Hi, so I'm brand new to dancing, and I already feel like I'm doing everything wrong. I just started dancing at this club and I went in for an audition and was the first dancer there that night after they hired me, so I made some money dancing on stage for the few people who were there. Anyway, I didn't make a lot of money, but it was my first night and since I was there first I made more than a lot of the other girls did since it's a pretty competitive scene where I live.
Anyways, the second night rolls around and I accidentally showed up late since no one told me what time I needed to get there by, but management still lets me in. After I get ready the manager comes up to me and tells me he's going to get someone to show me some moves since I didn't really know any of the moves the other girls were doing and could really only sway and walk around the pole. So he brings me out to this girl and she starts being super mean (but trying to seem nice) and she's all like "omg its a good thing you came to me bc you were super bad at dancing and like the faces you were making were awful. seriously, everyone was laughing at you, the other strippers and the customers. you only made money that night bc u came early, like i overheard management talking about it and thats what they said, too. omg, how could you not realize the other girls were laughing at you all night? it's just that I know you're a nice girl and I don't want to see the other girls making fun of you, but seriously, everything you were doing was just so weird" and, mind you, she's saying all of this in front of a bunch of the other girls so it's totally humiliating. so I'm like, ok, ill try to be better, but she doesn't really show me what else to do so now I'm just shaken and super nervous. so I go back out on the floor and sit with a customer trying to hustle when she comes up again and is like, "just so you know, there's a rule that you can't do that while a girl is dancing, like, i know you didn't know, but the other girls are complaining to me and a lot of them already don't like you." so i was like ok, and I left the guy and just kind of hid in the DR.
so at this point I'm really shaken and trying to keep from crying, and a few of the other girls notice this and come up to me and say nice, reassuring things, but I'm too nervous to dance and whenever I go onstage I'm super awkward and the customers don't even look at me. like, I get super close on stage and they actually look away, and they start leaving my stage to go watch the other girl on the other stageso basically, everything is going horribly.
finally, after a long, stressful night, the cuties go home, but the club stays open for a while longer. this girl who is dancing who saw me being attacked by the mean girl earlier pulls me up onstage and tries to show me a few moves, and I try but most of them are out of my abilities. anyway, she's super nice about it and really helpful.
So now I have a few questions. I don't know how to deal with this bully who is pretending to be nice by insulting me. I would just put up with it, but she's being so aggressive so openly that other girls are fighting for me and telling me to stand up for myself. So now it's like I have to choose between these two sides, because the other girls are really sweet but I don't want them to think I'm ignoring them, it's just that I really don't want to start anything with the stronger, older, mean girl who does a few lines of coke before she comes to the club every night.
I also don't know how to thank the girl who taught me some moves. should I tip her the next time I see her? I'm not sure how to handle it because I feel like tipping her might be implying that what she was doing wasn't a friendly gesture but a monetary one, and I don't want to seem rude. I also don't want to tip her for helping me and then have the other girls find out about it, since the mean girl might expect me to tip her for "helping" me learn what not to do.
I'm sorry this was so long, but I'm just kind of shaken and super self-conscious now, any help would be appreciated



so basically, everything is going horribly.
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