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    Hello girls,

    i started working on SM and sometimes feel uncomfortable with customers who take me for prv. Often when they say i need to do something i dont feel it. And comments like take off your panties, sit on the floor and show your ass makes me feel like shit. I saw somewhere here post in which somebody recommend doing things we are comfortable with but i want to earn money..How do you deal with this? Do you block them so they cant rate you or say something particular? I am always afraid that when i say no a couple of times they go away and rate me 1.Thanks for understanding.

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    Are you a dude? This reeks of a customer wanting us to talk about sex.

    Life rule: don't do anything that doesn't make you happy.

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    What is it about going private that makes you uncomfortable when privates = $$$? Seems to me you are not comfortable because you let camming defines who you are. Doing what makes you comfortable is subjective. What's comfortable for some girls may not be for others. You don't have to do what makes you uncomfortable to make money. There are girls that don't do nude, toys or fucking themselves with bats and still bank!

    Take everything you read as guidelines not rules. Doing more doesn't = more money. Just as in real life, showing to much skin doesn't make you more appealing or desirable. Write what you do and don't do on your profile and ask what they want before going private/Exclusive.
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    Default Re: how to feel comfortable with what are you doing during prv?

    WebGirl,
    You need to be firm with your customers before you guys go private. Also you need to make sure your profile reflect what you are willing to do. Be firm and say no. If you keep going at this rate...than customers will drive you to get into some illegal crap one day. Do not let money be your master.


    Quote Originally Posted by WebGirlxxx View Post
    Hello girls,

    i started working on SM and sometimes feel uncomfortable with customers who take me for prv. Often when they say i need to do something i dont feel it. And comments like take off your panties, sit on the floor and show your ass makes me feel like shit. I saw somewhere here post in which somebody recommend doing things we are comfortable with but i want to earn money..How do you deal with this? Do you block them so they cant rate you or say something particular? I am always afraid that when i say no a couple of times they go away and rate me 1.Thanks for understanding.

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    Default Re: how to feel comfortable with what are you doing during prv?

    Quote Originally Posted by WebGirlxxx View Post
    Hello girls,

    i started working on SM and sometimes feel uncomfortable with customers who take me for prv. Often when they say i need to do something i dont feel it. And comments like take off your panties, sit on the floor and show your ass makes me feel like shit. I saw somewhere here post in which somebody recommend doing things we are comfortable with but i want to earn money..How do you deal with this? Do you block them so they cant rate you or say something particular? I am always afraid that when i say no a couple of times they go away and rate me 1.Thanks for understanding.
    Just curious what you thought would happen in private? Perhaps you should change to non-nude if you're not cool with showing your nether regions. Watch the non-nude girls on MyFreeCams to get more of an idea of how to go about doing that hustle. You could also go the dominatrix route.

    You're going to get guys who tell you to spank yourself, spread ass cheeks, gag on large dildos, double penetrate, ask you to role play as weird characters etc. etc. This is normal in camming. If you have a lot of sexual hangups about your body, orifices and acting very sexual in front of someone then this might not be the best job for you.

    I truly wonder why girls who are not cool with selling sex acts on camera decide to go this route, really there are many other ways to make money without taking your clothes off in front of demanding men. Try phone sex, making fetish clips, erotica, sexting and affiliate marketing instead. Often doing any or all of those things can be just as lucrative.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DonaDiabla View Post
    WebGirl,
    You need to be firm with your customers before you guys go private. Also you need to make sure your profile reflect what you are willing to do. Be firm and say no. If you keep going at this rate...than customers will drive you to get into some illegal crap one day. Do not let money be your master.
    Don't be afraid or ashamed to articulate your parameters in your profile. It's perfectly ok to say "private=I run the show" "no anal" ect...but your custies will never know if you don't tell them. Also, if you get a negative review bc u wouldn't do something u say plainly on your profile u don't do...take a screenshot and ask support to remove it.

    some things I no longer do: gold shows, private shows in general, general stupidity.

    i used to deal with a lot more. Now that I'm clear about what I offer I rarely have guys who disrespect but when they do my bases are covered

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    Quote Originally Posted by WebGirlxxx View Post
    ...And comments like take off your panties, sit on the floor and show your ass makes me feel like shit.
    ^^ This is going to happen many times per day on SM. If you feel like shit because you'd rather not be talked to that way and you're not submissive at all, then try the domme route. If you feel like shit because you're not comfortable with nudity or showing your body, then DO NOT CAM! Or do only non nude fetish stuff or something. As was mentioned before, there's lots of other ways to make money besides taking your clothes off on the internet. Don't do anything you're not comfortable with.

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    I personally don't take any requests in Private. It's a group show, so it really isn't fair or practical to cater to any one person's specific interests. If they want to run the show, they need to go Exclusive. I have this written all over my profile and I remind them about my rules while I'm in free chat. You just have to be firm. If they think they can push you around, they will.

    Learning your own boundaries is very important. I personally can't stand bossy assholes, so I refuse to deal with them. I never take any dominant customers, don't do any messy shows because I hate clean-up etc etc. Happy camgirls are wealthy camgirls. If you hate what you do, it's going to show to your customers AND it will make it harder and harder for you to log on.

    However, it takes time to figure out what you do and don't like, so don't be afraid to experiment a little. I had to force myself to start doing JOI shows way back in the day because I had no clue how to do it. I forced myself to figure it out and now I have multiple JOI vids and happily do multiple JOI shows every day.


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    Quote Originally Posted by WebGirlxxx View Post
    Hello girls,

    i started working on SM and sometimes feel uncomfortable with customers who take me for prv. Often when they say i need to do something i dont feel it. And comments like take off your panties, sit on the floor and show your ass makes me feel like shit. I saw somewhere here post in which somebody recommend doing things we are comfortable with but i want to earn money..How do you deal with this? Do you block them so they cant rate you or say something particular? I am always afraid that when i say no a couple of times they go away and rate me 1.Thanks for understanding.
    Is it just the fact that they're demanding (not asking nicely) that's bothering you? Or is it the actual request that they're making (to take off panties, show ass, etc.)? Is it the nudity that makes you uncomfortable? Are you only comfortable with showing tits but not showing ass/pussy? Would you much rather be a non-nude cam girl (specializing in foot fetish, or something else)? What is it that YOU are comfortable with doing?
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    Default Re: how to feel comfortable with what are you doing during prv?

    Honestly if it's making you feel uncomfortable, maybe camming isn't for you.

    You can try non-nude. but you will still be asked to do those things. tdgaf.





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    I think TheBrownFox hit the nail on the head. Is it the way they're speaking to you or the acts themselves? xx

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    Thank you for those replies… I haven’t expected this kind of answers. I was thinking that my problem is common and you think and feel similarly. Sometimes is really good to ask. I will try to refer to some questions.
    I was working 1,5 year as a cam girl on Chaturbate and mfc. And had similar problems. I have never earned good money. And thinking why …I am an attractive girl, I was thinking maybe it’s a camera so I bought the best one. Still no good. I changed ligtening, bought the best internet speed,put on sexy clothes and nice make up. But you don’t cheat them. They will feel that you don’t like it.
    I feel sometimes like an object… If I had to answer if I like to get naked and masturbate in front of them I would say – I hate it. Why I am here …I struggle with such a low esteem that I cant even find job I would like to do. I am working on it but it’s the stuff from childhood and its not easy to get rid of with. And that’s the reason I still sit in the business I hate. But…there are still quite good money here and at least I can work when I want.
    TheBrownFox it’s the way they speak to me. Whats the worse is that they are doing this in such a demanding way. Many times I felt hurt. I would like them to be more gentle. I can show pussy, breast ,feet, no problem. But i don't feel they respect me.
    I was not aware that girls who doesn’t show nudity are able to bank. But I don’t feel so sexual and that’s the problem. Its easier for me to put off dress.. But when they start speaking to me fuck yourself hard or I want to see you cum I feel sick. And most of the guys want this. Maybe I should prepare my offer for guys who likes shy girls…? But again im afraid its not going to bring any money.
    Hyori, thanks for giving examples of things I can do, the last one I am checking already.
    I changed my profile. I will stick to this job for a while, will check this affiliate marketing maybe find normal job eventually. But I don’t have much choice now.Need to earn money. Thanks again for each answer which helped me very much and sorry If I didn’t refer to all questions. I have an interview tomorrow, need to prepare.

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    i dont do nudity at all and i make money, im not rich but i make money. i can make around 700/1000 usd per week only doing domme stuff. well, if a guy tells me to take my clothes off i send him so quick to hell that he wont even know what made his head spin that fast. dont let them talk to u like this, tell them: when u talk politely, i will show everything u want, when....if u dont, u can get the fuck out of here. if u hate masturbating, do fetish, do shy girl, do teasing, but dont get naked at all, dont play with ur pussy and dont feel bad abt them being fucktards. up with urself esteem and bank girl, u can do it.
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    You are very brave for sharing and I feel for you!

    In this business, it takes a lot more than being attractive to make money. Attractive girls are a dime a dozen, on and off cam. Beauty is not a rarity.

    If you struggle with low self-esteem, camming can either make it better or worse. I hope it boosts your self-esteem hearing men all over the world saying how hot and beautiful you are.

    You have to regulate how you want to be talked to or treated in YOUR room. What you accept is what you feel you deserve. Men love bitches so never be afraid to speak up. Set boundaries so people don't behave badly in both professional and personal relationships.

    I too struggled with low self-esteem for many years because I was relentlessly bullied but I've evolved. Now I don't allow anyone to treat me badly on and off cam. I demand kindness, good treatment and respect. They are not negotiable with me! When you set the bar higher for the behavior you're willing to accept into your life, the Universe presents you with people who clear the bar

    Quote Originally Posted by WebGirlxxx View Post
    Thank you for those replies… I haven’t expected this kind of answers. I was thinking that my problem is common and you think and feel similarly. Sometimes is really good to ask. I will try to refer to some questions.
    I was working 1,5 year as a cam girl on Chaturbate and mfc. And had similar problems. I have never earned good money. And thinking why …I am an attractive girl, I was thinking maybe it’s a camera so I bought the best one. Still no good. I changed ligtening, bought the best internet speed,put on sexy clothes and nice make up. But you don’t cheat them. They will feel that you don’t like it.
    I feel sometimes like an object… If I had to answer if I like to get naked and masturbate in front of them I would say – I hate it. Why I am here …I struggle with such a low esteem that I cant even find job I would like to do. I am working on it but it’s the stuff from childhood and its not easy to get rid of with. And that’s the reason I still sit in the business I hate. But…there are still quite good money here and at least I can work when I want.
    TheBrownFox it’s the way they speak to me. Whats the worse is that they are doing this in such a demanding way. Many times I felt hurt. I would like them to be more gentle. I can show pussy, breast ,feet, no problem. But i don't feel they respect me.
    I was not aware that girls who doesn’t show nudity are able to bank. But I don’t feel so sexual and that’s the problem. Its easier for me to put off dress.. But when they start speaking to me fuck yourself hard or I want to see you cum I feel sick. And most of the guys want this. Maybe I should prepare my offer for guys who likes shy girls…? But again im afraid its not going to bring any money.
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    Quote Originally Posted by WebGirlxxx View Post
    Hello girls,

    i started working on SM and sometimes feel uncomfortable with customers who take me for prv. Often when they say i need to do something i dont feel it. And comments like take off your panties, sit on the floor and show your ass makes me feel like shit. I saw somewhere here post in which somebody recommend doing things we are comfortable with but i want to earn money..How do you deal with this? Do you block them so they cant rate you or say something particular? I am always afraid that when i say no a couple of times they go away and rate me 1.Thanks for understanding.
    Personally I would never do anything someone tells me to do, and unless you're submissive that probably won't sit right with you either. Ask them how they are, chat about what they like, ask if they're into anything in particular, then use what info they give you to tailor your show. But do it your way. If he asks can you do x position, can you use a toy, will you change outfits etc all those are fine providing you're OK with it. But if they're barking out orders or demanding things then it's time for you to show who is boss. The key is developing a rapport at the start of the session. If he is into something you can't offer, then let him know. Also make clear on your profile what you do and don't offer. Only ever do what you're happy with or willing to experiment on.

    This is YOUR room, your show, and you are the boss. If he wanted someone else he'd have gone there first, but he's with you because he likes you, so you have the power not him. I imagine you have low rates? The higher your prices, the more polite and less demanding guys are generally. Those looking to get off for a bargain price are not worth the hassle x
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    It IS a common problem. Very few of us get off on gaping our assholes at the cam or whatever. Sometimes custies are rude and demanding. Sometimes they're just clueless (ahem: "go harder! faster! squirt now!" types). But you know how we take it with a smile?

    $$$$$$$

    Are you charging too little? Taking my panties off for 30c a minute would make me feel like shit too. Anyone would feel like a worthless pile of crap if they had to do such physical, intimate things for next to nothing. But I am super happy to pump four fingers in my vag for someone if they're paying me $2.55 a minute (my cut)!

    Put your prices up. Don't be afraid. Believe in your worth and guys will too. When someone is paying serious money to see your bits, that gives you the power. Because you're not some cheap bargain bin slave hoe that tightwadded dicks looking for the most Value4Cents think they can push around because you seem so desperate for even 99c. You'll be attracting a different class of custies, the ones who think sacrificing $8 a minute just to watch you peel your clothes off is worth every cent. You want that kind of custie. Not only because they value you better, because some rich guys are still assholes, but because you know you're getting paid damn well to take their bullshit.


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    Due to an exessive amount of bitchiness and inabilty of pleasing men who I am not in love with (clearly not cam dudes), I do only non nude domme and guess what so many do try to sneak around and push "just for me", "make an exeption". "I am a cuckold now show me how you love ride a huge dick, bb, oops I mean Mistress" lmao etc bull. Guys will always do that on cam and RL.
    Maybe you don't enjoy camming and this is the problem. Raising prices is a great idea as well.

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    I'd like to point out that, while your problem may be common, it's not universal. This isn't one of those jobs/careers/businesses where it's guaranteed that the work is going to suck, but you do it for the money and other perks. For example, I can't imagine that ANYONE enjoys draining portapotties, septic tanks, or outhouses, but there are definitely people that pinch their nose and do it because they need the money and that's the opportunity that they have. By contrast, some of us actually do get off on what happens in private, or at least find it fun, interesting, humorous, or intriguing. I almost never find myself doing a session that I don't enjoy at all, and I very rarely feel like my custies are demanding or rude enough to cause me distress.

    I say all that because if you hate being in paid chat - and it sounds like you really do hate it - it's not because camming is inherently unpleasant for everyone. If you don't like it, it may be that you simply aren't cut out for camming, and that's ok. Different jobs appeal to different people, that's just life.

    It's also possible, as others have suggested, that you are going about camming in ways that are making the experience unnecessarily shitty for you.
    • Perhaps you're in the wrong niche - a Domme isn't expected to take orders or demands from anyone, so maybe that's worth exploring.
    • Perhaps you don't know your limits or aren't sticking to them, in which case you need to identify the things that you already know cause you discomfort, and simply don't do those things. Add to the list as needed. Try to make it as clear as possible in your profile what you do and don't offer, and stick with it.
    • Perhaps you feel like an object because deep down you feel that when they are paying you, they've "bought" you and are entitled to the sex acts of their choice. If you have some variation of that mindset, the guys will see it and treat you like an object they own and control. The truth is that we are like escorts, lawyers, and a number of other highly paid professionals - customers are paying for our TIME in private and are entitled to absolutely nothing else. Of course, you should pay attention to their desires and try to make the time as enjoyable as you can for them, but not to the point that you are having an unpleasant time. If things are going in a direction you don't like, steer it back to something that should be mutually enjoyable.
    • Perhaps an adjustment to your perspective would make things more pleasant. Remember that these are guys with hard dicks, only one hand for typing, and low blood flow to the brain. I like to assume that anything that looks like a demand is really shorthand for "I'd love to see you do ____. If you don't mind, could you work that into the show when you get a chance?" If it turns out that they're intentionally being demanding, I'd suggest either banning them, or ignoring their demands, doing whatever sexy thing feels good to you, and smiling at how cute it is that they think they're in control.

    Remember that any money you lose from doing things your way (and you might not lose any money at all) is a smaller loss than burning out and quitting or harming your mental health.
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    ^^^ Amazing post together with what people posted already! xx

    Cant add much just that i personally am not fond on the sexual aspect & performance on cam, i dont hate it but i dont like it either, sexually it rarely does something to me therefore i focus on being a fetish oriented performer, i also do domme shows, roleplay, etc, i do get naked and play with toys but i am softcore here, not much into toys, i only own a few toys in total.
    I trained my members to be respectful and they are, sometimes i'll get a guy who goes by "get naked" & i get stuck here for a short while but then i remember he might be horny and as magical_hoohah mentioned above he might type the short version of what he wants, surprisingly these guys turn out to be very good customers sometimes, they just too horny to take the time to type 'properly'.
    We just dont know how they really are cause we cant see them, we just read a text that might sound not good because of the way it was typed but the guy might be a good guy there. If of course he continues to behave bad for my taste i cut the show and ban him period, i wont tolerate such behavior.
    Believe me, i was shy too in the beginning & had self esteem issues, i still have some but camming helped me get over most of my issues and i became stronger no kidding, took me long years to grow strong but i did it, it is doable.
    Yes, that's the cam world, that's how these guys interact with us, it's up to u if u let them take the lead or u do it and be in charge of ur own room & performance, they can sense ur insecurities just so u know.
    Good luck with everything u going to do from now on, on cam or offcam xx

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    I think the cam world is a silghtly shock to everyone of us in the begining. And you started with a free chat based site - which can be evan worse for a personality like you. Take every adivce that the girls gave you and write it down . Decide what is best for you ! I am a fetish switch and evan when i am submissive, the most demanding doms first ask me in a respectful way if that particular thing is ok with me or if they can call me bad words (if that would be too much for me). So yeah, evan as a submissive you have limits ! Make your own rules, ask them to be polite & respectfull. I remember beeing once a sub for a guy, and he loved choking (i don't actually do it but on cam they can't tell). He kept going: pull harder baby, harderrr ! And than i snapped and told him: "do you want me to die on camera, is that what turns you on? Cause that is one of my limits darling". He was like: oh nooooo i am so sorry, please forgive me, i got carried away, that was for sure not i meant bla bla bla. The conclusion : members are horny and get carried away, you don't hvae to do as they want every single time, you can have rules, you can snap at them- you are human ! It will get better you will see.

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    I'm comfortable with everything I do or I wouldn't do it.

    "No" is my favorite word. We must keep in mind that they are typing with one hand & as little as possible, so while it may read like a command it may not be one. They simply don't take the effort to write words like please, may you, thank you, etc...

    If they do get super demanding, I just do what it best for me. Either I tease them more, tell them my limits if they still don't listen in free chat then I kick, in paid chat I will end the show for them.

    If you seem hurt or embarrassed then the predators will double up on you, even if you don't feel that way you always must be strong on camera. Predators seek out weakness & then really try to exploit it. Which is why camming is not the best way for some to make money & doing videos is where they don't have to directly deal with men.

    Then there is the type who pushes & pushes cause they want you to take control & put them in their place, charge more from those guys.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WebGirlxxx View Post
    Thank you for those replies… I haven’t expected this kind of answers. I was thinking that my problem is common and you think and feel similarly. Sometimes is really good to ask. I will try to refer to some questions.
    I was working 1,5 year as a cam girl on Chaturbate and mfc. And had similar problems. I have never earned good money. And thinking why …I am an attractive girl, I was thinking maybe it’s a camera so I bought the best one. Still no good. I changed ligtening, bought the best internet speed,put on sexy clothes and nice make up. But you don’t cheat them. They will feel that you don’t like it.
    I feel sometimes like an object… If I had to answer if I like to get naked and masturbate in front of them I would say – I hate it. Why I am here …I struggle with such a low esteem that I cant even find job I would like to do. I am working on it but it’s the stuff from childhood and its not easy to get rid of with. And that’s the reason I still sit in the business I hate. But…there are still quite good money here and at least I can work when I want.
    TheBrownFox it’s the way they speak to me. Whats the worse is that they are doing this in such a demanding way. Many times I felt hurt. I would like them to be more gentle. I can show pussy, breast ,feet, no problem. But i don't feel they respect me.
    I was not aware that girls who doesn’t show nudity are able to bank. But I don’t feel so sexual and that’s the problem. Its easier for me to put off dress.. But when they start speaking to me fuck yourself hard or I want to see you cum I feel sick. And most of the guys want this. Maybe I should prepare my offer for guys who likes shy girls…? But again im afraid its not going to bring any money.
    Hyori, thanks for giving examples of things I can do, the last one I am checking already.
    I changed my profile. I will stick to this job for a while, will check this affiliate marketing maybe find normal job eventually. But I don’t have much choice now.Need to earn money. Thanks again for each answer which helped me very much and sorry If I didn’t refer to all questions. I have an interview tomorrow, need to prepare.
    Sorry I thought you might be a dude. I just figured any person starting wouldn't be so shocked by requests.

    Look, you set boundaries and don't cross them. It's your home based business. If something makes you uncomfortable don't do it. If you don't do anal say "sometimes I do anal but not today. But I would love to tease you or do something else fun, is there anything else that turns you on?" Don't just say no... No anal or whatever. Nobody has to know you set firm limits but you. Keep the possibility open in their minds.

    Or you could try dominatrix. But you'll have to harden up and get into Dom mode. Dominatrix women don't do much to their own body sexually, and can shut down the requests fast and like a bitch because it's your character. But you'll need to do some research. Go to Streamate and watch some doms in free chat and make a character using tips or inspiration. I used to watch one model, not saying her name but her initials on cam are JV, and I loved her style. Never duplicate, but always get inspiration.

    As with all it will come in time or you'll give it up. I worked in an adult store as I had an extensive background with toys and porn before ever thinking of Camming. If you are relatively sheltered, I feel for you.

    Right now, get thick skin, and look at it as a learning experience. Remove emotion, act. You are a character. Be an actress. Remember that. Nothing is personal. Make yourself the sexy vixen or goddess or girl next door or whatever that you would love to be in real life. If you are timid, become that strong dominatrix. If you work a stressful life and feel old, make Yosef's that young hottie next door. You can do anything you want and you can always ignore or ban any man.

    Also, they don't know you and can't touch you. Remember, you are safe and YOU control all.

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    Um...okay, as much as guys "shouldn't" treat us like objects etc...I am going to voice my opinion that it's okay for them to be blunt in pvt and excl. Keep in mind that when they are asking you to do something, they're taking their hands away from what they WANT to be doing, so they may not have the time or inclination to type you a sexy paragraph. And they are paying by the minute for a girl who is (or says she is) horny and ready for them. If they want a long drawn-out courtship, they'll go on a date. If you need a guy to really butter you up and turn you on for you to feel comfortable doing the sexual activities you advertise in your profile, this might not be for you. They are paying for on-demand sexy times, and expect to get it when they pay for it, and I understand that.

    I set my boundaries (some stuff I only do in exclusive, some stuff I don't do at all) and am clear about them in my profile and when guys ask. When they push boundaries, I break out of "sexy time voice" and say "i don't do that" then go right back to something within my boundaries. If they continue to push, I sit up, type AND say "I am sorry, but you are unwilling to stay within the boundaries we agreed on, and I am ending this show." and then I end the show. They don't get to push past my boundaries since I am always upfront about them, there is no space for their confusion.

    Also, and I know girls say this all the time...if you are not happy, it shows. Body language, tone of voice, micro expressions, whatever. There are very few girls who can be totally miserable on cam and not have it show through. I know when I am unhappy it immediately shows...especially in my earnings. Very few guys want to do shows with girls who are unhappy and not enjoying themselves. They may not be able to say "oh she is unhappy" but they will just decide not to take them pvt or excl. If you are as unhappy as you sound, a job where you are mostly selling happiness and horniness and eagerness might not be the best choice for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WebGirlxxx View Post
    Hello girls,

    i started working on SM and sometimes feel uncomfortable with customers who take me for prv. Often when they say i need to do something i dont feel it. And comments like take off your panties, sit on the floor and show your ass makes me feel like shit. I saw somewhere here post in which somebody recommend doing things we are comfortable with but i want to earn money..How do you deal with this? Do you block them so they cant rate you or say something particular? I am always afraid that when i say no a couple of times they go away and rate me 1.Thanks for understanding.
    That things that make you uncomfortable are basics of this job. If you feel bad doing it, maybe camming isn't a job for you. I never do what feels wrong to me, and only thing that feels wrong is not getting money.


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    If something makes you really, really uncomfortable and it doesn't get better with time, don't do it. I mean, I made this mistake myself and I used to fucking cry myself to sleep, "lol". Not everyone has the same level of comfort with what they do with their body or what kind of sexual material they're willing to create. If you don't have that level of comfort, this will make you miserable over time and the money you make will not be enough to make up for that.

    I established my own boundaries and I stick to them, hard, and now I'm quite happy with what I do. But please don't feel that you have to do "everything". You really don't. If somebody's rude to you and makes you feel terrible - you can refuse them service. And if you're not okay with doing ANYTHING sexual at all, then maybe camming isn't the best job for you, realistically speaking.

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