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    After a year and a half with what I thought was the love of my life, I got dumped. Three days before I move into a new house, a house that was supposed to be for us to have more space and privacy for our family. He took the car, it was his. I kept the lease on the house, it was mine. But I have to make $500 in less than ten days, I'm so depressed I keep going into crying jags, I'm worried about becoming too sad to function. I can't afford to fall apart because I'm a single mom and my six year old is counting on me. I'm without a car, about to be living on my own in a big house and I'm not making money at work because I guess people can pick up on my sadness. I can't help it, I can't seem to block it out and get into 'stripper mode' like I usually do. I really love this guy, I thought there was marriage at the end of the road. I literally never connected with another person like I did him and he decided it wasn't enough.
    What do you guys do to recover from a breakup when you have no choice but to go to work? I HAVE to make money and tbh I really don't want to have to rely on more extreme methods like self medicating with anti-anxiety meds or getting really drunk to be able to talk to people without looking upset.
    Any and all advice would be welcome.

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    I agree you don't want to be some pill popping robot however, Medication is not as extreme as you may think especially if it has low side effects and will help you function in work and life.

    I know the doctors here are so scared of prescribing anti anxiety meds because of high rate of dependence and abuse so if you went that route they'd probably prescribe anti depressants which improve mood and ease anxiety. But they take anywhere from a few days to a couple weeks to work.

    Perhaps Talk to a good therapist who can help you process your feelings / emotions /support you or do some meditation or yoga or anything self-care.

    Did this guy agree to help you with the house payment? Im not sure if there would be any legal recourse but he sounds shady and conveniently left right before the house payment due? And knowing your situation? Not a good man. Be glad to have seen his true colors come out before you got too deep. Now you can rebuild and with time your heart will heal.

    Try not to stress. Look at the situation as something you can handle. I mean thankfully you need five hundred and not say five thousand. And you have over a week and not immediate next day. Hustle your ass off at work. Sell some sh*t on Craigslist or have a garage sale. I bet you have a ton of stuff in your closest and garage you're not using that someone would buy. Ask friends and family for donations. And see if you can delay the due date on that five hundred.
    “Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”

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    I'm so sorry you're having to go through something so painful. It's really difficult to be upbeat and happy at work when it feels like your world is crumbling inside.

    I find that prayer and meditation helps. Also, take time to grieve your loss. Dont deny your feelings. Cry, write in a journal, let everything out until you have nothing left. Exercise and eat healthy, just take really good care of your self and your kid. Also, $500 in less than 10 days is definitely doable.

    Sometimes I'll just have a good cry before work, just to let my emotions out. I'll tell myself that it's time to take care of myself and my kid and nothing will get in the way of that. Then I head in and take care of business.

    And I agree with what what said above...be grateful that his true colors are coming out now. You heart will heal and you will get through this.

    As a last resort...I know last time I went through stuff, I got a prescription for medical marijuana and I'd get high before work as I don't drink alcohol. Probably not the best way to go about things, but it did help. At least MJ mellows me out and doesn't make me a train wreck like alcohol does.

    On a positive note... some bitches at work told customers that I had a boyfriend. Well, when I went back in there sad because of the breakup, cuties would ask me if I was ok and I'd tell them that my bf and I broke up and I've decided to come to work to cheer up and get my mind off things (don't go too into detail...you'll work yourself up. Just keep the explanation brief). I can't even tell you how much my money went up when word got out that I was single again!! You can turn this into a clever little hustle, but only use it if you can't get to your upbeat/ happy place, because we can't be all mopey at work either, you know?

    Remember that this too shall pass. You've got this, and you and your kid will be okay.

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