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    Duh Keep beating myself up feeling worthless over champagne room please help :(

    It's been really slow at work lately and last night I got a customized to get a room with me but when I was talking to him he was already like well what can I do back there I don't like rules and I said you just can't touch private parts. He was super ha day and running me and kept trying to grab. I usually don't let people even touch me but my standards for myself have lowered latly I've been so stressed out about making money. I wish I would have just gotten up and left but idk I felt weirdly intimated. I used to not give a fuck and would be crazy and if a guy tried to do that I would flip out but this was a few years ago once I got sober I became almost like a pushover. Idk I feel like crap like if a guy is going to be a problem in the back should I not even try to hustle him to get the money then just walk out a few mins in idk please help I keep beating myself up over this , thanks landis

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    Default Re: Keep beating myself up feeling worthless over champagne room please help :(

    Don't be too hard on yourself. Just be better prepared next time. Remember the club, like the casino, is in favor of the house and you rent the house (and the security) so you should have the upper hand. Don't dance for people who give you a bad vibe and ALWAYS get your money upfront - especially for anything over 15 min and / or from guys you think could be a problem (pervs, intoxicated people, people who don't speak English well, etc)
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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    Don't be too hard on yourself. Just be better prepared next time. Remember the club, like the casino, is in favor of the house and you rent the house (and the security) so you should have the upper hand. Don't dance for people who give you a bad vibe and ALWAYS get your money upfront - especially for anything over 15 min and / or from guys you think could be a problem (pervs, intoxicated people, people who don't speak English well, etc)
    Thanks yea I talked to the vip hostess after and she said I will allways get the money I just felt intimated and like I didn't want to be a hassle I should have trusted the vibes and just relived it wasn't worth the 90$ thank you!

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    Default Re: Keep beating myself up feeling worthless over champagne room please help :(

    You seem really stressed in general. Is there any way you can take time off? It doesn't have to be a lot, usually 4-5 days will do the trick to kind of 're-set' your feelings... which in turn helps you remember your boundaries and avoid this stuff.

    As far as not hustling them if they appear problematic, that's a good idea in the long run. I rarely do CRs at all because 95% of them equate to wanting more than dances, and I will not take someone to the semi-private room if they are a pain in the ass on the floor. That is my policy and I have zero problem telling dudes to knock off bad behavior; if you have an issue asserting boundaries, it's probably even better for you to also adopt this practice.

    Sure, you might make the $300 or whatever from the room, but you also might put yourself in your current scenario of feeling like shit because you crossed a boundary, which is affecting your stress levels and thus your money now... so in the end, you make less net profit than if you'd just turned the CR down... never mind if this happens again and it goes far enough that you get PTSD or something. No amount of $$ is worth your sanity.

    That guy sounds like a dick. Please don't dwell on it. Don't let customers intimidate you. They have an illusion of control because they are paying for it... but they are still having to pay to get an attractive girl to touch them... who should be intimidating who here?
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    Don't beat yourself up. This comes up in our industry...how you feel afterwards will stick with you longer than the money in the moment. Guys like this are disrespectful and you don't deserve that. It will hurt your soul. Plus, there may be another guy (usually is) who will take you to VIP and be awesome and respectful! Don't let these guys intimidate you, the users can sense how to do it unfortunately.

    You say you're sober. I've found when I'm sober I can sense my type of customer and the assholes in the club.

    ALWAYS GET YOUR MONEY UPFRONT!! do so and if you leave a room cause he pushes you, a club worth anything will take your side because they don't want extras and respect the girls.

    Also, you can get fired for letting a guy go too far. At that point they will want to cover their asses.

    Don't take a guy who gives you a bad feeling or doesn't treat you like the goddess you are on the floor. They aren't worth it.

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    Default Re: Keep beating myself up feeling worthless over champagne room please help :(

    Self care is an ongoing process. Forgive yourself and learn from this. You aren't alone, either. In this line of work, to each other, we all act like badass bitches with our shit together, but everyone has regrets and encounters that they would rather forget. *HUGS* It will be ok, and you deserve both money for your time and respect.

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    Thank you ladies for all taking the time to respond I really appreciate it!!!

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    Default Re: Keep beating myself up feeling worthless over champagne room please help :(

    You have to set your own boundaries . I've gone a little beyond my boundaries in the clubs here are there ( usually just like you described .... when I just NEEDED the cash now now now now ) and I think if many on here are honest, it's probably something a lot have experienced. Just step back and try to RESET your boundaries and what currently works for you. If you feel yucky about the experience , just don't do it again .

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