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    Default Dissociation without drugs

    As many of us know, it's an unfortunate fact of the industry that the job is easier when you dissociate. When I first started, I had no problem leaving my body without the help of drugs. Then, it got harder and I had a stint of time when I drank way too much. I'm relatively sober now, but iqm finding it very difficult to dissociate these days while I'm grinding on some douchebag.

    Does anyone have any tips or strategies for how you dissociate without the use of drugs? Like a certain kind of meditation or psychological trick? I need to make $70,000 more before I can leave the industry.

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    Default Re: Dissociation without drugs

    For me personally when I dissociate I am useless at work. Having PTSD it's kinds something that happens a lot and if I don't pull myself out of it I can't focus.

    I would imagine if you read about meditation, like clearing your mind that would really help.

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    Default Re: Dissociation without drugs

    Um, do you want to actually *dissociate*, because I don't think that's what you're talking about. What I think of when you say 'dissociation' is more like 'derealization', which happens to me during panic attacks and is very scary and unpleasant.

    If you are talking about just not thinking about what you are doing... just don't think about it? That's all I can say. If I'm 'dissociating' as in not paying attention to what I'm doing, it's because I'm thinking about social plans or eating or whatnot; I'm definitely spaced out and not caring about the customer.

    If it is bothering you to the point you need to 'dissociate' and were drinking so heavily, I would strongly suggest you re-evaluate being in the industry that long. It sounds like you are only doing it to reach a lofty multi-year $$ goal and really dislike it, which is not healthy. I say this a lot, but no amount of cash is worth sanity.
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    I think you would do better trying hypnosis to help you attract wealthy customers who are also gentleman. Also improve assertiveness so when vulcher dancers try to challenge you cause they see you taking in dough you can easily put them in check.
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    Maybe this isn't the profession for you , and that's not me being catty or mean, it's not for the majority of women. If you are in that much mental,or emotional pain or disgust doing this job that is NOT healthy! For your mental well being or your body cause the drugs and alcohol use will probably get worse, it's very hard to go back to sober hustling after you've gotten used to being fucked up all the time and dancing itself becomes a trigger.
    You should not have to do that to be ok with being a dancer, maybe either really examine what it is bothering you so much and take a break, or try other jobs in the industry..? I understand that it's hard to give the money up especially if you are in a tricky situation but after awhile the misery isn't worth the money and you start hitting a wall earning wise anyways

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    The thing with this job is that you have to have a very positive mindset. I've done this job 12 years sober and never needed to dissociate at all. You can actually enjoy this job, but you have to have the mindset that you will only deal with customers who have a good vibe about them. Working sober is hard but I will tell you, my intuition is intact and it guides me to the right people. Pay attention to the energies of the guys you talk to. If you at all start getting drained or you have a bad feeling, walk away. Find customers who have a good vibe. Some guys have that "money" vibe, but if they are an asshole, they are not worth dealing with. Don't relax your personal boundaries, because that will chip away at your self esteem. When you are not at work, find ways to enrich yourself spiritually. Be out in nature, do yoga, go for a run, pray, or meditate. Use the Law of Attraction (in hustle Hut) to attract generous respectful gentlemen. They are out there! Take breaks in the dressing room, breathe deep and center yourself. Ask your angels to help you. Go to work with a positive mindset. For the most part my coworkers and I are positive and we attract fun customers who are cool and generous. The negative girls are always whining about how this guy was a dick, or that guy disrepected them, etc etc, and they never seem grateful for the money they make. At work you really have to focus on having a good attitude, and find customers who have a good vibe. It's that simple.

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    Just think of all of the money you're making! Sometimes when I reallllllly hate stripping and I swear I'm going to walk out right this second, I think about all of the money I made and I feel better. The dancing bull shit smells a whole lot better than minimum wage bull shit. Helps a lot when you're doing dances too.

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    I disassociate. I pray to spirits to enter my body, mostly sex spirits. I close my eyes and talk to them telepathically.. it works. you have to give them permission to enter you, when your operating on a highly sexual level it is hard for you not to make money in a sex based industry. Doing this makes the difference between a 100 dollar night and a 1000 dollar night
    Some people may not believe me or call this crazy.. but it works for me.

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    Default Re: Dissociation without drugs

    I used to think of the club as its own little world, separate from the "real world." For work purposes, this worked really well. I would immediately go into "work mode" from the lights, smells, and atmosphere of the club. However, this also sometimes backfired from 1) people I knew coming into the club and me literally being unable to recognize them for a second because they didn't belong "in that world" and then being angry that they were infiltrating my world and throwing me off, 2) needing a lengthy "coming down" period after work in which I could not handle talking to anyone because I was still "transitioning between worlds" and compartmentalizing, and 3) I sometimes still have trouble walking into a SC as a customer without being triggered into work mode and ruining the experience for me.

    But... in terms of being able to compartmentalize, "disassociate" from the "real world," and get into that work mode without drugs or drinking, it worked really well. This is why I really didn't talk to anyone at work, never made friends, never told anyone my real name, and didn't even really tell "work stories" to people outside the club (all anyone knew was where I worked, but stories only ever came up on this website). Being very "work is work and everything else is unrelated" helps to think of walking through those club doors as walking into another dimension, so to speak.

    I may have taken it to a creepily unhealthy level, but there is merit in keeping work at work and home at home, and not letting the two worlds mix so that you can separate them. Honestly, sometimes I wish I had taken more of that approach toward escorting so that I could just forget about it when I'm not in an appointment.
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