Just curious. How much do you spend on dating (individual date itself, weekly, monthly)?
For the first date, do you take your date out for dinner, lunch, coffee, or drinks?
Just curious. How much do you spend on dating (individual date itself, weekly, monthly)?
For the first date, do you take your date out for dinner, lunch, coffee, or drinks?
“Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”

Guessing you want guys input, so here goes:
It depends on many things, but I consider a dinner and cocktails or wine date to be the perfect way to start a relationship. Just dinner, with no movie afterwards so no rush. I like to go to a restaurant which takes reservations, a little pricy but not over the top, probably $250 or so. It should be a restaurant that locals know of, but conventioneers do not. Reserving a special table and having flowers delivered ahead of time is always a nice touch, and adds about $50. She should be wearing a nice dress and heels, have her hair and nails done, and be charming for two or three unrushed hours. This doesn't count things like valet parking, getting your suit cleaned, etc.
Lunch dates are more reserved for colleagues at work. Coffee or drinks to me always implies I am testing the waters before making a commitment. If I was a woman, I would want a man to start strong instead of timidly, and that's what I do. Should be absolutely no pressure for sex. If it happens, it happens, but in general the more you push the less likely it will happen. Put yourself in their place and see how you would feel.

Date spending varies pending stage we're in, work life, season, etc. First date too, depending on how we met, but usually prefer something casual such as coffee, ice cream, or something active.


Assuming you are looking for male responses...
First date is pretty casual. Meet some place, I like hole in the wall places with a live band that isn't too loud. If it is nice weather preferably a patio or veranda. I'll usually let her pay her own bill here.
Second date onwards, meet the animals (dogs and horse) and go do something active. Usually this is pretty cheap but fun, so money if any is spent is not an issue.
Several dates in, surprise her with something semi-expensive like an NFL game, day trip to some place awesome or a killer dinner at a great restaurant. This is obviously where I would spend the $$ to do something nice.
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These are all great ideas, so I see the variations.
Looking for responses from males or females. I assume mostly men are still paying for dates especially in the beginning. But heck if the women like paying and want to chime in that's cool too.
I've actually paid for dates just to show the guy I wasn't a complete gold digger lol. I day maybe for every 5 dates or so I'd pay for 1. I like the upscale restaurants so I'd pay for these places. I suck at creative dates it's the usual dinner or movies.
“Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”

I think paying for dates is mostly generational. I was raising during the Leave it to Beaver years and Donna Reed Show. It is unheard of for a woman to pay for a date, ever. But as you head towards younger ages, it is common practice. I can see both sides.
At my prom night, I barely had enough money for corsage and dinner, but my date followed my lead and ordered chicken, the least expensive thing on the menu at Trader Vic's at 20 Cosmo Place in San Francisco. Of course, she had to buy a new dress and shoes, get her hair and nails done, etc.
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