups are a little heavy on the Jesus talk, but that's really no big deal in the grand scheme of things, is it? A lot of the private charitable organizations are faith based and it's their beliefs that make them feel compelled to go out there and help, but IME most won't try to force you to convert to some religion in order to provide help.

    Third, you cannot run away from your legal problems. I'm guessing that you will be fine if you go to court and just tell them that you are broke. There is a legal concept of "demonstrated inability to pay" that often applies in these situations. But even if they put you in lockup for some brief time, at least you would get pre-natal care there. Anything is better than running and having a warrant follow you, making it almost impossible for you to do anything for yourself or your child.

    Finally, don't beat yourself up for how you feel, past mistakes, etc. Every person you meet has fucked up at least once and possibly many times. We are only human. We cannot control what we did before, only what we do today. It is not uncommon for people to avoid seeking help or facing problems because doing so makes them feel even more worthless or because they are afraid of the unknown. I was that person once upon a time, but I eventually learned that letting these things snowball just made things worse, which in turn made me feel worse for a much longer time than I would have if I had dealt with these issues head on.

    Anyway, just my fwiw and good luck as you work through all of this.

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    Default Re: Going insane while pregnant

    Sorry to hear. Can you get some help with court fees so you won't have to be in jail because you need to bond with your baby during the early stages especially and jail may interfere with this.

    It's not easy being pregnant or first time mom but do reach out to trustworthy people. Let others take some of the load off your shoulders so you can focus on enjoying pregnancy and motherhood.

    And like mentioned above your physician could offer some help if you tell him or her about how you've been feeling lately.
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    Thanks everyone. I'm waiting to hear back to get an appointment with a ob here. I do have insurance but the one main ob in town is not taking people due in January so I'm waiting for the other one. I'm just afraid they will try to put me in a mental institution.


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    Hi, Im a mother of 3 and i didnt have any depression in any of my pregnacies, but i had it after my first son was born due to hormones. Its not easy but u have to fight depression every single minute. For morning sickness there are 2 great medicines which u can take it during pregnancy and they will relieve ur sickness. Not sure the names in the US, but if u need it, just pm me and i will give u the names here in brasil and u can check it in the US what their names are. My third pregnancy was very difficult due to money problems and i was stressed all the time, it ended with the baby not gaining weight at the end of it and i got really scared he would have any problems, which he didnt and he is a strong baby. these feelings ua re having are very normal and u shouldnt be concerned abt it, in a few months it will pass, most probably after the first trimester. But if u feel its unbearable, ask for something to calm u down. abt the meth, it can get u like this, and u should look for some kind of help, maybe NA. good luck and if u need, pls pm me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by EvilChick1989 View Post
    Thanks everyone. I'm waiting to hear back to get an appointment with a ob here. I do have insurance but the one main ob in town is not taking people due in January so I'm waiting for the other one. I'm just afraid they will try to put me in a mental institution.
    They can't put you in a mental hospital just for shits and giggles. They have to have proof (your words and actions) that would make them think that if they sent you home, you would run off and hurt yourself or other people

    It's not uncommon for people to have suicidal or even homicidal thoughts is just the doctor or therapist has to gauge how likely a person is to follow through.

    The doctor may recommend things like vitamins (vitamin D and omegas have been known to improve mood), pharmaceuticals safe for pregnancy, support network, group/individual therapy, or most severe scenario is inpatient - which is not as bad a setting as it used to be in the early part of this century.

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    The hormones will definitely be affecting you and since you already have PMDD you know how that goes. Don't be afraid to tell your ob EVERYTHING. They will not put you in an institution.
    Between money problems and court problems and hormones just hold on!!! It's going to be a bumpy ride. Put out one fire at a time, and I'm with you- Stay away from the christ freaks. I have no love for them.

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    Thanks everyone. I have to move and find somewhere in a week or two to stay. I don't have anywhere but hopefully I can figure out something. I do not have an OB yet but hopefully soon when I am elsewhere I can actually get help.


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    Hey I'm ten weeks and going through a lot of the same!! Intense depression and money issues and haven't seen a dr yet I really feel you girl! First, take ginger it REALLY helps w the nausea, ask your dr for other ideas when you see her but charcoal tablets help nausea too and I believe they are safe for pregnant women. Also realize that a lot of these feelings are from the crazy hormones and exhaustion we are going through, first trimester is so so hard, it will get better!!
    Have you gone to the welfare office? I got a case worker for my first pregnancy and she helped me w insurance, doctors, housing, food stamps, and just guidance. It's easy to feel lost and alone. This country's prenatal care is abysmal but I'm pretty sure somebody has to treat you somewhere. Good luck Hun!

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    Hi, I just read thru all this, & I sure hope things are better for you, also you recently had a Birthday yourself, so Happy Happy Belated Bday!
    Anyway, yes I believe you can get some sort of assistance,(incl legal stuff) & also I noticed some things in my library on a bulletin board, for various support groups, privately funded things, etc. So maybe look into your library for more ideas?
    Anyway, take care & update if/when you can, Good Luck!


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    I'm sorry to hear that you are having such a crappy time...it sounds like you have a lot of stress in your life already without this baby...

    Paying your court fees and going to jail are one problem, but...you were smoking meth 3 months before you concieved...I think you should be focusing on ensuring that your use is under your control, you CANNOT smoke meth while pregnant or use other substances, you know that. I absolutely think the mental health problems you are having are stemming from your previous usage. I don't know exactly how much or frequently you were indulging like occaisonal recreational use or a severe addiction but if you cannot ensure your sobriety for the next 6 months...I hate to say it but it doesn't sound like you are fully on board with having your baby or like there is going to be any semblance of stability for this child and with your existing stressors, a newborn might just push you over the edge...would you consider terminating the pregnancy. The last thing you need is to add a child you can't care for to your situation, a child whose life would be in danger if you relapsed. I know I might get flamed but you have a lot going on right now and it really doesn't sound like this is at all an ideal time for you to have your first child. I am not a mother but have friends that had kids young and/or alone and it was quite the challenging time for them. If you are already in recovery, great, but if not, you should consider it regardless of what you decide to do about the baby.
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    No shit sherlock I know I can't use meth while I am pregnant. I have not used any drugs at all since I have been pregnant I have no desire to. God I am so sick of people saying this shit who don't personally know me.


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    I'm sorry if I upset you, I didn't mean to come off as mean or anything...look, I recently had a good friend with a similar background go through something very similar, in that she was on her own, life stressors, not ready, etc. Myself and a couple good friends were her support system. So while I might not personally know you...I am familiar with this kind of situation. Without posting personal details of another's life online, lets just say events that occurred shortly after she made the decision to terminate evaporated any doubt she had about the situation. I simply wanted to point that right now you still have options available that you won't shortly, and that perhaps it would be a good idea to at least consider them. And if you decide to go the baby route...best of luck. Sincerely. There's not a lot you can do to treat depression and many other health problems during pregnancy...I'll assume you know why so I don't get insulted again. Hence the whole reason for me making these alternative suggestions, having health problems is probably one of the most legitimate reasons you could have for chosing not to have a baby and I doubt most doctors would judge even. Woman >Baby's health is a pretty global trend even in conservative countries.
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