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    I am an indy body rub lady. I have a boyfriend and although I love him very much, I keep him in the dark about this side gig. I do have a full-time vanilla job but it doesn't pay enough so that's what caused me to do the body rubs. My boyfriend is super conservative and old-fashioned and I know he wouldn't understand. I have no attraction or romantic interest in any of my clients. I don't offer full service or gfe but still, I can't help feeling guilty that I hide this from him. Is anyone else in the same boat?

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    Default Re: Question for those of you with significant others

    Wendi, IMHO until he is paying your bills or at least sharing them, how you take care of yourself is none of his business. Don't let your "guilt" lead you to shooting yourself in the foot. You can't afford to stop at this point and telling him will only make him feel like shit and needlessly put a good relationship at risk.

    Anyway, just my fwiw

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    Default Re: Question for those of you with significant others

    If u are not in a super serious relationship or haven't known each other/been dating very long (like 6 months or less) I would say it's fair to have kept it secret but that u should tell him soon. If ur in a serious long term relationship I don't think it's fair to hide it.

    I personally jus cant have secrets from my S/O, at least things I know he would be upset by, I don't feel right if I do. Sure, I did lie/cheat/u name it with alllll past BFs, even serious 1s, but it was bcuz deep down I knew we weren't gonna last anyways. I kno a lot of ppl feel differently than I do abt relationships, especially girls on this forum, and shit my 2 best friends both have secrets kept from their BF that would be total relationship-enders. But I can't stand being lied to or having my trust broken by someone I really love, even if it's "for my protection" or to keep me happy. This has happened to me in the past and I found it super disrespectful, like I can't handle the truth. That's why I wouldnt do it to someone I love or see a future with. I think both parties in a relationship should be able to "handle the truth" abt their S/O, so to speak.

    A lot of girls on here will say ur man has no right to know how u make ur money. But I think they would feel differently if they found out their BF was secretly escorting or working bachelorette parties, lol. I don't think its right to play both sides, by staying in a relationship u really care about yet simultaneously being secretive abt something that could ruin that relationship. It's about respect.






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    Default Re: Question for those of you with significant others

    How long have you been together? How long have you been doing body rubs? Guilt is one of those things that will eat you alive. You're going to have to choose one. He will find out and you do not know what his retaliation is going to be.. you're playing with fire.

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    Default Re: Question for those of you with significant others

    Update doll ?

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    Good communication and trust is key to a relationship.

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