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    Default Building attention span...

    So I live really far from my club. 45 minutes with no traffic, 1.5 hours with it... and there's so much traffic here that there is a running joke about rush hour starting at noon and ending at 11:59 am... so yeah, it's usually the latter amount of time.
    I would make a lot more $$ if I could put in the same hours most other 'only job' dancers do... but I cannot bring myself to drive out there 4 days a week. Even 3 days feels taxing sometimes. I feel like I am driving so far and not staying long enough + paying the house fees (that increased $25 this year), so that it's not 'worth it' unless I stay longer. I feel this way regardless of how much $$ I walk out with, like I need to milk the drive/house fee as much as possible.

    Right now I work 10 shifts a month at 5 hours a piece. I want to increase the length of them a bit; next month I am trying 6 hour shifts.

    Problem: How do you keep from getting bored? This job is not exactly mentally stimulating a lot of the time... if I have a few interesting or bigger spending customers it's fine, but when it's all broke customers that have nothing to say, and that repetitive pattern of "2 songs of small talk --> 2-3 floor dances", I am usually starting to look at the clock and forcing myself to stay at about 2 hours in.

    I have tried working a 'double' 8 hour shift and taking a dinner break halfway through, but I tend to get entirely out of work mode then. If I don't take a break though, I can feel my brain start to short circuit from boredom + drained energy (the boring customers are like energy vampires!)
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    I know this is probably not what you want to hear but can you go to a different club? I'm in a similar situation (but my drive is only 45 min, yet I drive there 5 days a week) and get tired really easily of the same convo 'where are you from?' bla bla bla

    I find that if I'm at the same club too much/too long I go crazy, so changing clubs or rotating between 2 could help.

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    Default Re: Building attention span...

    I'm dealing with the same issue as Selina M and I'm at a different club for the month but still feeling bored and unmotivated.... wondering if I'm burnt out

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    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post
    Problem: How do you keep from getting bored?
    I keep ebooks on my phone. I take small breaks in between going on the floor to talk to customers and then going back to my regular hiding spot to read. I have to take small breaks like that in real life too in between tasks. I also use a noise cancellation/music while I read to drown out dressing room noise.

    I can see this being a problem in small clubs or in clubs where the management shoos girls out of the dressing room.

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    My girls and I joke that we should just play a tape recorder to the customers since we literally have the same conversation every 10 minutes LMAO.
    Honestly, even if you moved closer to the club, do you think that would make a difference? I feel like you're burned out, bad and just need a really good break. Is that feasible?

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    ^ I think it is 90% the drive and traffic. I went through this last year. I switched to a club that was half as far, with no traffic ever, and while I hated the atmosphere and staff I still ended up working much more just because it wasn't a huge 'project' to get to work. I left because the money was way too inconsistent.

    Burnout... When people say 'burnout' I think of when girls get all Office Space Milton, "I'm gonna burn the building down".
    I like the club. I like the staff. I like the better customers I get. I don't really register most of the bad customers (like, I usually forget about them in 5 minutes). I probably am complaining about them more because it's summer and there's not many good guys in between the shitty ones. But I don't think it's burnout from being a stripper per se. I drive this far at all because of all those positives, but it is getting to me.

    Crystalize, I was thinking about working in the dive nearby once a week just for the hell of it. It's definitely not known for attractive girls but I do see some nice cars in the customer lot pretty often... Maybe I could build up a few regulars that come in one day a week and cut my home club down to 6 shifts instead of 10?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post
    ^ I think it is 90% the drive and traffic. I went through this last year. I switched to a club that was half as far, with no traffic ever, and while I hated the atmosphere and staff I still ended up working much more just because it wasn't a huge 'project' to get to work.
    I can relate, which is a huge reason why I've taken off dancing this summer. Aside from it being slower, I'm bored of the clubs nearby and there are so many other clubs out there I want to try, but the idea of sitting in traffic to get to them seems soul crushing. A potential 2 hour trip just to get to a club 20-30 miles away. I never tried audiobooks, but maybe I should and see if it kind of helps when I'm forced to sit in traffic.

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    I am also taking off a lot of this summer. Summer can make the most gun-ho stripper burnt out!!

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    I also have a long commute (30-45 minutes in no traffic) and I had to totally reframe the way I saw my time in my car. Instead of it being a boring burden, the drive to and from work is ME TIME. I dont have to talk to anyone and I get to relax and calm down enjoy my podcasts.


    I swear, podcasts changed my whole commute! Its best if its a serialized one so that every day i'm excited for the next episode (as opposed to podcasts that have different themes/stories each episode and can be listened to out of order). My favorite are podcasts where people talk about TV episodes in depth, I'm listening to Gilmore Guys right now (they talk about the show Gilmore Girls). I watch an episode before work and listen to the podcast on the drive. Its a great little routine that gets me pumped for work and relaxes me on the way home. I love the drive now! I'm watching a podcast about Pretty Little Liars when GG is over
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    That is a good idea. There are some radio shows I get really engaged to if I can catch them, problem is I don't catch them at the right times. I like listening to documentaries and comedies while I'm doing house work, this also might help with sitting in traffic too.

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    You should download some finance, law of attraction, self-help audio books that you can listen to in the car.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post
    ^ I think it is 90% the drive and traffic. I went through this last year. I switched to a club that was half as far, with no traffic ever, and while I hated the atmosphere and staff I still ended up working much more just because it wasn't a huge 'project' to get to work. I left because the money was way too inconsistent.

    Burnout... When people say 'burnout' I think of when girls get all Office Space Milton, "I'm gonna burn the building down".
    I like the club. I like the staff. I like the better customers I get. I don't really register most of the bad customers (like, I usually forget about them in 5 minutes). I probably am complaining about them more because it's summer and there's not many good guys in between the shitty ones. But I don't think it's burnout from being a stripper per se. I drive this far at all because of all those positives, but it is getting to me.

    Crystalize, I was thinking about working in the dive nearby once a week just for the hell of it. It's definitely not known for attractive girls but I do see some nice cars in the customer lot pretty often... Maybe I could build up a few regulars that come in one day a week and cut my home club down to 6 shifts instead of 10?
    do it! i like clubs with low competition. And it will help keep things interesting. Sometimes it can be good being the new girl for a while, too.

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