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    I have had a break due to moving and keep reading all the doom and gloom about SM and how things are generally. My internet isn't going to be Fiber till next week but yesterday hopped on AW for an hour just to see and did okay. Now Wednesday has always been terrible for me don't ask me why but it is. So for some stupid reason I log on this morning and waste hours of my life for freeloaders and not one show when I KNOW that its always the same.

    Does anyone else do this? Panicking and not doing what you know works is stupid. I could have made a few quid on text chat this morning instead of getting dressed up for nothing does my head in.

    I really need SM because I only work UK daytimes and AW isn't reliable for those sort of hours. I managed to log on to SM with shitty internet today and through the encoder and yes they were waste of times but the same as ever it didn't feel any quieter.

    Can we all have some positive thoughts about summer and send them my way? I've spent a fortune and need to make money in August! Sorry a bit self indulgent!

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    Are you new to sm? Once the British guys who like the things you offer find you then you will be ok, it's still a lot of work but i personally find I make more on sm daytime than aw. Aw for me now is just my regulars that come to say hello now and then

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    I love SM and was doing well with it after a slow start before having a few weeks off it just seem that Wednesday always hates me and always have. I am annoyed about the down time because I was building regs but never mind once next week comes and the internet is actually decent hopefully I can crack on. I normally do both sites in the day time and then i'm on MGF but that has pretty much died and trying to get a few PSO characters going just so that I can be logging on to all and hopefully maximizing my time. Its so annoying that I can't do nights but the kids are so unreliable I end up having to cut people off all the time which isn't a good thing for business at all.

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    My Wednesdays are normally good and I am only one hour ahead of your working daytime hours only on Streamate! Maybe its just self fulfilling prophecy!

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    Do you know what I bet it is! Saying that looking back over weeks and weeks its always pretty terrible for me so I have no idea what I am doing wrong there. Mondays are normally my best day but then maybe that's my enthusiasm! Reading all the stuff on here made me feel pretty defeated before I started I need to get the energy going. I am not sure how good my stream is right now either internet here is shocking till next week.

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    It's not always the same. I used to avoid Saturday eves because all the boys are out drinking, but I soon realised this was daft thinking. Some of my best shifts have ended up being Saturday nights x
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    SM is doom and gloom for who?! There are tons of positive thoughts all year around but it's all up to what you choose to read and feed into. I personally love the summer, just had my best highest earning month for 2016 yet in the SUMMER.

    Camming is so random because it may suck for some girls but awesome for others. Both are legit and valid.
    When you do things that you already know don't work for you is because you're so accustomed to familiarities even if they make you feel bad later. That's feeding your flesh in the moment but will sadden your spirit later on.
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    I used to work UK daytime hours on SM when I was living over there. I found the morning daytime hours (like 7 or 8am to noon) were the best for me personally. Also if you get a Skype number you can rock Niteflirt, I found UK daytime hours worked really well for me phone-sex wise on there. The biggest thing for daytime hours IMO is consistency. Guys want to wake and wank, or use their lunch time wisely so they tend to gravitate towards girls they can rely on.

    Moving always bums me out, so it's likely largely that as well. Shake it off, you'll get it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bootsie View Post
    I used to work UK daytime hours on SM when I was living over there. I found the morning daytime hours (like 7 or 8am to noon) were the best for me personally. Also if you get a Skype number you can rock Niteflirt, I found UK daytime hours worked really well for me phone-sex wise on there. The biggest thing for daytime hours IMO is consistency. Guys want to wake and wank, or use their lunch time wisely so they tend to gravitate towards girls they can rely on.

    Moving always bums me out, so it's likely largely that as well. Shake it off, you'll get it!
    I have got niteflirt going but all I get is endless adds and no one buying I need to look into that too and get things moving. I've just lost my get up and go and it needs a good kick up the backside!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Horny View Post
    I have got niteflirt going but all I get is endless adds and no one buying I need to look into that too and get things moving. I've just lost my get up and go and it needs a good kick up the backside!
    Niteflirt took me a while to get the hang of. When guys add you to their favourites, send them a saucy (cut and paste of course) message, maybe with a photo. Help keep yourself in their mind. The forums there have really good advice, and if you read through some of the posts there where flirts ask about ideas for listings, etc, you can really get some good help.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bootsie View Post
    I used to work UK daytime hours on SM when I was living over there. I found the morning daytime hours (like 7 or 8am to noon) were the best for me personally. Also if you get a Skype number you can rock Niteflirt, I found UK daytime hours worked really well for me phone-sex wise on there. The biggest thing for daytime hours IMO is consistency. Guys want to wake and wank, or use their lunch time wisely so they tend to gravitate towards girls they can rely on.

    Moving always bums me out, so it's likely largely that as well. Shake it off, you'll get it!
    You don't need a skype number for NF. Since about 3 years they accept UK numbers x
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    Are you doing enough to market yourself on NF? It's taking me time to get the hang of it as well. Utilize social media, blogging, listings, biddng, etc. The guys will come.



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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyCoco View Post
    Are you doing enough to market yourself on NF? It's taking me time to get the hang of it as well. Utilize social media, blogging, listings, biddng, etc. The guys will come.
    To be honest I've never done a thing! I have had a couple of random calls off just the listings alone and they are pretty good and took me a while. There is only one goody bag too. I'm a victim of too many eggs and none done very well. With me having time off i'm just hitting cam to try and get the money to start rolling and then when i've got some more time I can try and tweak these other things. Its really frustrating because every time I get it all working something seems to set me back but never mind i'll stop bitching and get cracking. I struggle to understand the NF bidding system that is something I need to focus on.

    I also do a text chat job which is very time consuming and doesn't pay huge money but I need it to pay the bills which is why I struggle to give enough time to everything else. I just need a few good shift and to get the regs back and will all be okay!

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    Op, you can go on daily for 5 days in a row and hear crickets one week, and another week you could make your whole week'so goal in under an hour. It happens to all of us at some point.

    The amazing thing is, you didn't waste your own time. You logged in and showed up which is what matters. You never know, you may have been added as a fav by a guy who plans on coming back and dropping mad cake. This is an investment. Just keep showing up, it will get better but be ready for the shit times. Maybe try split camming aka do cam and text to maximize your earnings.




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    Quote Originally Posted by kortneykay View Post
    Op, you can go on daily for 5 days in a row and hear crickets one week, and another week you could make your whole week'so goal in under an hour. It happens to all of us at some point.

    The amazing thing is, you didn't waste your own time. You logged in and showed up which is what matters. You never know, you may have been added as a fav by a guy who plans on coming back and dropping mad cake. This is an investment. Just keep showing up, it will get better but be ready for the shit times. Maybe try split camming aka do cam and text to maximize your earnings.
    Thank you! I'm going to see if I can get both laptops set up in my camming room. I find on SM though if i'm doing other things and not concentrating no one talks or is that in my head?

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    To be honest I've never done a thing! I have had a couple of random calls off just the listings alone and they are pretty good and took me a while. There is only one goody bag too. I'm a victim of too many eggs and none done very well. With me having time off i'm just hitting cam to try and get the money to start rolling and then when i've got some more time I can try and tweak these other things. Its really frustrating because every time I get it all working something seems to set me back but never mind i'll stop bitching and get cracking. I struggle to understand the NF bidding system that is something I need to focus on.

    I also do a text chat job which is very time consuming and doesn't pay huge money but I need it to pay the bills which is why I struggle to give enough time to everything else. I just need a few good shift and to get the regs back and will all be okay!
    No wonder why! It's important to market yourself on Niteflirt. It's not a big box site like Streamate where you can just log on and expect customers to come in. You have to market yourself. You have to do the work to get callers. Also, uploading a lot of content is important as well.

    You sound like me, though. Too many eggs, too many ideas, and not sure what to do. That's the problem that I'm having right now. Just think about three to four eggs you want to work and just start working on them, little by little. If the text chat job is not worth the money and effort, then kick it to the curve.

    Close your eyes, breathe, and focus on what you really want to do. Good luck!



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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyCoco View Post
    No wonder why! It's important to market yourself on Niteflirt. It's not a big box site like Streamate where you can just log on and expect customers to come in. You have to market yourself. You have to do the work to get callers. Also, uploading a lot of content is important as well.

    You sound like me, though. Too many eggs, too many ideas, and not sure what to do. That's the problem that I'm having right now. Just think about three to four eggs you want to work and just start working on them, little by little. If the text chat job is not worth the money and effort, then kick it to the curve.

    Close your eyes, breathe, and focus on what you really want to do. Good luck!
    That's just it im on everything badly but don't want to loose anything that could potentially come off! MGF is one I still do but then very occasionally it pays well but I need to streamline and get a grip! I'm in awe of all the ladies on top of everything I really am. Just sitting now uploading new pics on to SM & Dreamlover next job tomorrow is goody bags I've got the content I just find NF not that easy to use! So many excuses but I'm on it I need the $$$!

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