I apologize in advance if this post is not appropriate for this site and completely understand if this is not the place for it.
I could probably write an entire novel of details but I'll try to keep this short. My girlfriend started stripping a few months ago as a way to get herself in a financially stable place. I support her decision to provide for herself entirely but it's been a very confusing and taxing time for me. I know its all fantasy there and she has expressed that it is simply a job and that she "shuts off" while there in order to do what she has to do. It's just a job. The confusion I am feeling is all on me, not her.
It's only been a few months though and I'm truly making progress on how I feel about the situation. I believe in her and am so proud that she would have the guts to make a choice that she knows would be viewed as taboo by most, including her family and friends. She kicks ass.
The question here though is, do you think some of the people she meets there could make good friends for her even if the friendship was sparked through a sex-industry job such as stripping? She has expressed to me that sometimes she meets some cool people there and that she could see herself having a strictly platonic relationship with them. I have been apprehensive of this idea because I feel that the sexual nature of a place like a strip club would cast an inherently sexual nature over the friendship right from the start. It's not her I'm worried about, I trust her completely. It's the intentions of the people she is meeting there that I don't trust. I fear most for her physical safety and that there are so many men out there who use friendship as a way of establishing what they "deserve" or what they are "owed" from a woman, regardless of how they met. She has explained that she simply feels lonely after deciding her previous group of friends were not good for her, that she wants more friends in her life and that she doesn't have enough time or energy outside of her two jobs to make that happen.
She says she understands that the idea probably makes me uncomfortable and that she won't make any decisions without us coming to an agreement, but I can tell she resents me for it a bit since it has come up in some recent disagreements. I don't at all get to decide who she begins a friendship with, I'm just feeling conflicted. I feel like she is still very new to this and may not have the experience required to recognize the intentions of some of these people.
So yeah, that's where I'm at. Any advice or opinions would be amazing. I'm not posting this to "hear what I want to hear". Input from people within the industry would be really valuable to me right now.


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