I'm in a very toxic situation as a result of trying to help my ex, seeking advice before i take legal action...
(Sorry, long post and probably disjointed but it's complicated and I'm so lost)
My ex recently got out of jail the 2nd time during our relationship (2 years) for drugs. He got kicked out of his halfway house, i let him stay in my home (cuz he knows I'm a push-over) on the agreement that after his 30-day ban is up he returns to the halfway house. Well that was 3 weeks ago and he refuses to leave....
He made up stories for awhile to placate me, saying he was getting a good job but nothing ever added up, for example his atrocious driving record disqualifying him plus me telling him he would NOT be using my vehicle for any jobs...
Last weekend we had another huge fight that resulted in the police coming and arresting him. I want him out of my home; i do not want to support a cheater, a user, someone who pissed away the many chances i gave him. However i don't want him going to prison over this if i testify in the domestic case....
So my dilemma is how to get him out? The cops said since he's been here over a month i need my landlord to evict him, even though he's not on my lease and we have text coversations detailing how he is overstaying our agreement...
Now here's the nasty shit: he's always been very unstable from his drug addiction, over time he has gone through my phone while high, posted old (pre-relationship) nudes on Facebook, copied the contact information of my customers and friends and periodically threatens to further humiliate me and ruin me financially by harassing my customers. Various other shit. I've always loved him and wanted to help him despite it all, but a big part of it is i feel like I'm being held hostage. (he ALWAYS knew about my job, he only acted ok with him for awhile cuz he knew he could use it as ammo against me in the future and he's been very emotionally abusive about it)
I know every state has different laws (I'm in Illinois, Cook Count). It seems my only option is have my landlord evict him, which will get me evicted in the process. All the while he's gonna cause massive damage to my personal and professional life and i can't do a damn thing about it except keep supporting him while he waits out his (OUR) 30-day eviction. And his probation case workers don't give a shit, even after the domestic arrest they aren't doing shit to place him elsewhere as far as whatever drug treatment program he's supposed to be in.
I'm not one to ask for help from anyone about anything, and it's especially hard having to explain my job as a dancer, the damage he's willing to do, and how hard it will be for me to restart my life yet again.
Looks like the only thing i can do is just abandon my apartment, move in a motel, shut off the untilities in my name and he can just squat there til my landlord can legally evict him.
FML.



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I wish there was something else I could think of, laws vary so much state to state or I'd ask one of my cop friends.

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