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    Angry Men who are addicted to strip clubs and sex industry

    I've met many men like this, who are addicted to the sex industry so much so that their whole life is a complete waste.

    What's strange is that they don't even realize it. They don't realize they're wasting their life away and all their money, and they don't realize they're even addicted (in complete denial). Kind of sad.

    Have you met anyone like this? Don't you feel sorry for them? Do you think they can turn they're life around (probably not)? Have you seen someone so addicted to this industry and actually quit?

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    Naw I don't feel sorry for them....do casinos pity high rollers?


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    If it weren't for these guys, our jobs would not exist.


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    I feel sorry when they let the sex industry ruin their families & marriages . I've talked to so many divorced men who said their wife wasn't happy with their lifestyle & all I can think is how they couldn't cut back to make it work at home... Instead of being at the strip club... EVERY day . That's why I enjoy when couples come in together . It's refreshing

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaylenn View Post
    I feel sorry when they let the sex industry ruin their families & marriages . I've talked to so many divorced men who said their wife wasn't happy with their lifestyle & all I can think is how they couldn't cut back to make it work at home... Instead of being at the strip club... EVERY day . That's why I enjoy when couples come in together . It's refreshing
    I don't get this. I've had regulars or talked to club regulars that are like "My wife doesn't put out, but I'm with her because she is a great mother to my kids."

    What that makes me think is they want to put no work or effort into any part of their lives. They would rather pay a girl to pretend to be interested than go home and have a thoughtful conversation and having meaningful sex.

    Plus I HATE when men come every day/a few times a week and they are open with the fact their wife doesn't know. Something about him being able to lie to the person he's married to daily just makes me feel like he doesn't respect any woman.

    Men like this live in lala land.

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    It's sad. But I can see why.

    Sex industry careers are like instant gratification for men with means who don't feel like waiting weeks, months, or years for their girlfriends or wives to give them attention.
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    I feel sorry for the ones who forget its a fantasy. If I'm having an "off" day, my hustle is goofy/cheesy/ditzy/over the top. Any other day, though, I deal heavily in intimacy. Not extras, but like hardcore bedroom eyes, eyelids dipping down just the right degree at the right time, trailing fingernails on skin, up the back of the guy's neck... things like that. It works really, really well for me, to the point that if I'm having an awesome "on" day, I can have a borderline nonverbal hustle. Just eye-fuck them from across the room, walk up, bend down, trail fingers across their skin. and then just ask if they "want to go". It's super effective. And for me it's an awesome thrill, but there's never any actual connection. It's purely me feeding off the energy generated by all the sexual tension... and also the money that flows out of the guy's wallet as a result. When that wallet's dry, I move on to the next one.

    The guys I feel bad for are the ones that topple head over heels and actually think the connection was real. Who lose their jobs and come in anyways to drop a portion of their savings while they sit there for hours, under the impression that I'll just stop working in the middle of my work day and hang out with them, because they felt special, and because they gave me $80-$120 that day that they probably didn't actually have available to spend.

    If it's just some dingus who's coming into the club already looking for a date, or if it's a kiddo who doesn't "get it" yet, then pffft to them. But when they're guys who've come in semi regularly for years, and suddenly they forget and fall too deep into the fantasy, to the point their real life takes a back seat to them getting their fix of something fake, it's a little sad to see.

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    If it's someone who has the time and money to blow, though, and this is obviously what makes them happy, then by all means, lol. Get it, guys. Their relationships outside the club are none of my business, and I'm sure there's more to the situation than just the surface. The deception and lack of respect displayed when guys brag about their wives not knowing is definitely a turn off, but if they at least seem a little remorseful about it, they get a bit of a pass from me. Definitely puts the situation back into "none of my business" territory rather than "Wow. You're a total dickhead. No wonder you need to pay for it." territory. If they come in five or six days a week, I don't see how it's any different from them going to the local sports bar to relax and catch the game, or equivalent recreational entertainment. If this is what they do for fun, I'm not complaining. Granted, their coming into my club means I get paid (potentially). But even if it didn't, how they spend their free time to unwind is their call. I know more people than I'd like to admit who are in loveless relationships because of their kids. It's apparently (unfortunately) a pretty common mindset. If I felt trapped like that, at work *and* at home, I'd probably go find a bar/strip club to hang out at regularly, too. Just to enjoy a fantasy for a spell of what "might've been," since there's obviously no way in hell it'll happen for real now, in that situation.

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    It's sad just like any other addiction but not sad enough for me to turn down that money :p they are big boys and it's their decision.

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    Hell no. Everybody has problems. At least we get to benefit off their problems

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    I don't feel sorry for them. They are grown ass men who are making conscious decision to walk into the club.

    For the guys complaining about their girlfriends/wives, if they spent the amount they do on their women like how they do on sex workers and chased them like they chase sex workers, maybe they wouldn't have problems at home. Women aren't that complicated imo.

    Also, of course men are going to blame their women for not putting out or whatever, so I don't believe them. For all I know, the wife can be a hot milf who has sex with him every day and he's just a shitty person who wants more to fulfill his sense of machismo.


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    I think all men I meet through strip clubs have some degree of addiction to the sex industry...that being said, it varies from person to person. There are definitely men who are more vulnerable than others and have some serious mental issues going on, which I will not get involved with. I've met men like this and I wont lead them on or make them think I really like them. I don't give them the chance to get attached to me.

    Then there are the men who are just physically and sexually addicted to strippers but are usually mentally stable and have families and wives of their own. I have no problem with these types of men and don't feel the least bit sorry for them. They don't feel sorry for themselves or guilty, and they are the ones paying my bills, so why should I care?

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    There was a guy that used to come into the club every day and buy everyone food and drinks and get dances galore. He spent a lot of money there, and he genuinely believed that we were all his real friends. He was a nice guy, he was lonely, and I did feel sorry for him. He ended up actually dating one of the dancers and they have a kid together now.

    The guys who come in day after day because they're ugly, I have sympathy for. The ones who have bad personalities, not so much.

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    I only ever had sympathy for one guy. He emptied out his retirement fund on a girl who basically used him to fund her 200 a day addiction to painkillers. He ended up living in a shitty RV and once he had nothing left she dropped him. Everyone else.. They're adults. I feel sorry for their wives and girlfriends and kids but I like money to pay my bills more than I care about fixing bad marriages.

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    I met a single young man this week who I felt a little bad for. He told me about his subtance abuse(mostly heroine) he had since 13 and never had a home cooked meal. Sounds like he has some shitty parents. He doesn't seem like the sex addict type, he's more of a party addiction type.

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    They are talking about this thread on that other site.

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    ^^^^theyre probably hating 1) dudes over there are pessimistic trolls 2) because most of them are strip club addicts in denial.
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    Linkies?

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    https://www.tuscl.net/postread.php?PID=44209

    I think it's really funny they assume we're talking about all customers lmao, a little guilt in there boys? Or that they each think that what they do is "norm" that happens in the club. I have a strong feeling the guys have a great time with and spend the most money on me are not ones posting on that site

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    ^i liked what one of them had to say about people who are considered on the "bottom rungs" of society trying to put others down, I don't believe that's what was happening here but I notice it within the sex Industry itself..hey, I'm both a stripper and an ex addict so Im not going holier than thou on either.
    However the other guy who believes all women just want "meaningful sex with one man!" Yeah you wish pal

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    Lol! "Those SW slags hate the fact that they desperately need our $$$, but most of us can take or leave them. They HATE that reality and their insipid posts over on StripperWhine continue to prove it."

    That comment is a prime example of customers thinking they are way more important than they really are. Like the customer who gets pissed off because you didnt pay him enough attention. I feel bad for the guys on that website but not for most of the customers I actually meet in the club. But then again most of the customers I meet at work are probably not spending their time whining about strippers online.

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    When did men and women become such mortal fucking enemies? Anyone see those "be a Gentleman" razor ads or watch "The Intern" and see the part where Hathaway's character talks about how in one generation girls became women and men became boys? So true. Except that the word "woman" is interchangeable with "whore, slut, skank, slag, bitch and broad". Young women perpetuate this shit by allowing males to act this way and by not commanding respect. I am so glad I don't spend time with men that have a frat boy mentality into their adult lives.

    Really, WTF, but I digress; - the OP was asking people's input on whether or not they personally feel sorry for people who are addicted to strip clubs, not whether we think all strip club customers are pathetic losers and don't appreciate them. I do feel a bit of sympathy for anyone with an addiction, be in drugs, gambling, alcohol or sex. I have never personally had a regular that I felt was addicted to the experience though I have seen that kind of customer in the clubs before. I am not sure I would feel comfortable taking someone's money if they really had a problem because of the repercussions down the road.
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    when i was an escort i met many like this and i know at least 1 who actually quit for good. its hard though.
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    For some reason as I was driving out to the club I kept turning this thread and the tuscl responses over in my head.

    "Shopping for gorgeous girls is mind-blowing fun. It's as simple as that." And also, "Random, I agree. It's fun and I can afford it."

    These guys right here win the grand prize. That's really all it should be. I'm there to be a beautiful, entertaining distraction, whether that be by simply giggling and jiggling or by providing witty, interesting conversation, with or without my clothes on. At the end of the night we should both go home and go on with our lives, and if they care to come back in again, I'm happy to repeat that experience for them. That is the service that I'm selling and I enjoy it and am pretty good at it as long as the customer is respectful. I don't want to be a therapist, and honestly, I really don't care to hear about their marriages any more than they want to hear about mine. If a guy is spending of course I will listen and play along but that's the part of the job that is draining and boring and makes me go, "Oh god, it's this customer again, hurry up and put on your best fake smile."

    As for the extremely negative comments by the tuscl guys, I'm very sorry that they feel the way they do because I do find it sad. I understand that I have to accept a certain amount of objectification as a stripper. "Stripper" is the role that I put on and definitely play up as soon as I step out of the dressing room. That is to a large extent how the money is made. If a more real connection is made with a customer, that's awesome and makes things a lot more enjoyable to me. But I accept that many guys just want me to be a cute little horny dumb blonde and that is fine as long as they are still respectful and don't try to fingerbang my asshole. But I don't really think any of us care to be completely dehumanized. I try not to do it to customers (unless they are assholes telling me to "work for this dollar") and if they try to do it to me I walk away. So hopefully those guys eventually come to understand that.

    "One common "exception" where the resources spent is not negative, is an example like a man (or woman) who has grown children who are out on their own, and he has an ex-spouse, the guy is now older, and it at a point in his (or her) life where is he "done" with long term relationships. That guy already had a family and is done with it. He's not missing out on *anything*. And *no one* left is depending on him for support any more. He's just honest with himself and may be perfectly happy spending time, money, energy, and focus on strippers, sex, escorts, etc."

    Thank you, dominic. This kind of customer is the best and the kind that I actively seek out, cultivate as regulars, and enjoy and do well with, and judging by how many of them I've had as regulars over the years, the kind that enjoy me as well.

    And I forgot the second customer that I felt genuinely sorry for until today. The girl told him she was his girlfriend, drained him dry, and then he shot himself in the head in the parking lot of the club after she ditched him. I had to walk past his body to get to my car. That really fucked me up and I had to stop dancing there because every time I got out of my car to go in I'd relive walking past his body. I'm sure he had issues to begin with but I just felt this awful sadness that dancing could lead to something so dark.

    I don't know. It would be hard for a lot of us to make consistent money without the head games. Most of us do it. But I don't think most of us do it to the point where we'd destroy a customer's life. As I said earlier in this thread, they're adults who can make their own decisions, and I don't think most of the customers I've seen have legit addictions, but I while I certainly won't walk away from the money of those that do I can't say that I really like that aspect of being a dancer.

    I don't even know if that made any sense. I'm going to eat my nachos and go to bed now.

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    Wow. That was actually really refreshing in a weird sort of way. I am terrible at putting my thoughts into prose but I think you captured it.
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