Written with regards to generic freelance work, but it applies to sw in general as well.
http://www.blogherald.com/2016/07/29...se-freelancer/



Written with regards to generic freelance work, but it applies to sw in general as well.
http://www.blogherald.com/2016/07/29...se-freelancer/
Yes!
And one thing that was touched on a little, but not directly mentioned, is: Do not give "special discounts" to repeat customers/clients. You might think you're building goodwill, but chances are, you'll end up losing them as a customer.
Every single time I have given someone, who was previously seeing me a lot, even the slightest discount because "they would be able to keep seeing me more if it cost a little less," they have gone from good regular to seeing me maybe 1 or 2 more times before disappearing off the face of the planet. Any time a regular has asked for a discount and I've said no, sorry? They keep seeing me. Customers/clients are paying you good money because you're worth it! Don't degrade that view of you by giving a discount, even as a "nice gesture," even if they ask. They won't appreciate it - They'll stop respecting you.
Another real-world example: when I lived with roommates who threw parties every weekend, they always "claimed" they were going to charge people for alcohol, but they constantly let the majority of people slip through the cracks. When I called them on it, they argued that they were building "rapport" and those people would be more likely to come back. Sure, they came back.... And pitched a fit if you tried to charge them after letting them in the first time for free. I threw only a few parties all on my own in my time there, but I was adamant that everyone who was getting alcohol coughed up money the very first time. After that? Everyone still came back to my parties, but even when I had a time where I was going to be generous and foot the bill, I still had people throwing their money at me and insisting they pay - because they had been trained the first time that shit wasn't free.
Cheap begets cheap. People who learn to respect your worth from the get-go are going to stick around and pay your prices regardless.
Don't try to win over the haters. You are not the Jerk Whisperer.
Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
Great thread and article! One of the biggest mistakes I made when I started was not believing that I was worth it. I knew I was pretty, but I would purposely avoid certain customers because I felt they wouldn't accept a dance. And forget about selling VIP. So I would definitely add to the list to always believe that you are worth! Don't sell yourself short or feel you don't deserve as much!



Wow, spot on. I've learned this the hard way a couple times. lol..n sometimes they don't want to pay bc they KNOW you're not a cheapy but oh well, keep it movin!
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Hands down, absolutely. I didn't actually think thousand+ dollar nights were a regular thing unless you were somewhere like nyc or gave extras. Sure they happened sometimes to some girls, but anytime anyone in the dressing room acted like they were the norm I just kinda rolled my eyes in my head like "ah huh. Sure. #stripperlegends." Until a couple dancers I actually trust, who're super down to earth, realistic, business focused, no bs, no drama, take the whole gig seriously, treat it like a professional career, etc. etc. etc. seemed genuinely surprised I hadn't had one yet. We talked about selling VIPs, and literally overnight I started pulling four digits. I realized I had been assuming the "no" on VIP sales before, to the point I would actively talk myself out of money by focusing on selling individual dances... Even when customers asked about VIP. I thought I was being true to my value, but hind sight is 20/20.
Seriously, I can not stress enough the importance of assuming the yes, even when you're 100% sure it'll be a no. Even if most of the time it is a no, there's still the opportunity then for those otherwise unexpected "yes"s.





Fantastic article...it rings so true to any part of adult work.
The one thing I have to add, mostly from a camming perspective is, don't do it, because the work is just as hard, whether your price is high or low, but you will HATE yourself for doing the same amount of work and getting paid less because of a decision you made. Keep your rates high, this job is hard and the difficulty doesn't decrease just because your prices do. Also, inflation is a real thing. You need to make sure that your salary enables you to survive when the market prices of things change, so do not compromise, ever.
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